It’s a strange thing to become almost entirely apathetic to living, but something I’m sure many people go through and (hopefully) are able to get out of. I’m worried that because I’m feeling so incredibly burnt out, and that I’ve put my heart and soul into life and now have nothing left to give or feel except for complete exhaustion, that I’m in grave danger of disintegrating. Any tips/experiences/ideas you can share about this subject?
I’ve been at that point probably about two times in my life.
It’s very disheartening, but like everything else, it shall pass.
It may sound cliche, but you just have to stay positive and realize that someday you will have something new inside of you to give to some cause, or somebody or anything.
I’ve had my moments where I felt like there was absolutely no way that I could ever possibly give anything else, but as I said, it passed, and yours will too dear.
Just relax, and smile love!
It will pass soon and you’ll be full of love, energy, enthusiasm and greatness once again!
All is well, and will always be well!
I’ve been in the same position. I searched after books, quotes, stories from great characters in the history of life, and I bumped into this from Albert Einstein:
“What is the meaning of human life, or of organic life altogether? To answer this question at all implies a religion. Is there any sense then, you ask, in putting it? I answer, the man who regards his own life and that of his fellow-creatures as meaningless is not merely unfortunate but almost disqualified for life.
What an extraordinary situation is that of us mortals! Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for what purpose he knows not, though he sometimes thinks he feels it. But from the point of view of daily life, without going deeper, we exist for our fellow-men–in the first place for those on whose smiles and welfare all our happiness depends, and next for all those unknown to us personally with whose destinies we are bound up by the tie of sympathy.
A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life depend on the labours of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving. I am strongly drawn to the simple life and am often oppressed by the feeling that I am engrossing an unnecessary amount of the labour of my fellow-men. I regard class differences as contrary to justice and, in the last resort, based on force. I also consider that plain living is good for everybody, physically and mentally.”
I came to realise, that the only reason I exist is my mother, my father, my brothers, my sisters, my nephews, my nieces, my uncles, my cousins, my aunties, my grandmother and the rest of my family. But not just my family, I’m alive, because of the human beings, because of the animals of this planet, and every other creature in the world. While I am on this planet, it’s my duty to care and keep an eye on my fellow-creatures. It’s my duty to share my opinions and get well-informed, so that I can be aware of the true meaning of life. It’s my duty to make sure, that there isn’t anything as corruption, torturing, mistreat or humiliating of other creatures. Every single creature has a right to go for his dream – and it’s my duty to make sure, that the opportunity are there for them :)
@rachclam, All I would say is that this is your opportunity to realize that your happiness is what matters in life. There is no objective meaning so your subjective experience is what matters in your life. Find what makes you happy, and pursue that. Find love, and friends, connect with your family. Learn about the subject you like, and try to find a job you like. Explore until you find the things and the people that make you happy, go out and find what makes life worth living.
I’ve been at that exact point as well I think the best thing that at least started to help me out was just doing a different variety of things in life. Even if it’s just something small like running,or going for a bike ride with your ipod or read a book. It feels incredible to go running every day and fell I really accomplished something and build off it. start finding resolutions for the things you no longer desire in life. Personally smoking really helped me realize all kinds of options for myself but I became too absorbed & was slowly finding comfort in nothing but apathy again, which led to having lots of combinations of anxiety/depression.
It’s about self image basically and why people make themselves feel like shit.. See if you can relate, I surely could because I didn’t know I’m in that place like you are too and it’s not for the first time for me.
Just never lose hope in other people’s excessive pride. Unfortunately I know very well what becoming entirely apathetic of living is. To the point that no encouraging by anyone saying the things I already knew could help, because that’s what caused it in the first place. :) You can try to laugh at it sympathetically, because it happens to everyone who believes that perfect people exist. If you feel like you have nothing left to give because you gave all your heart and soul, then how could the problem be in you? It’s definitely not. A lot of competitions in life are making people feel like failures and losers, even though they were dragged in that world first and forgot, that they are going to make what the world is going to be, because of them in the future. You’d be surprised how many people try to give the positive energy they lack and no one can feel, because they were also dragged in that race with uncertain rewards still in development. :)
@rachclam, Try to identify any bad habits that aren’t helping you.
Sleep earlier, exercise more, socialize more (with the right people), forget about drugs, eat healthier, manage your time, etc.
I’ve been there. It’s best to fix the insomnia first.
I so appreciate everyone’s advice and nice words. Your kindness is moving and restores a lot of hope in me that I’ll feel better soon :)