Can a girl not use smiley emoticons without guys thinking I'm flirting?

@michaelo,

–Really, I like how you think you know what kind of man I am just by reading my answers.–

stop being defensive then lol. i don’t claim any special powers or abilities beyond what any human is capable of, i can just see it, and i know i can bc i daily test my theory in every interaction i come in contact with, i created a base understanding and went from there

–It’s not hostility in that way, I just didn’t know how else to say it.–

right, its this ‘need’ to argue my point, which is the point i keep pointing out, but is also the point you keep dancing around because you cannot see the point as i point it out because you are to caught up with proving i am wrong, which again, is the point

@michaelo,

and again, i don’t claim to ‘know’ you, you are using this tiny part of your retort as a red herring, if you recall, i said,

–your persistence in attacking my position despite me saying i was generalizing and your lack of understanding of common male / female differences indicates a high probability that i was talking about you in my original statement,–

high probability, meaning, i could be wrong, i can accept being wrong, but your actions indicate a different reality, and your continuation in this matter only proves this further.

-right, its this ‘need’ to argue my point, which is the point i keep pointing out, but is also the point you keep dancing around because you cannot see the point as i point it out because you are to caught up with proving i am wrong, which again, is the point-

^This, I think might be the problem. I don’t think i got your point at the time, my bad. I tend to create discussions out of things I don’t fully understand, which is pretty stupid. I know my weakness better than anyone, so I should’ve noticed – but I didn’t.

Anyhow, I still think the way men behave differs from place to place.

@michaelo,

and to correlate those cores to my original post, it is man who does respect himself therefore has created an illusion of respect to compensate, that act a’ fool to woman and assume the woman wants them simply bc they pay attention to them. it is an overcompensation, a need to feel like the best,

and this is why they act silly, and the level at which they do this is completely dependent on their security level, the less secure, the more silly, the more secure, the more real, they can be,

and in my observations, most men struggle in this area, not just with woman, but woman are a huge ego boost for these types

@michaelo,

what creates confidence in self, respect in self? actions. if you do actions that you know you shouldn’t due to their destructive nature, you create a schism, from this schism your brain has to compensate to allow you to continue in said actions, this creates the illusion called ego, ego becomes the balance through which reality flows that allows you to continue, but it limits the individual’s ability to see because it only allows data through to the logic of that brain that continues to perpetuates the lie, otherwise, the schism is felt,

this is why you feel a general anxiety, this schism, because who you think you are and who your actions define you as are in conflict.

a man cannot truly respect himself if his actions are not respectful in nature, and it is the depths of this illusion (which is correlated to the quantity of destructive actions), that dictates his response to females,

which is why, the more insecure (anxious) you are, the more silly you are, the more secure you are (right action), the more you can be yourself, because you are not lying to yourself any longer.

Why are we talking about something so trivial? There’s greater problems we can, and should, be focusing on out there in this beautiful, beautiful universe.

@beardlike, Let me get this out of the way so that I can respond to you appropriately. I will never give any credit to the idea that there is any substance in a conversation about texting smiley faces. The closest that this thread came to substance was you and beyond trying to to belittle each other. This never had the potential to be a good topic.

As for drugs… If you are looking for incredible insights into the drug world there is not a better place, you just have to look harder. I won’t open any topic about marijuana or any other depressant. You shouldn’t either. Martjin wrote an incredible blog about his experience with ayahuasca. You could start there if you are looking for insight. I just read yesterday about Iboga for the first time. Who knows if I ever would’ve heard of it if not for this sight.

I did not say that the point of HE is to discuss drugs. I don’t encourage drug use. I merely responded to you defending this thread by bashing on the pot heads that discuss their pothead ideas here.

There is so much philosophical value in everyday life, way better and deeper than emoticons. Here are questions that could be asked that inspire thought and build substance: How do I react to the homeless? The Jehovahs witnesses? The rich? The ugly? How much longer will I sell my life away for monopoly working in restaurants? Why do I try to impress people online with my intellect? Am I who I want to be? Why? Why not? How could I improve myself?

There are a million questions that if you spend time considering them, will get you a hell of a lot further than asking why do men think I am flirting with them when I am not trying to? Everyone is different. You can’t expect for me or any other man to ever know why another man reacted a certain way in a situation we know nothing about.

You have to start focusing on solution based thinking. The solution to your problem was ridiculously simple. Stop sending men smiley faces unless you want them to think you like them. You weren’t looking for a solution, and so you spent way too much time and energy focusing on a retarded question that nobody could ever know the answer to. You could have been pondering the nature of your consciousness, while instead you spent your time in the clouds focusing on something far too dumb for you. If you decide to take one thing from me, please consider solution based thinking. It saves so much time and energy.

Obviously I am perpetuating the bullshit by posting here. Unfortunately I can’t figure out to write a private message with the new format of the site. I don’t go around thread bashing very often. If you weren’t better than this, than I wouldn’t have bothered.

I’m not elitist. I want to learn from you. I want what you have to offer me. In order for me to get that from you I need for you to grow, and through your growth I can grow. My favorite rapper said this to someone he was free-styling with who thought that it was a contest. “I’m not trying to beat you or defeat you, I’m trying to complete you, because when your complete, me too. We can make it through the fog and be who we need too.” Pretty much how I feel right now.

You are right that we are all heading to the same place hopefully. I appreciate you for making me aware of this. I do forget that people are at different points in their growth and that your strengths may be my weaknesses and vice versa. Good point. It doesn’t really change what I’ve said though. If I have something that can help you grow I should share it.

You want to be in the right, but you aren’t. You definitely shouldn’t be wasting your time or anyone else’s by thinking or talking about emoticons. I hope that soon you can admit this to yourself so that you can grow. Being wrong once in a while is inevitable. I would be doing both of us a disservice if I didn’t call you out on your nonsense, unless you choose to ignore me and never think about what I’m saying. In that case I’ve wasted my time and probably boosted your ego. Which would be bad because you already have an ego issue.

I’m done with this thread. I hope you can take something from it. Best of luck to you.

@beardlike,

i wouldn’t try to reason, reason implies logic, insecurity implies the opposite, nothing will be heard because they can’t see past the emotional response this type of conversation elicits

@michaelo,

lol, i just realized i got preachy when you were just commenting on a typo.. fail me, sorry.

All I read was “blah blah blah smiley face blah blah blah”. Solution: no smiley face unless you are flirting. Problem solved. Now where we’re we? Oh right, drugs. Carry on.

There you go, folks. STUPID is what the OP is and everyone who replied to her bullshit to “help” continue the bullshit.

Liberate yourselves.

It doesn’t happen very often. :)