i know this topic has come up before. do people like being single? or do they feel sad when they are single? how do people view being single. of course there is that idea that those who are single must be unhappy… I definitely love being free as a bird and having crazy experiences being single but also it’s so great to cuddle in bed with someone you really care about… I want to know what you all feel about it, whether in general or what you’re going through…
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Personally.. I want to dominate the single life. Yup.
Become a fully independent, confident, and successful being on my very own before I give myself in a true committed beautiful loveydovey whatever-floats-your-boat.. “relationship.”
Breaks my heart when I see the ones I love feel dazed n confused like a little puppydog without a guy or gal to boost them up and make ‘em feel like somebody.
Who really needs marriage if you’ve got love. ^_^
I don’t usually jump into things knowing I have, what is it now? 52% chance of failing? hahaha..so why would I get hitched?
It’s been 7 years since I’ve been in a real relationship and I, for the most part, don’t miss a thing. The freedom is too much fun that I don’t know if I’ll ever go back. I like to travel, and for the next five years at least will not be in the country, or one place for that matter for more than half the time. Kinda hard to start dating someone when you know that’s coming up, as I wouldn’t want to put anyone else through that.
A relationship can be convenient at times, but honestly it’s just too much hassle.
being single has its moments of coolness…then there are times when i’d love a ‘bonnie’ to roll with this ‘clyde’…a bestfriend…so close that we receive the same thoughts at time..i def miss having a beautiful lady to give to, provide for, surprise, catch concerts with, rollin papers ), and to share some of my corny jokes with
@aurely, you should meet me ;)
I myself have been single for 2 years and I just been living I think the normal average college guy life. Going out alot and meeting many different girls which is totally fun. At this point I have been busy with one girl particularly for around 6 months, Its alot of fun and I really like the stability which an relationships brings (Im not saying Im in a relationship, but it is quite close).
I was single for almost 5 years before meeting my gorgeous other half about 3 years ago. Did I love being single? Sure did! It was amazing- met lots of people, every little bit of my time was my own. But I won’t lie, it was also mixed with moments where I felt lonely, I’m someone who loves loving people. Being single did let me heal enough from my previous relationship, which I very much needed…and also gain a fresh perspective on the kind of partner I would like to share life with. So it was also one of the most valuable times in my life too! Being in a relationship is wonderful, love it to bits! There are moments where I miss certain aspects of singledom, just like while I was single I missed aspects of being with someone. Having said that, I’ve found a wonderful man so being in a relationship is pretty blissful :)
I’ve had my share of heartbreaks. I understand how Alex feels. Being hurt sucks, but in the end, I feel as if I benefited from every relationship I’ve had. I’ve been single for the past year and half and there are plenty of times I wish I could have someone to hold at night. Hell, I just would love to have someone to talk to about life and it’s many wonders.
It’s been awhile since I’ve even thought about entering another relationship. I’m 21 years old, but it seems now that I’m looking for someone the way I’ve never looked before. It’s kinda of exciting. The trick is…I don’t look for anything. I figured that I have college to get through and I have dreams to obtain. I’m not sure I’m dating material at the moment. Unless, she were to be just like me, understanding that I have to focus on my future at the moment. Maybe then I could worry about love and relationships.
This may sound selfish, but I want to be able to work as hard as I can to achieve my goals and dreams, and having a relationship would just put too much stress on me. Being single has it’s ups and downs, but ultimately I feel that I have built strong relationships with people by just being friends. I guess I’m just waiting for love.
Well said Joseph! I compare being single… to having a babysitter if you have kids.. or if you’re a teenager & your parents go out of town & you can all of a sudden do whatever you want for a brief period of time. It’s like a vacation. I say that bc I’ve been single for less than 2 years of my life since I started dating. You play to your crowd—you are definitely a different person when you’re single and when you’re not. In trying not to hurt your partner’s feelings, or trying to be “loyal” to them.. you limit yourself. Being single is a freedom you don’t know until it’s gone… but the grass is always greener right?
M, I would more than gladly share, but finding the best words to fully explain why I feel tethered, flightless, and caged is not always easy…
I will say that increasingly over the past 5 years, I feel like I have to sacrifice what I dream of for myself entirely, and that to stay here, in this relationship, that I have to keep hiding who I really am, and who I really want to be. I am not comfortable in the skin I have to wear every day almost all day long anymore. I find myself starting to dislike who I have become by requirement in order to “make it work”……
*shrug* There is so much more… drunken (not me, I’m don’t get drunk that often, just drink to enjoy the actual drink, lol) destruction of property, hurled insults, etc etc etc etc. I am not a band aid, and I was not born to remain under some one’s thumb, repressed and locked away in jealous paranoia, nor am I a fan of being taken for granted, over and over. If I am willing to sacrifice so much of who I am, the least that I should be given is equal respect, adoration, and love. Appreciation.
*shrug* That’s an idea, anyway….