So I was wondering what everyone on there thinks about body hair, or hair in general.
As mammals, we have hair on all of our body, some parts thicker than others. Certain societies shave it in certain ways depending on their cultures, etc. Some people feel so uncomfortable with it that they go through painful waxing or laser treatments, including for body parts that may seem insignificant like your arms or something.
Mainly, I think of body hair in our sexual body parts. A lot of media or pornos might depict women who wax, shave, and are completely bare down there. I wonder, do men like it like this? Are there any guys out there that actually like a women who goes all natural?
Do any women expect men to maintain themselves as well?
This might seem like a weird topic, but it’s something I often find myself curious about…I hear some girls who stop shaving down there, in efforts to make sure that they don’t end up sleeping with someone (i.e. they meet someone at the bar but would be too embarassed to show their unshaved cootch to them and so it saves them the trouble of sleeping around). Just wondering how guys or people in general actually feel about this!
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I prefer things kept neatly trimmed and groomed. Length is up to you, but keeping it neat is a must for me. As for all the girls, I can say from experience that shaving down there is a really, really bad idea. Your hair is there for a reason. Though, keeping it pretty short for oral is always a plus.
Facial hair on women is just gross. Pluck or wax, please. Waxing your face is not that terrible since it’s such a small area and doesn’t need to be done too often.
Personally, I can’t stand having hair under my pits. On my legs, I don’t really mind so much unless I’m planning on getting laid or wearing a skirt/dress/shorts.
I really actually don’t mind women with hairy legs or pits. I think it’s more natural, and they still look completely beautiful. Same goes for guys. I like certain areas (i.e. face, genitals, and chest) to be groomed, but otherwise, just let it be. I think I would probably run away from a guy that shaved his legs, arms, or pits. No offense to anyone, but it just freaks me out. If you’re a swimmer, I’ll accept it because it makes sense for the sport, but otherwise, just too unnatural to me. Also, I hate when guys go bald down below. When the hair starts growing back after you shave down there, it is the most uncomfortable thing on the planet when you have sex! Trim it as close as you like, just don’t let it become stubble.
I actually like a woman who keeps some hair down there. A girl who is confident enough to sleep with you when she is unshaved tells me a lot. I don’t mind the hair, as long as it isn’t untamed I’m fine with it. I prefer it actually.
I am turned off by men (and women) who spend an inordinate amount of time grooming ANY part of their body. To me, it reflects insecurity +/or undue pride in oneself…vanity. There are so many other things to enjoy, spend time doing, and focus on in life, other than one’s appearance. However, I expect my man to be clean. Shower daily and you’re fine.
This is a very interesting post.
Manimal is absolutely right. My gyno told me that keeping myself completely bald down there was a very unsanitary idea. It’s is very easy for women to get infections as it is, and shaving/waxing everything makes you even more susceptible.
Shaving my legs and armpits is the most annoying thing in the world, especially in this freezing season. I hate going out and getting goosebumps after I just shaved…
I am however the biggest fan of smooth legs, that’s why I decided to get laser hair removal so I won’t have to deal with shaving my legs all the time. I have a groupon account (I AM NOT SOME SPONSOR OR ANNOYING SPAM POSTING ACCOUNT; I PROMISE). I am just trying to help you out in case you were thinking about it and thought it was too expensive. I’m getting my legs done for only $300. Not too bad for possibly never having to deal with that again.
@ Andy somehow I can never see a penis as being feminine. I dont feel like hair is the defining trait of masculinity. A penis is like the stem of all masculine archetypes, the idea of it being feminine is ridiculous. Maybe looking childish is a possibility
The whole guys shaving legs thing irks me too, Andy. I’m of the exact same mind. I also laugh at men who shave their chests and torso hair. Keeping it trim and tidy is a must, but shaving all the business off is just weird to me.
@Em – Quit stalking me.
I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that a lot of body hair growth has to do with androgen levels, and women with high androgen levels are generally unattractive mentally as well as physically, so from earlier exposure we make an association that hairy=unattractive. That’s just my theory though. And then there’s the visual part, it simply does look better generally, and men are by nature turned on visually.
@Sheila That amazonian race actually had little to no body hair, just like many other native American races that are now almost extinct.
Pausing oral sex to pull a hair outta yer mouth isn’t sexy at all. The less hair down there (for men and women) the cleaner it is. It’s that simple to me. I like a little hair, but it has to be minimal and groomed. If you’re sexually active I expect that and hold myself to the same standard.
I’m not much into a lot of body hair, I like some, but not excessive. I briefly dated a guy with a lot of body hair, it was like he was wearing a sweater, and it totally turned me off. I do however like hair on a guys chest because I like to play with it when snuggling :) The only thing I really don’t like is a furry backside, hair’s cool, but not fur.
