This is a place to talk about your self and to get things off of your chest. It’s always nice to have someone to listen and to ask for help so that is what this is for. Go ahead and talk about whatever you need help with and we will all pitch in :)
Coming to terms with your issues and set yourself free!
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@sabas4, yes! I get totally weird because inside I’m trying to decide whether to smile or not or what to say etc. It takes me a while to get used to people and start being myself. I have heard many times that people hated me when they just met me and then slowly started to change their opinion about me. Do you get that as well?
@staringatstars, maybe your life feels like a loop because it is a loop, most lives are. Most people, I’m talking about most of the people in the world create there past over and over again, but why do we do that?
I have an answer for you, we are programmed to do that, it’s a habit to do that, the reason I know this is because off this man: Bob proctor, he showed me something that changed my life forever, I have the links to the 3 video’s right here:
Link 1: http://youtu.be/9oYbZtUrz7g
Link 2: http://youtu.be/NI4ic6swL84
Link 3: http://youtu.be/WA155xP384U
Hope you enjoy the video’s
much love paradigmshift30
@searchingforthetruth, @immagoner, its not like I’ve had a bunch of bad life experiences that make me bitter/cold towards people. It’s probably the opposite, honestly most people seem to me (with the exception of this website and chance encounters here and there in “real” life) like animals.
For example, if I try to talk to the average person about mystical experiences I am likely to just be stared at.
Alright, I’ll try to be myself and get things off my chest.
I can’t seem to be myself when I have absolutely nothing to get off my chest because I can actually express myself and get shit done. And I fucking hate that people are so fucking pathetic and don’t acknowledge that they’re the only ones guilty of their bad situation. My eyes hurt from your bullshit! So here are two songs related to the topic.
Is there are previous situation or event that happened that hold you back?
If so try to deal with accepting that situation or event so you can get over it and move on. That saying “When one door closes another opens” explains this perfectly!
If that isn’t the situation I can kind of relate. Whenever I get the chance to make new friends I have second thoughts and hold myself back. I’m trying to work on this and I have discovered something, giving people a chance never hurts.
Also when I hang out with new people at first I’m shy and backwards, but to tell you the truth all new people are like that because you aren’t comfortable with those people yet. I’d say if the first hang out goes well and you think “hey I want to be with these people more.” then go for it! The only way you are going to get comfortable around these people is if you are around them more and after a few hangouts you won’t even remember why they were awkward!
@dwun81, Yup, we’re definitely on the same page here! I see how the pursuit for more money has changed my friends and it is absolutely disgusting. Sadly, I feel like they have lost touch with themselves completely and wouldn’t even know what dreams they have buried deep within them. I guess I try really hard to avoid serious conversations with some of my friends who just annoy me when they talk shit about money, life and relationships (hahaha I know its harsh but I need to vent!). It would have been really tough for you because they were your room-mates and you had to deal with them every day.
I think people passionate about the Arts (acting, singing, dancing, art, design etc) are much less motivated by money and are instead motivated by the need to express themselves no matter what the cost. To be 100% themselves and to let the talent ooze out of them; thereby working ‘inside-out’. Whatever comes after that-it is what it is! Whether it’s fame and fortune or just enough money to pay the bills. It does not matter. Those are the people you want to be associated with. You’ll find plenty of those kind of people as you build your career. If I lived in the US, I’d be up for a coffee with ya :) For now, stand your ground when your around those friends. Just appreciate the company you have with them, but don’t take their views on life too seriously. At least thats what kind of worked for me. Funnily enough the more supportive friends are the ones I’ve recently met at gigs and singing class.
@jaymeh Hey! Lately I’ve been feeling bored with everything, I want to find people that make me happy but I just don’t feel comfortable with anyone expect a few people, I want happiness I used to have before but I don’t really know how to get it back.
I just helped someone out with a similar problem on here… except I can’t remember which post it is on haha so I will just re-write some things…
Okay I told the person to go home and make a list of things you like doing…. this can be things you like doing by yourself, with your friends, or with your family.
From that list make another of the things you like most about those activities.
See I’m pretty sure that second list is going to have some unique things on it :)
But to tell you the truth I think you do have those events right now but your just having/going through a hard time in your life with drugs and parties. Sometimes when we are in dark places it is hard to see the light. Maybe you should try to limit your drugs and parties…. then maybe who you are will start to become clear.
I know you are your own person and I have all the faith in the world in you! All you have to do is start trying to become who you want and then all the blocks will fall into place.
@dwun81, That might honestly be the best advice I’ve heard yet. I think if I found a way to be more confident in the positive outlook I have on the world, I would not be beat down by other’s attitudes. Instead, I could possibly change their attitudes. I just need to find this confidence somewhere within me. Occasionally, I feel as though everyone is so critical of each other that it really discourages me.
So, I completely see where you are coming from in your situation. I really commend you for having the guts to follow your heart. You made your heart happy by following your true passion. And I know that it seems so hard that your old friends don’t seem to understand you or the way you feel about life. I have come accross that a lot.
