Building Habits! In need of help.

2 years, 9 months ago

Hey guys, so I’ve posted here a few times but still a farirly new user, but over my time spent on here I see one thing from almost everyone here. You all seem like very caring and understanding people who want to help others in need, and i truely admire that about you guys when I see some of your posts, so thank you for restoring my faith in humanity.

But now that thats out of the way I’m trying to work on some things to better my life and to do this i need to build good habits for myself. I need to make sure i accomplish a certain few things every day / every other day / every week, whatever schedule it is for the item. I Know how I work though and often enough I will pick something up, go hard with it for a few weeks or months and then end up stopping and losing interest.

For the last 2 months I did 2 Gym classes to get them out of the way for school and now the class’s are over and I do not want to stop going, but I fear that it might happen again. Ive been golfing and going to the gym for them 4-5 days a week and feel amazing, and it also has me eating much better than I did before, that part sort of just happened. I use to eat all crap and junk good, greesy fatty foods, but now im moving on to more fruits and vegetables and good meats. There is so much natural energy running through my body that I’ve even quit my daily coffee and I dont exactly want to go back to the life i was living 2 months ago before all of these changes.

In addition to continuing to Golf and go to the gym, I’m trying maintain my better diet, being more self sufficient for myself (i.e. keeping room/house clean, taking better care of myself, stuff along those lines). Also i have been going on and off with Yoga and meditation, something that I absolutly love doing. But I only do it once in a while, maybe once a week, and I want to make it a daily/bi-daily habit. Last but not least I want to be able to maintain collecting music and expanding my library, My goal – to find one new artist atleast bi-daily, and for the last 2 weeks I have found 17 new amazing and inspirational Hip-Hop artists. I love the feeling of finding a new artist, music is my passion and I need to make sure I never get tired of it.

So my question here would be how can I build good habits and maintain them?

I thank you in advance for any help that you guys can offer

July 6, 2012 at 11:14 am

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Profile photo of Sasho Stoyanov Anonymous (@) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

Be flexible with the schedules of your friends/close ones/everyone around you, that’s also something to practice. :) And search on this website, because you’re asking a question with a lot of answers. Read the articles and find something that suits you.

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Profile photo of PRAKASH PRAKASH (@lesterxp) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

You are asking a question you already have the answer for. Habits do not matter. You matter. If it makes you feel good and it is your way not a borrowed idea from someone else (be it friend, media, books) you make your steps one at the time. You need not create habits you need to create enjoyment in what you do with your body and mind. Habits are routine. The mind is easily bored. Struggling to keep up the pace and not skip because you are hit with laziness or boredom is something you will want to avoid. So find whatever pleases you and seems new every time you do it. Fulfill your activities like a child playing. Discover your body while you go to the gym or to golf. Watch your mind in yoga classes. You are the most important in all this because you cause it all. Everything you do leads you to yourself. You are already perfect in every way. You just have to discover it. Make a habit of inquiring into yourself if this or that is necessary for you, if it gives you joy and lifts your spirit. Then a healthy lifestyle will be a pleasure to have and no effort will be put to it because it happens out of the joy of living it.

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Profile photo of Partisan Partisan (@dawnistoday) 2 years, 9 months ago ago
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Profile photo of StartingOverFresh StartingOverFresh (@startingoverfresh) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

@lesterxp, I struggle with this “me” “me” “me” idea and I’m hoping you can give me some advice. Whenever I spend too much time focusing on myself I feel really guilty. I feel like I should just be out giving to everyone else and through giving I receive and find happiness. But then I’m met with the thought of if I live for everyone else I’m going to be miserable because I don’t do anything for me or go after my goals. Then whenever I think of my goals I feel selfish for desiring things that aren’t necessarily real (musical success, fame) and feel guilty about that. So then I think, well then I’ll have goals that through doing them help everyone else like working on wind energy or pushing for less chemicals in food…and then I realize none of that interests me and in the grand scheme of things doesn’t really matter. And I feel like I can’t even do things I enjoy (playing video games, watching movies, etc.) because then I’m just wasting time doing selfish things when I should be out saving the world. THEN I THINK WHAT’S THE POINT IN SAVING THE WORLD ‘CAUSE I’M GONNA BE DEAD SOON AND IN A MILLION YEARS WHAT I DID WON’T MATTER AND I DON’T REALLY CARE. AHHHHHHHHHH!

You see all these mental contradictions in my head? :P I deal with this every day. If you (or anyone else here) can give me advice, that’d be awesome.

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Profile photo of PRAKASH PRAKASH (@lesterxp) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

@startingoverfresh, The only advice I can give you is to first go and find out who you really are. You talk of yourself, but who is this that talks and thinks? Do not associate yourself with your body or mind.The body is a tool and the mind is the software running it. You are neither. Go beyond the body-mind complex and find out who “me” is. But be earnest. Do not look for an easy answer. You are not your name, or what others tell you you are. Do not look for the answer in some books or in the words of someone else. No one can give you any clue but you. When you will find yourself closer to the answer you will see that contradictions begin to fade. If that happens strive ahead. That is your way. You need not do anything special with your body or mind. Just keep this question in your head- WHO AM I? TO WHOM THIS HAPPENS? WHO WANTS ALL THESE THINGS?
In due time depending on your earnestness and you sincere wish do find this out it will happen, and all your problems will cease to exist.

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Profile photo of Jason Jason (@thinknowlivenow) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

Hey @lldsgt! I touch on managing your time intelligently, as well as reinforcing positive, constructive action (and thus creating positive, long-term habits) in my latest article: http://www.thinknowlivenow.com//analysis-paralysis

I think you’ll find a lot of the material on my site helpful, as it targets and caters the exact types of issues you are describing here : )

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