A letter to a friend

You sound sexually frustrated.

No one ever wants to hear that they are the ones doing something wrong. That it is their fault. That they are the culprit. everyone wants to be the victim. everyone wants to be right.

I wish that more people could come to terms with that fact. It would open up so much more growth in the world. And the worst part is, no one can help them out. They have to do it themselves, but if they never see that they are the problem, they will never get better.

@manimal, “Poor me boo hoo! What did I do to deserve this? Why didn’t you help me?” some people need a slap in the face. I went on an anxiety chat room to offer some help to people since I’ve pretty much overcome my anxiety In all areas but a few. The responses were exactly like this. The people were acting like children because the answer to their problems was too simple and straight forward to handle. They even started playing the age game, so sad.

@manimal,

–No, I’m not here to ask for advice on how to deal with it or anything like that. It’s actually about my reply to it–

so basically, you just wanted everyone to see what you said to him, right? so everyone could know how -good- you got him? interesting….

@manimal,

“I wasn’t smashing the guy, just slapping some truth into him, because he fucking needed it.”

mind boggling, simply mind boggling

“Again with these assumptions, and again reality says otherwise.”

lol, simply bc you can bully someone into submission does not mean that that method is the one you should use

@manimal,

Realizing how egotistical all of us can be, I understand you’re urge to share this as a form of displaying your merit, as a means of shaming your friend and others like him, and as basis for intelligent discussion on valuable topics.

However, I’d like to know what it is that you do, how it is that you came to do this, and what good does it serve? True, your friends lazy stoner ways of passing the blame as often as the joint may be a common nuisance in society, but are you offering something tangible to the populace? If so, what drives you now, and what drove you to the ‘now’? I’d like to know more about Manimal and what makes him so hell-bent on lecturing everyone about responsibility on a regular basis.

I do believe work reflects gain, therefore hard work is a good policy, but not necessary if you don’t care to receive much. Maybe at one point in his life he was content with his work/slack ratio but perhaps he’s let it slip too far in recent years? I’ve been the diligent worker-bee, and I’ve been the lazy stoner, and everything in between, but I know the difference and the consequences of both extremes. Work too hard and you become detached from the luxuries and begin to despise your efforts: miserable. Don’t work enough or not at all and you become listless, careless, and without luxury: miserable. Find a happy medium and perhaps you find peace; you may not be the richest or the most powerful or even free, but neither are you enslaved, downtrodden, or without gain.

Blaming others unfoundedly is downright wrong, yes, but blame does hold its place. You blame the cook for overcooking you steak and ruining your meal, you blame your parents for beating you and making you an aggressive person, you blame the store whose unseen spilt liquid you slipped in and broke your leg, etc. But of course, blaming someone for things they’ve had no direct contact with is absurd.

Being receptive to help… hmm. How receptive to help were you when first venturing into the world of whatever it is you do? How receptive were others for that matter? Not everyone needs help, but some people think they do and some don’t, or some want it and some don’t. Some people think they need it, but don’t, while others do need it, but don’t think they do. Plenty of people make their living, some quite successfully, without any assistance whatsoever. Others may owe alot of “Thank you”s.

I don’t see how apologies are worthless. They’ve been responsible for dissolving feuds and wars, they bring friends and family back together, and they are a means of displaying humanity. Humanity in that if we feel regret, and we display this regret, those that witness it can relate, as everyone has experienced regret, then forgiveness can be found though not always is it found. “I’m sorry” is just as important in this world as “Thank you” and “Fuck you” are.

And finally we come back to responsibility. What’s past that you are responsible for? What good, and what bad? What future responsibilities do you hold? Personally, I’m responsible for: theft, fraud, death, hatred, parents disowning their child, the financial hardship of others, the emotional hardship of others, giving/sharing, restitution, apologies and forgiveness, love, acceptance, regret, prosperity, happiness, self-restraint, self-respect, empowerment, my fiancee, my dog, bills, schooling, careers, my life and the experiences I share with everyone I encounter, and how the experiences affect myself and those others. I decided to be vague so as not to drag on very much. The good and bad of past and present are heavy burdens to bear, yet we all go about our days without noticing how many experiences we share and how much influence we truly have. When you begin compiling all of it, it becomes a monument to who you are, and whether your statue is hideous and deformed, or brilliant and powerful, is all up to you.

There is no past,
There is no future,
There is only the now and the action you take to shape each now.

@manimal,

i am not really concerned with what you desire in a companion to be honest, of course what you would want in a companion is what you do, of course, how does this lend to the argument at all other than to cast more –illusions–?

@manimal,

”However I hold no contempt for people, especially not my friends. I didn’t rip at the dude, seriously where do you get all this shit? I just showed him how the “bad things” in his life were just results of HIS CHOICES.”

(Tine): mind boggling, simply mind boggling

sry for lying man, i won’t comment anymore now, dang, just realized i said that earlier as soon as i sent that last Martin Luthor King quote and the question i asked you that you answered incorrectly earlier, you words did show contempt, you were mad because he attacked you, you then attacked him in return and cut him in every way possible, ”in every way possible”, it looks pretty ignorant to stand by and say those were for his benefit,

(( — those words were for your benefit. –))

it looks pretty ignorant to stand by and say you hold him no contempt, your unnecessary words reveal the truth here, there is nothing but contempt in them, there is no need to treat a friend that way, for you to say otherwise…. well, i don’t want to overuse the ‘i’ word, so i will imply it.

@manimal, Good letter, but do you think he will be wise enough to understand what you are saying? I mean, if all the things you are sarcastically sorry for are true, then it seems your friend is very ignorant and I highly doubt that the receiver of this letter will get it with then intentions that the sender sent it with.

Anyway, I do not know if this is a reflection of society as it is only now, or a reflection of how we humans are, and I reckon it is the latter.

Furthermore, would you think you would have a similar/same approach if you would be confronted with this situation? I mean, not only due to the fact that you have less time to think about what you are going to say, while in a letter you can rewrite your words etc., but also the fact that writing these kind of things is easier than actually saying them in person.