Deal-Breakers in Relationships

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Anonymous (@)    9 months, 1 week ago

Do you have any? This can be any sort of relationship. Romantic, friendship, etc.

What has shaped them? In other words, how did you come up with them and have you ever ignored them?

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Anonymous (@)1 year, 4 months ago ago

No deal-breakers, everyone is unique and I am different from everyone in all ways.

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-If she weighs more than I do. (No explanation needed.)
-If she uses baby-talk. I feel belittled when a girl does that–like she doesn’t take me seriously at all.
-If she’s a vegan. Look, I respect other peoples’ beliefs, but I need my significant other to love meat at least HALF as much as I do. It’s normal, it’s healthy, and it’s actually possible to find a place to eat out.
-If she tries to strong-arm me into doing something I don’t want by holding physical intimacy hostage. In other words, “You won’t do this? Fine. No sex!” It’s manipulative and assuming I’m no more than a caveman.
-If she bites (while kissing, being frisky, etc.) What, are you on bath salts? I’m completely NOT into that at all. It f-cking hurts!
-If she’s a bad kisser. If I was dating Mila Kunis/Jennifer Aniston/Halle Berry/whoever and they were a bad kisser, the relationship would instantly earn a shelf life. Period.

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alexa (@alexa)1 year, 4 months ago ago
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TheSkaFish (@theskafish)1 year, 4 months ago ago

-Acts dumb on purpose/hides their true intelligence. It’s a bummer that some girls still in this day and age think dumb = cute. Well, as a guy, I can tell you that it’s not the case.

-Not a huge fan of capitalists/republicans/neocons, people who think money/status/family pedigree makes you better than someone. Though I probably won’t have to worry about this because I don’t think someone like that would ever be interested in me anyway.

-Not reading is also a bad sign.

-Excessive alcohol and marijuana use, and any and all super hard drug use (hallucinogens are ok though! I’m just saying, no crack/powder cocaine/heroin/meth etc. fiends….I’m not here to clean up their mess).

-No STDs, obviously.

- I’m not a huge fan of cigarette smokers, the smell is pungent and I can’t imagine how kissing one would taste very nice. Though I would not say it’s a dealbreaker because I can always hope/inspire them to quit.

-No gangsters…..I realize gangster girls are rare but all the same I don’t want to be there when shit hits the fan.

-Kids…..would have to think it over…..I know I won’t be ready for kids for a while and don’t really want to take care of some deadbeat’s kids that aren’t even mine. I would if I absolutely had to, but I really don’t want to…..that’s what their dad should have been for.

-Girls who play mindgames……mindgames are a waste of my youth and I won’t have it.

-No dreamkillers, people who always shoot down things as unrealistic. No haters on things like fantasy, which I am into. I guess that’s it!

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Alex (@alexishungry)1 year, 4 months ago ago

Stupidity, ignorance, apathy
Immaturity, not handling problems in a productive way

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LSP (@LumpySpacePrincess)9 months, 1 week ago ago

-someone with no drive or passion(s) in life
-not goal oriented
-a shitty sense of humor
-not respectful
-lack of integrity

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TearEmUpTara (@TearEmUpTara)9 months, 1 week ago ago

I will never, ever date another man who plays WoW. Had a couple bad experiences with a few men. Boys. Whatever.
Long story short…the straw that broke the camel’s back:
Surprised him with really hot lingerie. He had to raid.
I left and never looked back.

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emma (@emmaclaire)9 months, 1 week ago ago

@LumpySpacePrincess, I read your post in a lumpy space princess voice. Hilarious.

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inna (@paintedbeings)9 months, 1 week ago ago

I can’t be friends with people who harp at my free time to fill their I’m-bored time-holes

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Kidd (@kidd)9 months, 1 week ago ago

For romantic relationships, I think less about what I don’t want and more about what I do. If you don’t meet my standards, then you’re not worth my time. Simple as that. But, you have to be my friend first. I realize that I can’t date anyone I’ve just meant. I need to know him or her for a while.

That said, for friendships, I’m very lenient assuming you can get over the wall I put up, haha. I’m still working on being a little more open with people, but the people who can are generally good people. I guess being a little cautious isn’t all bad–easy to weed out the less than stellar.

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secretagentpeter (@secretagentpeter)9 months, 1 week ago ago

She doesn’t listen to mainstream music
She isn’t prejudice
Honest with how she’s feeling and thinking (Doesn’t hide any feelings)
Confident and doesn’t blame other people for things
Doesn’t make permanent decisions based of a temporary feeling
Girls who DON’T constantly ask if what they said offended me (I like girls who are confident in what they say Dammit!)
Someone who allows conversations to have mutual control (meaning they don’t control the conversation and have only them talk, also I hate when girls completely depend on me to say everything because I like mutuality. Small talk really sucks)

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TheSkaFish (@theskafish)9 months, 1 week ago ago

I have to be genuinely excited about them, stoked to be with them, happy to weave them into my life, they have to make me feel lucky…..sadly, this eliminates just about everyone.

Just like I really struggle working up the motivation to apply for jobs I’m not truly interested in, I’d have to struggle to work up the motivation to chase a girl that I’m not truly interested in.

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Obfuscate (@HowardHolmes)9 months, 1 week ago ago

Deal breakers in relationships is for me (ME) to blame, complain, criticize, judge, need, care. There are no deal breakers as far as the other person goes because it is totally within my power to accept.

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Marie (@ARCANUS)9 months, 1 week ago ago

@AARISHPATELL, “i think a lot of the other stuff you can train them to do properly or compromised” —

Romantic relationship turn-offs:

If he treats people like shit, like if his mum calls and he doesn’t answer – for no good reason.
If he’s unsure of himself and has a need to prove himself all the time and attempts to control others or behave threatening.
If he laughs at other people’s pain, and has no care and respect for others.
If he doesn’t like women.
If he brags excessively.
If he’s a chain-smoker.
If he thinks buying me expensive stuff will make me happy.

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Marie (@ARCANUS)9 months, 1 week ago ago

All that being said, it’s better to focus on what I do want rather than what I don’t want.

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LSP (@LumpySpacePrincess)9 months, 1 week ago ago


did I mention if they don’t have any lumps worth looking or touching? LOL