My best advice is to go to more places, events, whatever that have a higher likelihood of people who are more accepting of others. Get involved in something that does good for others. Maybe Habitat for Humanity or volunteer at an animal shelter. Those who are very willing to give back have good hearts, and are always open to new connections. Connections that are real and might satisfy your desire for a true friend who will listen to you and you can learn from.
Until then, stay strong. People can be so judgmental, but look at everyone posting here. You’re not alone.
Hope that helps (:
@studentlamo, Hi! I’m sorry to hear about the break up. So you were doing ok up until recently? What made it skydive? Was it memories of the good times?
@ARCANUS, Aw I’m glad you feel better. You’re very sensitive by the sounds of things!! So am I! People always confuse that with weakness! You are not weak! You’re thinking is deep and you ask yourself many questions… your just overwhelmed by the magnitude of yourself, your life, your worth, your feelings. Because you don’t have any answers you brokedown little. But now you are learning and understand and that’s what brought you to HE! Well done mate! Do you feel like everything Is clearer now that you understand how Devine you are? :)
I can imagine that’s tough if your mostly interested in having deeper conversations that most people don’t usually have. My closest friends that I relate to and have conversations like the ones found on this website with started out as shallow acquaintances, but as I got to know them better I became more comfortable with asking them what they thought about religion and dreams, etc.
@benjamin, I’ve realized that every shared complaint is only prolonging the negative effects of it, I don’t have to be smiling like an idiot to be optimistic so I could actually find a solution to my issues. And usually when people have a problem they have to search for solutions to solve it somehow, not just retell the story and relive the drama.
Although yeah, pure expression is a great release. I needed it too, that’s why I shared that. :) Right now my left eye is swollen and hurts when I blink, but I’m the only one I would blame for that, even if I don’t know how I got it, I’m the main reason for having it. I just prefer to blame myself for my own bullshit and I avoid doing it in front of others to save them from that bullshit. And it’s better to learn from these issues, get the lesson and help others, complaining never helped anyone.
Also, getting stabbed in the stomach or getting hit by a bus is also something I must have done to allow it to happen. I can’t make a difference between carelessness and accident so it’s on me. If I start being a pussy I’d expect compassion in return though. :)
@danfontaine, Hey! wait…so you believe yourself to be a terrible person but you FEEL righteous at the same time? That is, feel pride in what say and do, but that is a false feeling because you truly believe you are terrible. I just want to clarify…?
@rickvonstar, relating to people isn’t really a key thing. I mean it’s nice to be able to do it but sometimes supporting people when they need it is enough :) Also if you want to try to start relating to people I suggest just to embrace the situations that happen so you can relate back to them when the time is right.
No pain no gain.
I know that’s really cliche but it’s true. This experience is going to make you stronger. I know it is hard right now and it hurts but if they left you then you didn’t deserve them. I believe that one day you are going to find the right person and this will just seem like a little bump. You might also look back at this time as a lesson and say “Wow, that made me realize things I didn’t before.”
Just remember that you are a person with the strength to move mountains, if you believe you can.
@immagoner, I suppose then it’s more of a feeling of people and myself not willing to open up to larger things with one another at early stages of interaction. Which I don’t really see the point in. But then if you go straight for the whole cake, it weirds people out. I’m probably making too big of a generalization
@danfontaine, wooo! I love this : ‘I suddenly can feel my ‘internal compass’. I agree, self respect rather than forcing yourself to love yourself for the wrong reasons (to deal with self-doubt etc). Address the crux of the issue head on! Good luck :)
@studentlamo, Do you want her back, honestly? or are just feeling a little worried that she has another man, and thats why you want her back?
@beyond, I totally agree that telling people your problems is exactly what labels it into a problem. They have already carried it long enough and they have already identified it as a problem in their own minds. So their stuck. But its unfair to call that ‘complaining’. Its just another process of finding answers. ‘Aceepting’ our circumstance as a consequence of our actions, is fucking hard. I know it will take time for me, but I believe it to be true. Pure expression is all thats going on. A lot of the advice is showing people that its up to THEM to change it, because at the end of the day, they brought it on themselves.
You know what? I would try to help more but @paradigmshift30 pretty much just did. I think they answered it better than I could have! Thank you! Always remember that no matter what people are always there for you :) and maybe your life feeling or being a loop has a very special purpose, you just have to find out what it is.
@daynah, You know I’m dealing with that same situation right now. I’ve talked to a lot of people about it but the other day sometime had a long talk with me and I think it’s logical. But, then again this is me and I hope it helps you.
They told me that sometimes there are people in this world that other people don’t want to hurt. Now everyone that knows me knows I have a big heart and that I’m really nice. I know that people in high school don’t really care about girl’s feelings but sometimes there are people that they just can’t not care about. I’m one of those people. Now I don’t know if that helped you so I’m going to give you my own advice… I should of just started out with this ha…
But you know what don’t rush things. In the end everything works out and you know what if you rush things you might miss the important stuff. Just remember that the universe has it’s ways of working things out and no one is ever really alone in the end!