Do you consider yourself introverted? Do you see it as a strength or weakness?
Personally, I’m an introvert. I like my own alone time and being by myself or with one or two other good friends keeps me insanely inspired. When I’m around large groups, my energy goes down and after a couple of hours I can’t keep up with it.
I used to think this was a bad thing, but I’ve begun to see that I can use that knowledge to my advantage and not lie to myself. And I used to associate introversion with being shy and anti-social, but that doesn’t seem to be the case.
I’ve worked hard on my social skills for years now, and people wouldn’t label me as a social outcast if they met me..but I do feel the urging need to leave a party after a couple hours because I get bored of talking to so many people.
More importantly, i’m interesting in what your thoughts are on introversion.
Do you feel like it’s a struggle to be introverted in a very fast-paced extroverted world?
Do you want to learn to be an extrovert or at least take advantage of your introversion and still be a social person?
Would love to hear your thoughts on this.
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My friends and family call me an introvert.I pretty much don’t care to argue with them,because i am.I hate conversations,especially ones where you’re supposed to FIND a topic and speak to another person.But most people know i’m an introvert,so they don’t mind when i get lost in my own world.And i HATE any form of recognition for my work,if its bad and they tell,i don’t mind,i’ll try anf correct it,but if it’ correct,my friends,knowing i like quiet,try and make it a big deal,which i hate even more.But you know what,if all the people started speaking out,this world would be a much noiser place than it already is.So i”m happy to be an introvert and mind my own buisness,
@feren6, Actually I do consider myself an introvert, and I’ve always thought of it as a downside. It seems like today’s world (especially the business world) is set up for extroverts. A lot of the “How To” books try to drive ‘extroverted qualities’ into your behaviors to ‘improve’ your characteristics.
But this year, I found a really nice book on introversion called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. by Susan Cain. Not only did it help me accept myself as an introvert, I started to accept the introverted aspects of my kids and started to see the value in there approach to quiet thoughtfulness, too.
Everyone has a bit of both, but mainly everyone has a preference. For instance, I’m an introvert and I’ve learned to appreciate being an extrovert. I could even say that I’m 60/40 introvert/extrovert, but at the end of the day, that reality is that I need to recharge by being alone or in a small group.
Some people are ambiverts and can gain energy through both, but it’s more rare.
Regardless, people should learn to appreciate both sides of the spectrum and not use the label as an excuse to not develop a certain beneficial behavior. They should just use it as a tool in how they should learn these beneficial behaviors. A learning tool as a means to learn, if you will.
@feren6, Yes very introverted. I wouldn’t change it. Actually I think it’s important to accept your introverted nature, if you are an introvert, it could be damaging to yourself to try and be extroverted. It is the way you are born, I’m fairly sure, 25% of the population are introverted. Apparently it has something to do with your sensitivity to dopamine. Here’s an article I read about this,
@michaelo, Yea that makes sense, thanks for clarifying that for me. I would call myself an extrovert and a reformed introvert. I still very much love looking at am overcast sky alone in peace, but At the same time, I draw energy from being around new people, And I also recharge alone…So I guess you can call me both.
@feren6, Yes. I’m an introvert. In fact, I’m classified as an “INFJ” according to the Meyers-Briggs test.
Here’s a short questionnaire you can take that actually has a lot of great insight into your character type. You can learn a lot about yourself by finding out your character type and reading about it from there.
I just took the test @chodebalm linked and I got classified as having an “ISFJ”-personality, which is terrifyingly accurate – I almost got scared as it describes me as how I see myself. So I guess I’m an introvert.
But after watching the video @filipek linked, I am not sure if I’m an introvert or just a shy extrovert. This is because, if I think back about 6 years, I’m pretty sure I was an extrovert – this, however, changed when I had a serious accident about 5 years ago. I might just be a shy extrovert, but I personally think that I’m an introvert as this sounds more like me.
I’m glad this sparked a discussion among everyone, as I hoped it would :)
I wrote a finishing article of my introversion series to answer any remaining questions, for those of you who like to read about this topic: http://www.innergladiator.com/introverts-guide-part-3/
@michaelo, Wow Michael, that is some story, I am glad you shared that with us here. I understand that being on the lookout for a way back is tempting. With your handicap, good job then becoming a computer engineer (no idea if that is what it is, kinda makes sense though?).
I Just spoke with an introvert friend yesterday, and he told me that the thing in life that gives him the highest kick, work vice, is having a bunchload of work to do in a very short time, and that kickfueled his brain to a very high state. I envy him for finding such a kick in tight dead lines. Introverts have an easier time becoming experts I think. So, perhaps becoming an introvert has helped your career path in some weird way, I might think so.
I am trying to let go of some of my extrovert sides, as they are not helping me focus. I’ll share what I find, any tips are of course greatly appreciated.
Introvert and Extrovert is a made-up concept. Yes, it is true that some people are more outgoing than others, but that is ALL based on training and conditioning.
If you don’t believe me look at yourself and the people you spend time with. You will definitely be a replica of them.
AND I think the stupid intro extro things are just labels. Society has a way of giving things names or Stamps. Amd everyone else just says ‘ok’ blindly without questioning anything? Is introversion real? Is extoversion real? Or just a word? When we were small kids, those labels didn’t exist to us, only when we were taught them..So I say those words are meaningless..Just be you, have fun, do what you need and enjoy life, nobody defines you nor has the power to
@seeker88, http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts.html that video along with http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ar1kEN_ZPNM (that have already been shared) video say that 1/2- 1/3 of the population are introverts
And I must say that the TED talk is one of my favorite TED talks ever.
I have a question though, what exactly is the difference between shyness and introversion?
I used to be a introvert but that was a crappy way to live life. So I took MASSIVE action and I can honestly say I am an Extrovert, and I like it
. I didn’t like anything about being shy and quiet, and it really didn’t get me anywhere. I get alot more respect from people and I can meet women easily without having to rely on luck
@karlhorpestad, Thanks. Well, it’s not like I have any problems talking about it, so I told you since you asked nicely :)
About the workload thing, I’m the opposite of your friend. I usually freak out or lock-down if I have a lot of work – coping with a lot of work makes med go into a dead-lock where I think a lot slower thus taking much longer to complete my tasks. I think it may be because I can have trouble creating an overview of the work and therefore panicing, even if I can complete the work faster than I expected.
I’ve always wanted to be an engineer, even before my accident, but I know for sure that I was, if not smarter, then better off before the accident – at least in some ways. I think I gained some things but I also lost some?
I think I’ve read or heard somewhere that a lot of geniuses were/are introverts, but I’m not entirely sure.
Anyway, I think that being an extrovert has its own virtues :)
@luzimzo, No, it’s not. I hang around plenty of extroverts — that doesn’t make me one.
It’s just a label that’s often misunderstood.
Social skills are 100% learnable like you suggest, but knowing how your brain works is imperative in learning them faster.
i belong to the majority, “sigh”…am a mixovert. its lik i do with being both, exo- and intro-verted as per the occasion. but what bites me, as not very infrequently is, the bouts of extremeness within the tendency that i go into, as if being a bipolar.
Growing up I was very introverted. Hated school, hated people, felt alone. I am still introverted but I enjoy social situations now. I still have some anxiety (not as much as my brother) but once I open up I just never shut up lol