Are you introverted?
@karlhorpestad, Yeah, in some ways it really did, although I do miss “my old personality” a bit, I had such an easy time talking to people. But I also learned how to sort out between my friends and acquaintances, to see who really wanted to be my friends and who only used me and didn’t care about me (I guess this happened because of my suspiciousness of peoples intentions).
As to my accident, it happened because i was hit by a drunk driver without a drivers license (who wan away) when I was on my way, to what I think is the equivalent to high school, on bicycle. – so I’m not happy about people driving after drinking. Anyways, I was in the hospital, lying in a coma for about 2-3 days. I was in the hospital for a total of 13 days. I had gotten a serious concussion, small brain hemorrhages in the back of my brain, a broken femur on the left leg, a broken toe, a 16 cm long flesh wound on my right thigh (left a scar) and a lot of scraches.
So yeah, I guess you can call that serious. But since I can be very stubborn, I’ve been able to reach about 80-90% of who/what I was before, so although I’ve gotten what the specialists call a “hidden” handicap, I’m very lucky in that respect (“hidden” meaning skill-wise, like concentration or overview etc.). I am now in the progress of becoming an Informations- and Communications-engineer (I guess it’s called computer engineer in English?).
@feren6, Yes very introverted. I wouldn’t change it. Actually I think it’s important to accept your introverted nature, if you are an introvert, it could be damaging to yourself to try and be extroverted. It is the way you are born, I’m fairly sure, 25% of the population are introverted. Apparently it has something to do with your sensitivity to dopamine. Here’s an article I read about this,
@michaelo, Wow Michael, that is some story, I am glad you shared that with us here. I understand that being on the lookout for a way back is tempting. With your handicap, good job then becoming a computer engineer (no idea if that is what it is, kinda makes sense though?).
I Just spoke with an introvert friend yesterday, and he told me that the thing in life that gives him the highest kick, work vice, is having a bunchload of work to do in a very short time, and that kickfueled his brain to a very high state. I envy him for finding such a kick in tight dead lines. Introverts have an easier time becoming experts I think. So, perhaps becoming an introvert has helped your career path in some weird way, I might think so.
I am trying to let go of some of my extrovert sides, as they are not helping me focus. I’ll share what I find, any tips are of course greatly appreciated.
@karlhorpestad, Thanks. Well, it’s not like I have any problems talking about it, so I told you since you asked nicely :)
About the workload thing, I’m the opposite of your friend. I usually freak out or lock-down if I have a lot of work – coping with a lot of work makes med go into a dead-lock where I think a lot slower thus taking much longer to complete my tasks. I think it may be because I can have trouble creating an overview of the work and therefore panicing, even if I can complete the work faster than I expected.
I’ve always wanted to be an engineer, even before my accident, but I know for sure that I was, if not smarter, then better off before the accident – at least in some ways. I think I gained some things but I also lost some?
Anyway, I think that being an extrovert has its own virtues :)
@michaelo, I would think the same, though I think that people that do a lot of different things their entire life will also keep a good head. Creativity and innovation is all about change, isn’t it?
Anyways, I wish you good luck with your studies, and a happy new year :)
@lytning91, According to my psychology teachers temperament is impossible to change, so even if some of us are both extroverted and introverted at different times, this isn’t considered normal. What’s up with that? I couldn’t find any positive information about it other than mental disorders. :D
@karlhorpestad, You’re absolutely right! But thanks a lot and a happy new year to you too ^_^
@beyond, Yeah it would seem that makes us bi-polar…better whip out the meds and electro-shock therapy beds for us lost causes.
i’d like to be more extraverted so that I may soak up more ideas and have more memorable conversations. however, at this stage in life i feel i have more listening to do than talking. i guess you could say i’m introverted but i don’t like labels because i feel they can affect you on a subconscious level, making you act more limited than you realize. i’d say i’m either or depending on the situation, but i do also feel that sometimes just listening instead of talking, instead of reaching out, can cost one opportunities, be it in business, creative pursuits, seeking a friend or significant other, reconnecting, etc.
Glad to hear that there are other introverts out there who are happy about it. I consider myself an introvert. I can be alone for hours and find something to do and think about. But whenever I’m with other people I tend to be extremely quite and not really know what to say. I also have an extremely hard time relating to people, and finding subjects in which I can talk about, overall I don’t get the whole small-talk kinda deal. There is definitely a part of me that would like to have so extrovert qualities, but I have no idea how to go about acquiring them.
yes. weakness at first. but you then realize its a strength, and that your a rare thing. all the greats have been introverts. van gogh, steve jobs, albert einstein, edgar allan poe, bill gates, KEANU REEVES
i hear only 14% of the world population is introverted(and 4% of the U.S.) . is this true? does anybody know or have reference to this intro?
i think most guru’s and spiritual leaders like ghandi are/were introverted. we just go in more for stimulation(thinking,reading,learning) vs outward stimulation (socializing).
@seeker88, http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts.html that video along with http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ar1kEN_ZPNM (that have already been shared) video say that 1/2- 1/3 of the population are introverts
And I must say that the TED talk is one of my favorite TED talks ever.
I have a question though, what exactly is the difference between shyness and introversion?
@iluvdamusic, Introversion is not related to shyness whatsoever, although most people think that they’re related.
Introversion just means that you gain energy from being alone or in small groups. Extroversion, on the other hand, means that you become energized while talking with many people. Neither suggests that you like socializing — you can be a shy extrovert.
I wrote a whole article on it..shameless self promotion, but it fits ;) http://www.innergladiator.com/introverts-guide-part-1/
The whole point is that you can be the most social person and still be an introvert. It just means that you need to handle yourself differently — you’re probably not gonna like small talk and want to be the center of attention. That’s okay. You can still be highly influential and be an introvert..it has NOTHING to do with shyness.
I am an introvert, but everyone you ask that knows me would say the opposite. At new years, I was quite comfortable being around my gf and her family, but once we left to their friends party, I felt irritated to the point where random girls would walk up to me and ask why I was so quiet. I don’t see it as a good or bad thing.
@feren6, So what exactly is shyness then- not like social interaction?
@iluvdamusic, if you watched the power of introverts video, she defines shyness as fear of public judgment iirc
@flyingrhino, I did, however I feel like there is more to shyness than the fear of judgments. I’m don’t fear what people think of me ( still working on it, but not near as much as I use to) but I still feel like I have some shyness to me?
@iluvdamusic, How would you describe your ‘shyness’? I can’t think of any other description than ‘fear of judgment’.
As for me I think im both introvert and extrovert if thats possible.
@lesterdeguzman, I don’t believe that you can be both at the same time. I think that you can only be one of them, but you can be a shy extrovert or an outgoing introvert or whatever other combination of such types of personalities. It probably changes depending on the people you’re around, too.
Everyone has a bit of both, but mainly everyone has a preference. For instance, I’m an introvert and I’ve learned to appreciate being an extrovert. I could even say that I’m 60/40 introvert/extrovert, but at the end of the day, that reality is that I need to recharge by being alone or in a small group.
Some people are ambiverts and can gain energy through both, but it’s more rare.
Regardless, people should learn to appreciate both sides of the spectrum and not use the label as an excuse to not develop a certain beneficial behavior. They should just use it as a tool in how they should learn these beneficial behaviors. A learning tool as a means to learn, if you will.
In general, yes, but I step up when I have to (e.g, public speaking). I’d say it’s more a strength in my case.
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Yes, but it’s only a weakness if you are a pussy about it.
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