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Max Nachamkin (@feren6)    1 year, 8 months ago

Do you consider yourself introverted? Do you see it as a strength or weakness?

Personally, I’m an introvert. I like my own alone time and being by myself or with one or two other good friends keeps me insanely inspired. When I’m around large groups, my energy goes down and after a couple of hours I can’t keep up with it.

I used to think this was a bad thing, but I’ve begun to see that I can use that knowledge to my advantage and not lie to myself. And I used to associate introversion with being shy and anti-social, but that doesn’t seem to be the case.

I’ve worked hard on my social skills for years now, and people wouldn’t label me as a social outcast if they met me..but I do feel the urging need to leave a party after a couple hours because I get bored of talking to so many people.

More importantly, i’m interesting in what your thoughts are on introversion.

Do you feel like it’s a struggle to be introverted in a very fast-paced extroverted world?
Do you want to learn to be an extrovert or at least take advantage of your introversion and still be a social person?

Would love to hear your thoughts on this.

3 votes, posted 12.27.2012 at 7:02 pm
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E.C.F. Doyle (@chekovchameleon)1 year, 8 months ago ago

@feren6, Yes very introverted. I wouldn’t change it. Actually I think it’s important to accept your introverted nature, if you are an introvert, it could be damaging to yourself to try and be extroverted. It is the way you are born, I’m fairly sure, 25% of the population are introverted. Apparently it has something to do with your sensitivity to dopamine. Here’s an article I read about this,

http://www.carlkingdom.com/10-myths-about-introverts

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karl (@karlhorpestad)1 year, 8 months ago ago

@michaelo, Wow Michael, that is some story, I am glad you shared that with us here. I understand that being on the lookout for a way back is tempting. With your handicap, good job then becoming a computer engineer (no idea if that is what it is, kinda makes sense though?).

I Just spoke with an introvert friend yesterday, and he told me that the thing in life that gives him the highest kick, work vice, is having a bunchload of work to do in a very short time, and that kickfueled his brain to a very high state. I envy him for finding such a kick in tight dead lines. Introverts have an easier time becoming experts I think. So, perhaps becoming an introvert has helped your career path in some weird way, I might think so.

I am trying to let go of some of my extrovert sides, as they are not helping me focus. I’ll share what I find, any tips are of course greatly appreciated.

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MichaelO (@michaelo)1 year, 8 months ago ago

@karlhorpestad, Thanks. Well, it’s not like I have any problems talking about it, so I told you since you asked nicely :)

About the workload thing, I’m the opposite of your friend. I usually freak out or lock-down if I have a lot of work – coping with a lot of work makes med go into a dead-lock where I think a lot slower thus taking much longer to complete my tasks. I think it may be because I can have trouble creating an overview of the work and therefore panicing, even if I can complete the work faster than I expected.

I’ve always wanted to be an engineer, even before my accident, but I know for sure that I was, if not smarter, then better off before the accident – at least in some ways. I think I gained some things but I also lost some?
I think I’ve read or heard somewhere that a lot of geniuses were/are introverts, but I’m not entirely sure.

Anyway, I think that being an extrovert has its own virtues :)

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karl (@karlhorpestad)1 year, 8 months ago ago

@michaelo, I would think the same, though I think that people that do a lot of different things their entire life will also keep a good head. Creativity and innovation is all about change, isn’t it?

Anyways, I wish you good luck with your studies, and a happy new year :)

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Anonymous (@)1 year, 8 months ago ago

@lytning91, According to my psychology teachers temperament is impossible to change, so even if some of us are both extroverted and introverted at different times, this isn’t considered normal. What’s up with that? I couldn’t find any positive information about it other than mental disorders. :D

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MichaelO (@michaelo)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@karlhorpestad, You’re absolutely right! But thanks a lot and a happy new year to you too ^_^

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DaJetPlane (@lytning91)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@beyond, Yeah it would seem that makes us bi-polar…better whip out the meds and electro-shock therapy beds for us lost causes.

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TheSkaFish (@theskafish)1 year, 7 months ago ago

i’d like to be more extraverted so that I may soak up more ideas and have more memorable conversations. however, at this stage in life i feel i have more listening to do than talking. i guess you could say i’m introverted but i don’t like labels because i feel they can affect you on a subconscious level, making you act more limited than you realize. i’d say i’m either or depending on the situation, but i do also feel that sometimes just listening instead of talking, instead of reaching out, can cost one opportunities, be it in business, creative pursuits, seeking a friend or significant other, reconnecting, etc.

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Veggies4Lyfe (@iluvdamusic)1 year, 7 months ago ago

Glad to hear that there are other introverts out there who are happy about it. I consider myself an introvert. I can be alone for hours and find something to do and think about. But whenever I’m with other people I tend to be extremely quite and not really know what to say. I also have an extremely hard time relating to people, and finding subjects in which I can talk about, overall I don’t get the whole small-talk kinda deal. There is definitely a part of me that would like to have so extrovert qualities, but I have no idea how to go about acquiring them.
I’m also curios if other people feel like their voice has been quieted by others(usually extroverts) from being walked on, and belittled, thus making it harder to converse with people?

