8 Ways to be UBER Charismatic
What did JFK, Marilyn Monroe and Hitler all have in common?
They were all renowned charismatics that lit up every room they entered.
You’ve most likely met one of these kinds before. The guy/girl at the party. They possess some strange quality that causes them to be liked by everyone and constantly at the center of attention. Their eyes and the way they carry themselves convey power and magnetism and you can’t quite figure out why.
Robert Greene studied these people and detailed the methods one can use to become a charismatic in his book “The Art of Seduction.” He outlines the 10 characteristics that make up ‘charisma’, effectively quantifying a talent you might think people are simply born with. Here are the 8 of them:
Purpose
Pick a cause, a goal, a vision and live it. People long to have a cause to rally around — something to believe in. You need to believe in it so strongly for that it animates your every gesture. Be self-assured in every scenario. Show that you don’t share the doubts the plague most people. Act as if you know where you are going, even if you aren’t 100% sure.
Mystery
Become mysterious (like Bruce Wayne) by being unpredictable. Don’t hesitate to act on emotional whims as you will only add to your unpredictability. Always leave something about yourself for people to guess at, never fully revealing your true intentions.
Saintliness
Think Gandhi. Live simply. Don’t be swayed by the ebb and flow of life. You are above being affected by the little challenges in life. Saints live their ideas without caring about the consequences.
Eloquence
Speak slowly and hypnotically, with random pauses if needed. Try to be the exact opposite of panicky. If someone calls your name, turn your head slowly. Slow everything down until your every action is riddled with poise.
Theatricality
Be larger than life. Act as if the world is your stage and all eyes are on you 24/7. Stay calm and collected while radiating self-assurance.
Danger/Spontaneity
Radiate dangerous, rebellious sexuality. Be spontaneous. Hold no agendas and be open to anything. Realize that death is inevitable and act as though you look forward to the experience. Be seen taking risks for the good of others. Be brazen in your actions (Lenin walked the streets after receiving death threats). If you show the slightest sign of cowardice or timidity, you’re done for.
Vulnerability
Have a soft side and love your followers. Don’t be too good for them. Enjoy being loved by them and love them back. Don’t seem manipulative or needy. Imagine the public as one person whom you want to seduce.
Magnetism
Develop a piercing gaze. Look in the mirror and play around with different looks until you find one that is powerful. Practice, practice, practice until the gaze is second-nature. When you meet people, look deep into their eyes while you shake their hand. Never look away first. Remember that your eyes can give you away more easily than anything else.
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Thedude said on 12.08.2010
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Kiesha Jean said on 12.09.2010
Fuck you, I love it – I’m commenting! LOL
Brady Allen Young said on 12.09.2010
Yeah, so it is almost 6 A.M. and campus life begins at 7, so I’ll just have to do my socializing here. I like to think of myself as a charismatic person, but I certainly am no master. However, I know people who are and this one girl (not using sex appeal) gets pretty much anything she wants! Charismatic personalites are incredibly addictive; people want to be around these people. It’s bitchin.
In conclusion, become the drug people will bleed through the nose for.
Your Name said on 12.15.2010
i like this…especially the last part…even tho i didnt listen
Tea-Oh said on 12.22.2010
This is somewhat self-contradicting. The whole part about Saintliness and not letting the ebb and flow of life sway you, while in Dangerous/Spontaneous it says be open to anything…I dunno just figured that didn’t make much sense. But I understand the concept. I might rock a couple of these tips.
rosemarie said on 03.11.2011
LIFE IS ABOUT KEEPING AN OPEN MIND TO EVERYTHING WE READ, HEAR, SEE, EXPERIENCE. KEEP WHAT MAKES SENSE AND DISGARD WHAT DOESN’T. DON’T BE CONTRARY JUST FOR THE SAKE OF IT.
LOVED THE INFORMATION…..
Steven Hourihan said on 03.28.2011
After the first line, what I got from this is ‘how to be more like Hitler’.
Cameron Ray said on 04.27.2011
Robert Greene has some great books out there. Have you read his other stuff as well?
SomewhatRelative said on 07.25.2011
I know a few people who fit the bill. One is awesome and is a good friend of mine. Another turned out to be a terrible person and ended up hurting me in many ways. Make sure you learn these people’s background. Be just as powerful as they are ;).
Ben Winters said on 01.21.2012
Love this stuff! Gotta stay positive! might put this on my website really like it!
Ben Winters
CEO http://WWW.TeachMeAwesome.com
(Teaching you awesome.. 1 day at a time)
Sander Ottens said on 03.01.2012
It’s like a pick-up artist! I recognise every of the 8 ways in pick up artist masters, being charismatic can be very awesome, but also a burden I think.