Accomplishing Individuality

2 years, 2 months ago

Throughout the expansion of my self-awareness and consciousness, I have been trying to answer the same, difficult, ambiguous question: “who am I?” I have been trying to trace myself back to the kind of person I was when I was little, in elementary school, in high school, and now, and determining when I feel most myself, what characteristics have prevailed throughout my life, and when I am happiest in order to try to be fully aware of my true self; the self that is unhindered by my friends, family, and surroundings.

I’m curious to know how you accomplish individuality and awareness of your true self…
When are you truly yourself and how do you become aware of your TRUE self?
How can we resist becoming a mix of the people that surround us and losing sight of the person we used to be? Is this impossible?

December 14, 2012 at 5:39 pm

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Profile photo of Taylor Taylor (@taysand) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

Deep, deep meditation. ;)

Profile photo of dylan dylan (@dylmill) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

Stop looking for your true self. You cannot find it by looking for it. Your true self is simply who you are at this very moment, when seen from the inside out, rather than your ego/I seeing from outside in.

You are not necessarily always your true self when you are at your happiest. I would think that trying to figure out who you are by looking at who you were would just further skew your image of yourself. Whatever characteristics have prevailed through your life are not “you,” but rather traits you picked up by “you” to get through various phases of your life.

Awareness of your true self comes merely by observing how you (the ego/I) act and respond to whatever happens through you. “You” ARE a mix of the people around you. It is only when your ego (you/I) loses the awareness of itself that you can see your “true” self. Atleast this is how it has been for me.

Profile photo of dylan dylan (@dylmill) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

And your true “self” is not really a “self” at all. You can only have a “self” when you are not who/what you are at your very core. If you are aware of a “self,” you are not YOU, instead you are whatever the self is. Am I making sense?

Profile photo of Allie Allie (@alliesull) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@dylmill, This all makes sence. Yet, I feel like there are two sides to every person. There is the me that remains constant no matter who I am around and what point in my life i find myself in. Then, there is the me that changes to acclimate to whoever I am around. I have personality traits that I have carried around my whole life as if they truly are part of me and I was born with them. Conversely, I have found myself being a completely different person at times in my life, a person that wasn’t true to myself. You know how you can look back on a time in your life and just remember if you were being “true to yourself?” That is what I am looking for. You are right, maybe I shouldnt be looking. But like I said I am trying to expand my self consciousness. If I didn’t try to understand my true self, I wouldnt be aware of all the untrue traits I have picked up from outside influences that I subconsciously carry although once I become conscious of them I wish to no longer carry them.

Profile photo of Nick Nick (@splashartist) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

Be as you are when you are where you are how you are in the moment as fully as possible. When all else falls besides the moment crumbles around you then you will find what you seek. To find the self we must stop seeking and pay attention.

Profile photo of dylan dylan (@dylmill) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@alliesull, I see what you’re saying. I have found that being “true to yourself” is based entirely on feeling. Although you can logically deduce what would be best for you, it originates from your philosophical heart. I have found that every single situation I “follow my heart” in, always works out better than I could have ever made it myself. Therefore, I have decided to always listen to this heart. I just live my life, and sometimes I feel strongly about something and words/actions just come out. I just let them flow, and it all works out perfectly. It’s really fuckin cool. As to how to find this heart and increasing your awareness, I have seen that it is merely a result of being quiet and observing (thoughts, actions, behaviors etc) and letting go of them, being separate from them. This is rather than being attached to your thoughts (for example) and under their influence/control. This way, instead of being a victim to all your thoughts, you can just watch them and choose which ones you want to act on.

Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

You can’t find yourself, there is no real you to find. The only self you can find in the past is just a temporary form, defined not by you but by society and other individuals, as well as your temporary values of that time.
You cannot find yourself in the past, the past does not define you.

You are only here and now, whatever “you” was back then is not you. Whatever you will become is not you either, because you are temporary, you only exist for a moment. You are not the same person as you were before reading THIS word.

You are a malleable ego, pure potential.
You are not a statue, you are wet clay. Your life is not a painting at an exhibit, it’s a canvas and some paint.
And there is only artist that can shape those things. Do you know who that is?