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Hermes (@seeker88)1 year, 7 months ago ago

yes. weakness at first. but you then realize its a strength, and that your a rare thing. all the greats have been introverts. van gogh, steve jobs, albert einstein, edgar allan poe, bill gates, KEANU REEVES
Clint Eastwood, actor/director
Harrison Ford, actor
Tom Hanks, actor
Sir Alfred Hitchcock, film director
Jack Lemmon, late actor
Bill Macy, actor
Steve Martin, all around talented guy
Noah Wiley
Johnny Carson
Jane Clayson
Matt Lauer,
David Letterman
Diane Sawyer
Barbara Walters

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Hermes (@seeker88)1 year, 7 months ago ago

i hear only 14% of the world population is introverted(and 4% of the U.S.) . is this true? does anybody know or have reference to this intro?

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Hermes (@seeker88)1 year, 7 months ago ago

i think most guru’s and spiritual leaders like ghandi are/were introverted. we just go in more for stimulation(thinking,reading,learning) vs outward stimulation (socializing).

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Veggies4Lyfe (@iluvdamusic)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@seeker88, http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts.html that video along with http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ar1kEN_ZPNM (that have already been shared) video say that 1/2- 1/3 of the population are introverts

And I must say that the TED talk is one of my favorite TED talks ever.

I have a question though, what exactly is the difference between shyness and introversion?

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Max Nachamkin (@feren6)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@iluvdamusic, Introversion is not related to shyness whatsoever, although most people think that they’re related.

Introversion just means that you gain energy from being alone or in small groups. Extroversion, on the other hand, means that you become energized while talking with many people. Neither suggests that you like socializing — you can be a shy extrovert.

I wrote a whole article on it..shameless self promotion, but it fits ;) http://www.innergladiator.com/introverts-guide-part-1/

The whole point is that you can be the most social person and still be an introvert. It just means that you need to handle yourself differently — you’re probably not gonna like small talk and want to be the center of attention. That’s okay. You can still be highly influential and be an introvert..it has NOTHING to do with shyness.

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KevinSG (@flyingrhino)1 year, 7 months ago ago

I am an introvert, but everyone you ask that knows me would say the opposite. At new years, I was quite comfortable being around my gf and her family, but once we left to their friends party, I felt irritated to the point where random girls would walk up to me and ask why I was so quiet. I don’t see it as a good or bad thing.

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Veggies4Lyfe (@iluvdamusic)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@feren6, So what exactly is shyness then- not like social interaction?

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KevinSG (@flyingrhino)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@iluvdamusic, if you watched the power of introverts video, she defines shyness as fear of public judgment iirc

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Veggies4Lyfe (@iluvdamusic)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@flyingrhino, I did, however I feel like there is more to shyness than the fear of judgments. I’m don’t fear what people think of me ( still working on it, but not near as much as I use to) but I still feel like I have some shyness to me?

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MichaelO (@michaelo)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@iluvdamusic, How would you describe your ‘shyness’? I can’t think of any other description than ‘fear of judgment’.

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LesterJohn (@lesterdeguzman)1 year, 7 months ago ago

As for me I think im both introvert and extrovert if thats possible.
I have friends who I can talk to for hours and hours about nothing and days where I just want to draw fashion sketches or listen to music and workout alone to have some *me time.
I wonder if having both qualities are cons for somehow dwelling on an introvert mind frame at an extrovert scene vice versa. Not knowing how to control that or whatever

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MichaelO (@michaelo)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@lesterdeguzman, I don’t believe that you can be both at the same time. I think that you can only be one of them, but you can be a shy extrovert or an outgoing introvert or whatever other combination of such types of personalities. It probably changes depending on the people you’re around, too.

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Max Nachamkin (@feren6)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@michaelo,

Everyone has a bit of both, but mainly everyone has a preference. For instance, I’m an introvert and I’ve learned to appreciate being an extrovert. I could even say that I’m 60/40 introvert/extrovert, but at the end of the day, that reality is that I need to recharge by being alone or in a small group.

Some people are ambiverts and can gain energy through both, but it’s more rare.

Regardless, people should learn to appreciate both sides of the spectrum and not use the label as an excuse to not develop a certain beneficial behavior. They should just use it as a tool in how they should learn these beneficial behaviors. A learning tool as a means to learn, if you will.

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Anonymous (@)1 year, 7 months ago ago

In general, yes, but I step up when I have to (e.g, public speaking). I’d say it’s more a strength in my case.

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Yes, but it’s only a weakness if you are a pussy about it.

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MichaelO (@michaelo)1 year, 7 months ago ago

@feren6, Well, if you’re 60/40 towards introversion, wouldn’t that make you an outgoing introvert? I’m also an introvert, but just as you, I can be more extroverted if need be, but I prefer being in small groups of people.

And I completely agree with you. Both extroverts and introverts can learn important things from one another :)

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