As for private parts, I prefer that a man keep it groomed, not necessarily shaved, but keep it down to one cm max. It does tend to smell funny if the guy is an active person (even if they did just scrub in the shower) and I will NOT go down there in that case! As for myself, I keep it trimmed with a simple hair cutter, I don’t like to shave it completely because it’s so uncomfortable when it grows back! And I only shave my legs once a week, it’s not very coarse and wouldn’t actually be so bad if I just left it alone anyway :)
I know a girl who never shaves her legs, she’s blonde and I have to say it’s actually rather attractive. And since she never shaves, it’s quite soft too.
I’m right on your ass, Adam.. watch yo back!
Butt yeah… I knew guys that shaved their chest, and then if they let it go awhile.. they’d have ingrown hairs & stumble..which on your chest is just weirrrrd.
@ Daniella~ that’s not bad for $300! Does the lazer hair removal work though? I think I heard it sometimes does/sometimes doesn’t. Have you done it at all before?
I have hair, literally everywhere, but I do keep my pubes short, but I don’t shave them…They are there for a reason..and I’m of the hippy persuasion regarding women, as long as they don’t have hair on their face, chest, or back, and I think they are beautiful otherwise, I don’t care. I don’t mind the pit hair, I actually generally prefer women who don’t care, and the leg hair only bothers me with women who have really dark hair and are generally “dumpy.”
Lots of women find my torso hair to be very attractive, and I have no intentions of changing that for anyone. I’m proud of my individuality. As for the debate of body hair in general, pubes are there for a reason, I don’t like it out of control when I’m pleasing a woman, but I like the presence of what nature intended.
As a woman, I shave “down there”, when I feel like it. And that is more often, than not! Not for anyones preference, besides my very own. I might go a week without shaving at the very most, but I feel like having a few prickles, compared to a full out BUSH, is very different. If I have too much hair “down there”, it makes me uncomfortable. Mainly bc I hate wearing underwear, and ya know what? If you wear jeans without underwear, that shit will rub, and annoy the FUCK out of you. Not only that, but ladies, wearing underwear actually CAUSES yeast infections. Research it. I don’t shave my lady parts for any man, or even for visual gratification.. I get rid of it for comfort. Werd?
I’ve shaved before, but I don’t like the constant scratching of the crotch area. I do enjoy the reaction of others, but the itching I can do without. Balls are tough, figuratively, you have to stretch them before you shave to get the wrinkles out. It does make for a good christmas card though. On a more serious note, my wife and I are comfortable with either/or. Sometimes it’s fun to play”Attack of the Naked Mole Rat”.
@Em Yeah Groupon is pretty awesome with their deals! I haven’t done it before, but I know a few people that have had great results. I’ll get back at you when it’s all done with! I’m supposed to be a good candidate 8)
i don’t like chest/back hair on dudes. i like the feeling of skin. leg hair isn’t bad. foot hair is weird only if it looks like he has hobbit feet. beards can look good on some men and i definitely can dig it if it’s maintained and looks good.
i don’t have any facial hair because i maintain it. i always shave my legs and under arms and keep my bikini line neat. i’ll shave my downstairs if my partner prefers it, but otherwise i just keep it presentable. i dunno how other women feel on here, but i think if it gets too bushy, it’s just uncomfy.
Actually, hair is there to protect you from dirt. It is like a barrier. I got this from medical experts and not just my own opinion. Having said that…well, it is just a thing we are socialized to accept or not. In the winter, I don’t shave or wax; in the summer, if I wear a bathing suit, I do. I think it looks and feels nice, but as far as being right or wrong, it is just a personal thing.
@ Dana – Werd =]
@ pat – You’re right. The hair is there to protect the goods from dirt and grime but that makes said hair gross. It’s a good evolutionary protection. We’re past needing it now though. Because we shower regularly. Get rid of the dirt receiving/collecting hair, keep yourself clean, enjoy better sex play. That’s just me…I got nothing against some dirty play though!
I’m personally fascinated with body hair, not in a fetishistic way, but I find it adds a certain “quirkiness” to whoever it is on, as far as pubic hair goes, I’d prefer someone be natural with me as I do…let those pheromes pool! and I have no qualms with women who don’t shave, it’s actually kind of noble, in a way. actually, I find the absence of pubic hair on anyone to be a little creepy, because I either think of a barbie/ken or just feel…wrong
I honestly don’t remember the last time I was with a dude who didn’t shave down there..er at least keep it really tidy. I’m not gonna go as far to say I “expect” men or anyone to do it.. butt a lot of hair is a fersher turnoff, nothing I can do about it. The thought of an untamed mane is kinda grody to me. I have to shave below the belt regularly–or like Dana said, the hair’ll just annoy the fuck out of me (werd!!).
@ Bridget~I wish smooth legs weren’t so sexy… bc it’s a pain in the ass (imo) to shave them regularly. It’s really a lot of surface area to cover I think :) Lately (like since Fall started)-I just let them go, I really don’t give a fuck. Unless I’m wearing shorts or getting laid…both of which aren’t happening anytime soon.
@ Andy~totally know what you mean :) I also think chicks that shave it ALL look weird… like kids or something. I like there to be at least ‘some’ hair.. little run way, landing strip..something.
@ Adam~ shut up.