Cure Me of My Weak-Mindedness
Fuck this, fuck him, fuck it all
Tell me how to let it all go. Give me a fool proof method to escape these stupid stupid STUPID dilemmas..
I can’t meditate, I can’t even focus.
You need about 3 months of pure dedication to “change” your “bad” habits.
You have to accept these things – meditation, focusing, self-belief, self-control, confidence.
All I’m going to say now.
No one can’t meditate. Its just that they don’t.
This does not, however, make it some kind of “fake” thing – indeed it is the opposite, it shows the power of your own perceptions over your life. Belief in one thing can change your life.
@cpugh9, learning to focus is hard at first, because you’re not accustomed to it yet, you’ve forgotten what it feels like to focus your energies. I’m in the process of learning this myself, becoming more conscious of all my thoughts and actions.
@cpugh9, Alan Watt’s audio lecture series titled “Out of your mind: The nature of consciousness” Buy it if you can, but it’s expensive. Did somebody say torrent?? It’s 14 hours long.. Every second is well worth the listen. You can thank me later.
Step by step:
She’s asking how to get over a guy, not how to meditate.
@cpugh9, If your current living situation is so bad maybe you should change it? Go work on a cruise ship for a while or something. Don’t sit around wasting your life doing stuff that you hate. Go to Mexico City and become an english tutor. Try something new.
Being stuck in a lousy situation obsessed about some boy isn’t good enough. There are billions of boys and billions of possibilities for your life. Stop complaining about how this one sucks and go do something else.
Meditation is the only way, and you can do it! It’s not a matter of right or wrong, can or can’t just let those thoughts go! Try reading up about it on this site http://www.how-to-meditate.org/breathing-meditations.htm/….just don’t be so hard on yourself meditation is something that comes naturally just keep sitting til you feel the benefits, it will be 100% worth it.
Although I should add if you are in a deep depression it might be best to not meditate I have read it can increase symptoms!
@cpugh9, Hey girl. I know you. I feel you. There’s NOTHING that will comfort you? Like there’s no way out, like why am I so affected by this bull shit I’m stronger than this.
FEEL IT. Keep feeling it. Don’t diminish your feelings or your experience, because it’s YOUR experience, it cannot be defined by what you think you SHOULD be feeling or doing.
I’ve actually done this and it really truly helps at the biological level:
@ijesuschrist, Um sorry, but meditation has nothing to do with believing it works or not. Meditation dives where the mind can’t go. a belief is something that the mind does. If you are going in thinking your going to achieve anything it is actually quite counter productive and set you up for failure as you get alluded with the thought that there’s benefits to it and you start romantizing about it (which can distract you from being aware). Mindfulness includes watching these beliefs as they pass. If you are properly meditating it doesn’t matter wether you believe it or not because the meditative state itself happens on a different level (although not believing it and also getting distracted with the thought keeping you in the reigns of the mind is counter productivr as well). If you have meditated and thought it was going to work and then you got benefits it probably WAS a placebo and you actually weren’t achieving the level of consious awareness that meditation has to offer. Cheers!
@abbeylolee, Great advice. To detach from our suffering we must fully engage in the experience itself no matter how unpleasant it is. This is the quickest way to heal. The paradox of it all.
@cpugh9, I think you’re on the right track. Fuck this. Fuck it all. No dilemmas.
totally contradictory to your “life philosophy”
i’m a carefree girl. the happiest you’ll ever meet. life takes unexpected turns everyday, but i do my best to just roll with the punches.
What terrible advice you guys are giving. Meditation isn’t the cure to everything. Time is.
Meditation can only go so far. If your worldly vision is constrained you have nothing to work with! Pain is necessary, it tells you that there is more to come and teaches you what you don’t like! Those things might seem pointless to you but don’t worry, in time you will understand.
Don’t think it’s okay to constantly linger on negative thoughts though, it never is. If that’s the case, you need to do some other activities which allow you to shift your mindset and give you broader perspectives.
You don’t need to focus all of the time. That’s why we have entertainment, sad moments, music, companionship :)
@cpugh9, hey, its all in the mind. read the posts on the following thread.
@bobbylloydxd, Lol! I thought that too
I phrased that wrong it isn’t that I CAN’T meditate it’s that I haven’t been able to, no matter how long I sit and try to clear my head.
after you get ready to meditate as @frosted1 described, sit and once you close your eyes play a little game with yourself, pretend you’re underwater except that you can breathe totally fine. Focus on your breathe and how it feels, feel it’s rhythm. then every time a though enters your head, let it go into a little bubble, and let it float up above you until it’s gone. keep doing this until you become one with your breathe.
@cpugh9, This is the problem.
You ask others to fix it for you…
Only you can fix it.
You can’t focus? Well, keep going at it until you succeed.
Strenghten your mind. Choose it, here and now.
Just hang in there, and keep pushing.
Peace and love
@manimal, I just need to open my eyes!!! The only way I can explain it is nonsensical… And more than anything frustrating. None of it matters I’m aware of that, I’m not unhappy, but I’m not happy and I’m not doing what i want. I know I need to be independent, I’m just being impatient. Thanks for the advice!
^^^^you see how ADD that was??? Trying to focus is nearly impossible
Hopefully this should put you at ease as far as meditations concerned. It’s not about silencing the mind, it’s about seeing where your mind goes. It’s impossible to get the mind to just shut up, but it’s the act of observing your thoughts to see if the ones that pop up regularly are the right ones. You shouldn’t be able to not think, you’re a living, breathing human!
it sounds like youre really beating yourself up about the way youve been thinking. just accept them. over time, theyll go away. but if you keep trying to run from them, they will follow you.
think of thoughts the same way you think of people. when people wont leave you alone, it means they at least want to be heard. there are 2 things you can do to make tenacious people go away. you could ignore them, or you could just hear them out until they have nothing more do say. treat your thoughts like this.
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