Are we not all selfish?
I once heard a quote that went something like, “Everyone is selfish, even Mother Theresa only did the things she did because of the feeling it brought her.”
And with that I wonder are we not all, each and every one of us, in search of our own pleasure and happiness? Is selfishness in and of itself really such a bad thing?
We must primarily take care of ourselves if we are to ever be able to care for others as well, no?
@i.dea, “you get what you give” is self motivated through spiritual reward systems. selfishness is kind of an illusion(with in moralistic standards) because we are all trying to help the world(but we are the world?) the best we can, but truthful way’s of being lies within our own reason.
well, speaking in terms of Darwinism, the selfish quality in a person is a surviving quality is it not? it was the fittest, which is why it may have survived. if all beings lived in a constant state of selflessness, it would result in abandonment of one’s own safety. i think selfishness is necessary, inherent, and a result of natural selection, but the extent that we allow it to control our minds is where we have control of it.
@i.dea, IF someone thinks of others, then it can get out of hand if you sacrifice yourself, that feels like painful, so it does exist to sacrifice and feel painful when you do it, that is totally not selfish because it hurts when it is not reciprocated, therefore in the light of doing it for the greater good gives us a relieve that we do it for a purpose that is bigger than just this worldly existence, it gives meaning to religion and believing in something bigger than ourselves…thus we sacrifice and are relieved at the same time…the relieving part is not the purpose, it is the side effect of doing something for someone else. But that is from a perspective of when someone believes in higher purpose.
@i.dea Another way to look at it is how needy exactly you are. If you don’t need as much as someone you’re in comparison with you just might be happier than them. Not needing something and having it is pointless. Egoism is needing more for yourself than for others, altruism is needing others to have what they need. It doesn’t mean not taking care of yourself, because then you won’t have anything to give. And that’s where my understanding ends. You can’t teach a person to need less, but if you could it would be a gift.
@i.dea, I don’t think selfishness can be avoided, it is simply the natural instinct. However, the way I think about why selfishness has such a negative connotation is that I try to imagine a world filled with selfless people instead. Although my imagination may be wrong, I think if everybody’s natural instinct was to be selfless, I would imagine the world to be much better.
@i.dea, Howard Roark from Ayn Rand’s Fountainhead will agree with you entirely.
And I agree. Selfishness is the only way to live. Follow only what you want.
What is selfishness? Is it good or bad? It depends on the meaning, the context, the distinctions regarding when, where, whom and why? Is it selfish of me to eat dinner in a world where 18,000. people die each day as a result of hunger and hunger related diseases? Of course it IS! Of course it IS NOT!
@i.dea, Everyone is selfish, it is just the way it is, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Every “good” thing people do can be motivated by a selfish logic, if selfish people were smarter then they would see the logic in performing “selfless” deeds.
People do “good” things because it makes them feel good, but it also makes them more friends and less enemies. People who perform deeds of personal gain aren’t doing anything wrong unless it is harmful, but people should also not allow desire and fear to make their decisions for them.
I keep using “quotation marks” for the word “good” because it is a fake word, so is bad. The world exists, our evaluation of this being good and that being bad is not necessary, by logic we can see if something causes pain or difficulties, we don’t have to create fear to deal with it.
Look at love; does calling it “good” improve it? Does not calling it “good” make it cease to exist? For both of these, the answer is no, values like good and bad create desire and fear, love is a universal truth that doesn’t require validation from us, our validations are not what cause action they only alter the nature of action.
Every harm and pleasure can be rationalised by logic and dealt with appropriately without adding negative or positive connotations to them, like Yin and Yang; which one is the bad one? Neither. Cause and effect is the same, dynamic forces of the universe do not contain intent, they just exist, without intent nothing can be considered malevolent or benevolent.
Humans are the only real phenomena capable of intent (that we know of) but our intent can only be driven by logic or impulse, neither of these two need to have a connotation, but fear and desire are impulses caused by our evaluations of nature, logic is forged by discipline over impulse, we can react to impulse or assess by logic, that is the only real difference between good and bad, selfish and selfless.
@i.dea, The only place impulse seems to have is in moments where a reasonable analysis has no time to develop, spur of the moment, but that would mostly be for fear, if you have time to build desire then generally you have time to formulate rational logic. But fear should not be a motivator in situations that grant sufficient time for an assessment.
Man I juss needa say all ya’ll are dope. I’m new-ish to HE but this typa shit swirls around all the time in my head. I was initially skeptical in posting, wondering if I’d be understood but I’m mad glad that I did.
Definitely helped me come to a more complete understanding and personal view on the topic.
Feel free to continue discussing this though any outlook is a beneficial one.
Even if you’re the most selfless person that ever lived…….that in turn MAKES you enlighteningly (if that’s a word) happy… so in turn you’re being selfish bc it’s making you happy.
It makes me think of that Abraham Lincoln story.. lemme google it:
Yes that’s the one. :)
Go ahead & be selfish!!! If you better yourself you’re just in a better position to help everyone else.. some people are dicks about it, but eventually I think they get it right. :)
@sammie, What’s the moral of this story? A little mud won’t get in my way of having a delicious pork sandwich?
Agreed. There is no such thing as altruism. Every time you do something good to others, you gain something out of it. Some may disagree and say that you don’t think about the personal gain when helping an old lady across the street, but I do think that whether consciously or unconsciously, the goal of getting (in that case, emotional) satisfaction remains.
@truthseeker, Dumb argument, me thinks. Following your logic altruism is helping people and feeling bad about it. Fucking idiotic. Hahahah
No offense, btw. I just imagined feeling depressed after being helpful or running away from being complimented.
@beyond, the moral of the story is that I’m (& everyone else is) as much of a selfish prick as you are ;)
I think were all getting a little caught up in our differing definitions of all these silly symbols for communication we call words. Fuckin words getting in the way all the time..
@sammie, Just as much? I disagree. There’s an invisible scale for selfishness and has the nerve to change.
I feel like people tend to think of selfishness as a fixed state. I don’t think it is. There comes a time in everyone’s life when they act in the interest of themselves, sure. Obviously Mother Theresa allowed herself enough food to be able to survive, as well as other amenities. If you define selfishness as acting in the interest of self some of the time, then yes I suppose we are all selfish. People tend to view it like the biblical sinners – we have all sinned and are therefore sinners. Well, yes. But you can’t discredit all the good acts and selfless things people do some of the times. I don’t think Mother Theresa did good things simply to feel good. Hell no. She did it because she knew people needed it. Maybe she felt good about it but that was NOT the cause of her actions. Like, for example, you may start running because you love it and end up looking hotter and feeling healthier as a result, but that wasn’t your initial goal.
How about this. When you realize that you are intricately and inextricably connected to the earth and people around you, it becomes natural to give when you see need. This doesn’t mean giving your sandwich away to a hungry person when you are hungry. It means splitting it if you can manage. Look after yourself, and when you are able, look after others too. Because they need it. It doesn’t always make you feel good. Sometimes it makes you feel terrible and puts you in a bad position. Are we all selfish? I don’t think so. Not always.
Here is an applicable quote from “The Prophet” that might get you thinking.
“There are those who give little
Alexis De Tocqueville – Self Interest Properly Understood
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