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Coming to terms with your issues and set yourself free!
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@danfontaine, wooo! I love this : ‘I suddenly can feel my ‘internal compass’. I agree, self respect rather than forcing yourself to love yourself for the wrong reasons (to deal with self-doubt etc). Address the crux of the issue head on! Good luck :)
@studentlamo, Do you want her back, honestly? or are just feeling a little worried that she has another man, and thats why you want her back?
@beyond, I totally agree that telling people your problems is exactly what labels it into a problem. They have already carried it long enough and they have already identified it as a problem in their own minds. So their stuck. But its unfair to call that ‘complaining’. Its just another process of finding answers. ‘Aceepting’ our circumstance as a consequence of our actions, is fucking hard. I know it will take time for me, but I believe it to be true. Pure expression is all thats going on. A lot of the advice is showing people that its up to THEM to change it, because at the end of the day, they brought it on themselves.
You know what? I would try to help more but @paradigmshift30 pretty much just did. I think they answered it better than I could have! Thank you! Always remember that no matter what people are always there for you :) and maybe your life feeling or being a loop has a very special purpose, you just have to find out what it is.
@daynah, You know I’m dealing with that same situation right now. I’ve talked to a lot of people about it but the other day sometime had a long talk with me and I think it’s logical. But, then again this is me and I hope it helps you.
They told me that sometimes there are people in this world that other people don’t want to hurt. Now everyone that knows me knows I have a big heart and that I’m really nice. I know that people in high school don’t really care about girl’s feelings but sometimes there are people that they just can’t not care about. I’m one of those people. Now I don’t know if that helped you so I’m going to give you my own advice… I should of just started out with this ha…
But you know what don’t rush things. In the end everything works out and you know what if you rush things you might miss the important stuff. Just remember that the universe has it’s ways of working things out and no one is ever really alone in the end!
It’s great to know that you are meeting new people and think that it is amazing! I feel that meeting new people makes the world a little bit bigger for me and that just makes me excited! I hope you take that fact with you somewhere.
If you want to date someone just do it!!! If it’s a girl, or a boy, you never know how things will turn out! Never regret something, it is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. The best way to go about something like this is to become friends first and then tell them your feelings. Then, I’m not saying it will, if something goes south you have your friendship to fall back on.
I love art! I’m an artist too and you know what find other materials to use that express who you are! Go to a yard sale and pick up an old canvas and paint over it. Or pick up a old coffee table and use the top as a canvas. Just get creative and never, ever give up on art.
Change sometimes can be a good thing, and I would say it is in this situation but then I saw your thing about drinking. I’m not a big drinker, I really dislike it actually but I don’t judge people for doing it. I’m just not that type of person. But, has your money been going to your habit? If so maybe you should stop until your bills are paid and you feel comfortable with your money situation. I’m not trying to sound mean and if I am I’m sorry :( It just seems that you want to stop too by the way you said your doing it too much. You don’t have to quit completely, social drinking on occasion is fun :) That’s what I do.
@sabas4, I am trying to find a way to explaining that without sounding like an asshole, but just make people kick themselves in the ass when they need to. A lot of the problems of people come from their own laziness, although a few would really admit it because they share the misery with their friends who are the same and just love to share the things they hate doing, more than actually doing something about it. Fuck it.
Okay so is it weird that I can relate to you…. like big time?
I’m a person that enjoys change, and I’m guessing you do too right?
But I also understand your comfort zone with a few people thing. So I’m not going to try and sound self centered but I think my experience can help… at least I hope it does.
So about a year ago my life was pretty great! I had my friends and my family and I was truly happy, even when I look back a year ago I can’t say that I wasn’t.
But a lot of shit can happen in a year, and it did. My friends started to fall really hard into weed. And I know weed isn’t the worst thing you can do but now it’s a problem. They can’t have a good time without being high. They can’t hang out with people without being high. It’s really sad, and it hurts me because these were the people I was close too and now I feel like weed has taken them away from me. Now I know this doesn’t really relate right now but I’m getting to my point haha… So anyways in the past year a lot has happened with my family where it has put me in a state where I don’t want this life. I want change, I need change… I’m bored.
But my friends are holding me back. Like your situation they are the only people I truly feel comfortable around but it sucks because they don’t care about our friendship, they only care about weed.
I know people say go ahead and make new friends but it really isn’t that simple for me. With all of the shit my family put me through in the last year it’s hard to explain to people and I feel like if I tell them it will scare them off or they won’t be able to relate and think ” I don’t need a friend dealing with this shit…” but then again if they think that they are not worthy of being my friend…..
I guess the whole point of that story is that I’m really unhappy and just like you I want to be happy again.
I know people say you can’t run from your problems, but I want to start new, and I don’t think starting over is running away from my problems. I think it’s me trying to move one from them and living a life that I want so I can feel happy again.
Now this is all easier said then done, but one day I am going to be happy and that gives me hope.
So you know what let the universe know that you want to be happy, that you want to be amused with life. The universe will have it’s way of giving you just that, the only thing you need to do is to believe in it. :)
I hope I helped a little bit…. I feel like I really didn’t :/