Advantages & disadvantages about relationships.

2 years, 1 month ago

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 2 years. I’m just wondering what you people think about relationships (boy/girlfriends). Does it limit you in certain ways? Does it open you up?
I’m happy with my girlfriend, but I’m really curious if someone else have thought about this, and how it affects your own lifes. Thanks :)

December 12, 2012 at 1:23 pm

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Profile photo of Shivvy Shivvy (@shivvy) 2 years, 1 month ago ago

The only time a relationship is disadvantageous is if you’re in a shitty one, otherwise it’s only advantages in my opinion. No one consciously gets into a relationship thinking it’s going to go belly up lol.

Profile photo of travel man travel man (@travelman) 2 years, 1 month ago ago

I see what your saying, but I guess it depends if you share goals and dreams. If you dream of sailing around the world and she doesn’t then that might become a problem. You wouldn’t want to hide your true self forever

Profile photo of Shivvy Shivvy (@shivvy) 2 years, 1 month ago ago

@travelman, if you hide your true self from someone before going into a relationship then that’s your problem lol

Profile photo of Casper Casper (@mkiller5) 2 years, 1 month ago ago

@travelman, exactly what i was thinking about actually. I’m with this girl and I love her and everything, but she’s just too scared of leaving her comfort zone and doing something society, friends and family thinks is a “bad” thing. The problem is, I can feel that she WANTS to, but she’s too scared to even consider it herself. She THINKS that she REALLY WANTS to live and ordinary life, but I “know(?)” that she doesn’t.

Profile photo of Nature Nature (@stefan) 2 years, 1 month ago ago

I don’t find any advantages in traditional relationships over a non/open/free relationship, there are only disadvantages in my opinion.

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