Cure Me of My Weak-Mindedness

You need about 3 months of pure dedication to “change” your “bad” habits.

You have to accept these things – meditation, focusing, self-belief, self-control, confidence.

All I’m going to say now.

No one can’t meditate. Its just that they don’t.
Its very much like placebo – you MUST believe in it for it to work, or it does nothing.
If you do not believe in it, then you’ll just chase your tail.

This does not, however, make it some kind of “fake” thing – indeed it is the opposite, it shows the power of your own perceptions over your life. Belief in one thing can change your life.

@cpugh9, Alan Watt’s audio lecture series titled “Out of your mind: The nature of consciousness” Buy it if you can, but it’s expensive. Did somebody say torrent?? It’s 14 hours long.. Every second is well worth the listen. You can thank me later.

She’s asking how to get over a guy, not how to meditate.

Meditation is the only way, and you can do it! It’s not a matter of right or wrong, can or can’t just let those thoughts go! Try reading up about it on this site http://www.how-to-meditate.org/breathing-meditations.htm/….just don’t be so hard on yourself meditation is something that comes naturally just keep sitting til you feel the benefits, it will be 100% worth it.

@cpugh9, Hey girl. I know you. I feel you. There’s NOTHING that will comfort you? Like there’s no way out, like why am I so affected by this bull shit I’m stronger than this.

FEEL IT. Keep feeling it. Don’t diminish your feelings or your experience, because it’s YOUR experience, it cannot be defined by what you think you SHOULD be feeling or doing.
Through my own journey I’ve realized it’s unproductive to layer guilt/shame/disgust on top of sadness and anger. THAT is the bullshit. FEEL IT. FEEL the original. There’s intelligence in our emotions.

I’ve actually done this and it really truly helps at the biological level:
Grab a pillow or some kind of inanimate object and hold the shit out of it. Just hold it tight over your heart and imagine it’s that part of YOU that you might be avoiding. That part of YOU that might need to cry for a few hours. Hold yourself, love yourself, if you feel like it’s corny feel that too. Instead of listening to your thoughts, feel the pain in your body. What does your chest feel like? Your heart? Where does it hurt the most? FEEEEEL IT. GO big, let it out, how many tears do you have?

@abbeylolee, Great advice. To detach from our suffering we must fully engage in the experience itself no matter how unpleasant it is. This is the quickest way to heal. The paradox of it all.

totally contradictory to your “life philosophy”

i’m a carefree girl. the happiest you’ll ever meet. life takes unexpected turns everyday, but i do my best to just roll with the punches.

Meditation can only go so far. If your worldly vision is constrained you have nothing to work with! Pain is necessary, it tells you that there is more to come and teaches you what you don’t like! Those things might seem pointless to you but don’t worry, in time you will understand.

Don’t think it’s okay to constantly linger on negative thoughts though, it never is. If that’s the case, you need to do some other activities which allow you to shift your mindset and give you broader perspectives.

You don’t need to focus all of the time. That’s why we have entertainment, sad moments, music, companionship :)

@bobbylloydxd, Lol! I thought that too

after you get ready to meditate as @frosted1 described, sit and once you close your eyes play a little game with yourself, pretend you’re underwater except that you can breathe totally fine. Focus on your breathe and how it feels, feel it’s rhythm. then every time a though enters your head, let it go into a little bubble, and let it float up above you until it’s gone. keep doing this until you become one with your breathe.

Hopefully this should put you at ease as far as meditations concerned. It’s not about silencing the mind, it’s about seeing where your mind goes. It’s impossible to get the mind to just shut up, but it’s the act of observing your thoughts to see if the ones that pop up regularly are the right ones. You shouldn’t be able to not think, you’re a living, breathing human!