It’s you.

Make it a masterpiece.
That’s individuality.

Being defined by the past or by situational factors is not individuality, in fact it is the direct opposite.

Be who you wanna be.
Do what you wanna do.
Have what you wanna have.
Fuck what other people want you to be, do, or have.

Live YOUR life. Do what YOU want. Right away, take some fucking action. That’s what defines you.

THAT is individuality.

“I’m curious to know how you accomplish individuality and awareness of your true self…”

Introspection, and TAKING LOTS OF ACTION. I’ve achieved most of what I set out for, I’m living the dream. That’s what defines me: my values, my actions, and the results they bring is all me, that’s what I am.

“When are you truly yourself and how do you become aware of your TRUE self?”

I am always myself, I am always genuine. To be your truest self, just take action, don’t stifle yourself. You know when you have that desire to do something, and then some voice inside your head tells you not to do it, then you get bored or nervous or sad or whatever, that’s all being untrue to yourself.
Because those deep desires are your truest self, your genuine being, and the cowardly negatron voice is that bitchy part of you that isn’t really you. It’s a trace of an old temporary you that’s gone, and you must rid yourself of this bitch negatron voice.

And you do that by taking consistent action, shaping your current self, to fit your current values and deepest desires.

“How can we resist becoming a mix of the people that surround us and losing sight of the person we used to be? Is this impossible?”

Haha no it’s not impossible, it’s as simple as it gets. You CHOOSE it.
Nobody and nothing can ever make you do or feel something, that only happens if you LET it. People and other things only influence you as much as you let them. As much as you order yourself to be influenced. If you order yourself to not be influenced you won’t, but that requires that your order is louder and firmer than the voice of that bitchy trace of an old lamer you.
You cannot lose that battle unless you give up. Which is what most people do. Right away, without more than one half-hearted attempt.

That’s why they fall to the social pressure and become puppets. They chose it.
You shouldn’t choose that.

The fastest route to self-awareness is consistent focused action, that’s where you really learn how you perform and what makes you tick, what you like and what you don’t like, how you act and react in different situations. The real, bona fide current you, not some old outdated one that can be very different and whose stats don’t accurately match your current ones. Self-awareness can only be had here and now, not in the past.

In order to really see your reactions in a bright light, and with consistency (which you must do in order to control them) you must be out there taking action consistently, getting your reactions triggered, putting your ego on the line.

Fuck the past, whoever you were back then is not who you are now. The past does not define you. That’s not individuality, a true individual doesn’t let the past get to them.

You won’t find yourself through the Freudian tracing method (looking back into your childhood, tracing your habits, opinions, beliefs, and reactions back to the root.) In fact, if you do it right you will soon find that there is no real you, that all those earlier ways of being were just temporary ego forms.
You won’t find an answer to who you are, only to what you’re not.

But I recommend doing it any way, because it will lead to a revelation that is very liberating and helps a lot.
Because a logical understanding of something isn’t really knowledge, and it doesn’t affect you on a deep level, only bona fide first-hand experience does.
That’s why action is the most effective method. And it’s also why personally finding out that there is no real you is so liberating and mind fucking and snaps you right into a genuine state of being.

You are formless, an amorphic blob that you can shape into whatever you want, as long as you apply enough consistent high-quality effort.
You are just a malleable ego.

Welcome to your new life, champ!

Peace and love

Profile photo of Vteezy Living Vteezy Living (@groig22) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

We are Love.

Profile photo of LesterJohn LesterJohn (@lesterdeguzman) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@dylmill, i dig that. I always tell myself “your only as great as the company you keep”
as far as picking traits up from your peers. You tweek them into what suits best for you @alliesull,

Profile photo of Stoney Baloney Stoney Baloney (@adamm0ss) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@manimal Needed that!

Profile photo of Allie Allie (@alliesull) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@manimal, Great answer, just what I was looking for. I think that I too often try to find a solid answer to the question “who am I,” but I guess I am whoever I want to be and can be whatever I want to be.

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