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Don’t Fight Reality (You Always Lose)

Don’t Fight Reality (You Always Lose)

When something bad happens to you, what is your automatic reaction? If you are normal, your answer is to react with anger or sadness along with some complaint.

However, if you are on this site, reading this article, chances are you are not normal, nor do you want to be normal.

Rise Above Normality:

When life gives you lemons, realize that lemons were exactly what you needed. By that, I mean:

When something happens to you, it is the best possible thing that could happen to you.

That means no complaining, no anger, no sorrow. Just acceptance.

Here is the reasoning:

1) There is absolutely no point in fighting against reality because you will always lose. If you are fired from your job, complaining about it will only bring your more misery. It will not get you your job back. It will not make you feel better. In fact, it will only prolong the unhappiness you feel about getting fired because you will be focusing on being unhappy! So don’t argue against your reality. It’s like asserting that the sky is pink, not blue. It most definitely IS blue! Trying to say that it is pink will get you no where.

To put it simply, “Shit happens.” No matter how careful you are in life, ‘negative’ events are going to come up inevitably. So when they do, try to just accept them instead of complaining and being adversely affected by them. Instead, try #2 below…

2) When you believe everything that happens to you is the best possible thing to happen to you, nothing bad will ever happen to you! It’s just that simple. When you are fired from your job, assume that there is some greater good that is going to come out of you losing your job.

After you have that assumption down, look for that greater good. Try and figure out why your firing was the best possible thing to happen to you. If you search for the good, you WILL find it, guaranteed. This will not only help you to quickly get over being fired, it will also point you in the direction that should go towards in your newly job-less state.

Questions you should be asking yourself:

— What can I do now that I couldn’t do when I had the job?

— What negative things do I no longer have to deal with?

— What did this experience teach me? What did I gain?

By answering these questions, you are finding positive outcomes of a seemingly negative event. Doesn’t that sound like a better idea than complaining and writhing in your own misery like normal people do? I thought so…

3) When you get into this habit for looking for the good in every situation, you’ll find that nothing can get you down. Your overall happiness will go through the roof because essentially nothing negative ever happens to you. When you don’t get into that college or your significant other breaks it off or the movie you wanted to see is sold out, you will see only opportunity, not misfortune.

Another phrase for this kind of lifestyle is “Going with the flow.”

Once you start going with the flow instead of fighting against it, you will also find that the flow has a course. By that, I mean that when you work with the flow, when you embrace it, you will discover that you will start to flow in a good direction. Great things will start happening in your life. The universe has a flow! It is very much alive and conscious of you. Those of you who are religious can liken this statement to god having a plan for your life. If you fight against said plan, you will encounter hardship. Go with the plan and events that can normally only be regarded as serendipity will spring up everywhere.

Some call this the law of attraction, some call it god, others call it universal flow. Whatever you want to call it, this effect is very real. Believe that everything that happens in your life is the best possible thing to happen to you and experience it for yourself.

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13 thoughts about Don’t Fight Reality (You Always Lose)

  1. Stan said on 08.12.2009

    what if you get arrested?

    • Jordan said on 08.12.2009

      1) You probably have not been “going with the flow.” The flow of the Universe does not tend to take people into jail.
      2) Even if you are, you might as well make the best of it. Look at prison as the “best possible thing that could have happened to you.” Maybe you’ll meet the love of your life or your mentor there. Maybe you’ll be inspired by an occurrence there that allows you to do great things when you get out. There is always good to be had in every situation.

      - Jordan

    • Taylor said on 08.26.2010

      you make new friends.

  2. Silvia said on 05.09.2010

    Great reading! Thx, this inspire me a lot!

  3. V said on 05.14.2010

    Go with the flow, everything happens for a reason and if you have a positive outlook of it everything that happens to you whether good or bad it will happen for the sake of your own good, if it doesn’t happen for your own good u’v got some bad karma behind you buddy if you have bad karma u need to get rid of it first :)

  4. Umair said on 08.05.2010

    Another great article. I feel somehow destined to read this one especially. I chipped my front tooth in half just this last Saturday at the edge of a pool. I have been to the Dentist three times this week to do a root canal on the tooth and put a temporary crown in place of it. I get the permanent crown in three weeks. This whole process is costing me $1000.
    I have been sulking since the incident, but your article reminded me that whatever happens to me is the best possible outcome. I now have a story to tell and some good may come from this some day. Thank you.

  5. Great post! Got me thinking.

  6. I can’t agree more. I fell down the stairs two days ago and strained (or sprained? I don’t know the difference) my ankle and now I have to wear a cast for weeks. My first reaction was laughing (I didn’t think it was serious), then I got home from the emergency room and realized how hard it was to get from point “A” to point “B” so I cried. An few hours later I got crutches and it was hard for a while learning to use them, but I was feeling much better the next day and learned that it wasn’t so hard. So I convinced myself that this is what I needed and this is just another experience in my life. I simply accepted it.
    It did happen at the worst time possible (I just got the life-changing news/hope and fell down the stairs minutes later). but, new experience = good thing, right?

  7. Nicole said on 11.28.2010

    That sounds like Candide and The Alchemist with a sprinkle of no-nonsense determination.

  8. Joel said on 11.14.2011

    Thank you for all of this positive energy. I am going through a serious legal issue right now and I cannot tell you how much it helps to have Faith and remain positive. Surround yourself with positive people!!

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