Deleting your facebook account
Has anybody done this? Has it enhanced your life in any way, shape or form?
I feel as though I am on the thing all the time without even realising it. It’s turned into almost a nervous habit of simply checking it whether I am at home or on my phone. I have friends overseas who I fear I would not stay in touch with if I delete it, but I am slowly in the process of adding them to skype (hell, we’d probably have better conversations on there anyway).
Has anyone gone cold turkey and felt a lot better for it? Or have you simply taken a break?
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I have! I used to be exactly like you. I deleted mine many times but always went back to it (b/c it doesn’t really delete). So about 2 years ago I couldn’t take it anymore I deleted my fb and the email account my fb was connected to. You feel a lot better. You can stop feeling “Is someone thinking of me right now? Is someone thinking of me and writing me on fb??” Instead you just chill out and explore yourself better.
I went for the longest time without a Facebook. It wasn’t until a couple years ago that I finally got one and, I’d argue, for the better. I mean, I didn’t want one because of all the screen shots and stories I hear about stupid things like Facebook fights and petty rants. But, I’m glad now that I have one.
Here’s the thing: Facebook is a social network, but it doesn’t have to be a shallow and petty popularity contest. My sister, for example, would scoff at the fact that I “only” have fifty-some friends–some I’ve met online, others I’ve always known–but because of that, I’m never disappointed in my newsfeed. If there’s not something for me to laugh at, there’s something for me to think about, or someone to discuss things with.
I don’t add people who will junk up my newsfeed; I add people who’ll make me love it.
As cliche as it is, life is as you make it and Facebook isn’t any different. Just clear out the shit that you don’t want to see and make sure you really value the people on your list. I visit it only about once or twice a day and I’m perfectly happy.
That all being said, Facebook is like a second High Existence to me because of my pickiness with my friend/like list. If that’s not what Facebook is to you–if it’s not something you made and you feel like it’s just another social network–I say delete it. If you’re stressed over it, delete it. If you’re checking it all the time, delete it. Or get in control and make it yours, not the other way around.
@staylucky, I deleted it once, for about a week or 2. IT was alright, I just felt like – shit, what if someones throwing a party and uses fb instead of phone? What if someone distant is going to a really awesome concert that I want to go to? People who I don’t normally talk to post some really radical awesome stuff, so I like it for that.
For the negativity it brings (addiction to internet) it truly is a social tool.
I like the idea of removing the psychological dependency aspect of it, and I don’t like the idea of contributing to Zuckerberg’s billions for creating essentially nothing substantial (Facebook is nice but it’s hardly hyperdrive or full-on electric cars) but at the same time, it’s just a tool. No one is forcing me to check it more than once a day, if at all. And not only that, but it’s my only line of communication between me and some people that I wouldn’t get to talk to otherwise, and I feel being able to talk to them justifies having a Facebook account.
@kidd, that makes a lot of sense, and recently I have just been unsubscribing from everyone on my feed who posts moronic crap that I have no interest in. So far it’s been pretty good in filtering crap down.
@ijesuschrist, That’s sort of why i’m apprehensive about deleting it as well. There are some people who do everything on there in terms of organising plans, and while it might be fair to say that if people forget to invite you to places because you’re not on Facebook then you’re not really friends, the truth is more that everyone has simply migrated there. I organised birthday drinks as an event and to be completely honest, I haven’t even stopped to think if there’s someone not on FB who I was meant to invite.
There is also the fact that I am subscribed to a lot of interesting pages that post thought-provoking articles, or simply stories that are relevant to my interests.
I think I might just do a serious unsubscribing session and turn my wall into a news feed of media outlets and 20 or so truly interesting friends.
I. I’ve taken it down a couple times for a few weeks or a month but now I’ve had it down for over 4 months I think.
I got rid of it because I was tired of seeing somany people complain about such trivial bullshit everyday. Literally, everyday. Also, it becomes a fucking lame habit. I found myself almost subconsciously at times just pressing the facebook app on my phone just to mindlessly browse over things that I didn’t even have interest in reading. Don’t get me wrong, it can be enjoyable but in my opinion it just gets stale.
Life without facebook is absolutely fine.
Life without Facebook is better.You engage in more personal social interactions and you will see your friendships blossom.
I still use Facebook however because it’s a very useful tool to contact all my friends through one medium. Plus, having everyone’s social life, although semi weird, organized in front of me is nice.
I guess a healthy median would be to just use Facebook less. I’m pretty convinced they monitor my stuff, but at this point I’ve given up because anything the government/the corporations want to know about me, they can probably find it with ease. Ah, the glory of the internet.
I look forward to a day where people are connected even closer than how they are now. Instead of behind a screen of a phone or computer, I wait for video chat to become even easier accessible to make it the default form of communication.
…or something better that’s not out yet. Who knows!
I never had one up until about a year ago and after that I only had it for a few months before deleting it. I found myself in your situation checking it much more than necessary. I do think @ijesuschrist has a good point with the information you can receive with facebook. But as with anything it has positive and negative aspects to it, it is up to the user to decide which which outweighs the other.
I find that without facebook I call people more and have begun to write letters to people. Think about how it feels getting a letter from someone knowing that they didn’t just make two mouse clicks and type a few words but instead took the time to gather the supplies necessary and then venture to the post office or out to their mailbox to mail it to you. Similar thing with a phone call, by calling someone, you show them that you are dedicating the the next 3 minutes or 3 hours to them, not just typing while your bored or doing something else. It is in this way I have found who really enjoys talking with me and who doesn’t. People seem to really appreciate it when I take the time to do those things and thank me for it, especially when it is someone who I don’t talk to often or who isn’t used to communicating in those ways.
I also find that what is said is much more important during other methods of communication. It seems people sometimes are just looking for and worrying about things to post on facebook instead of enjoying the time they spent doing whatever it was. I see people trying to one up each other and see people feeling bad about themselves watching others facebook updates.
This is just from my experience. I don’t feel I’m missing much without facebook. But as with anything I am open to change.
The thing is, you have this amazing tool that allows you to connect with anyone or anything just about anywhere in the world for free. I used to be pessimistic about the idea of facebook. But when you look at it for what it really is it is absolutely amazing. Compare it to food, you can eat well and be healthy, or eat poorly and become morbidly obese. With facebook, you can fill your friends and things you like with terrible people and ideas that will only bring negativity to mind. Or you can use it positively to enhance your mind with new ideas and people who inspire you to be great. The website isn’t the issue, it’s how you’re using it.
With this amazing tool that is the internet, your race or gender or nationality has little importance. The internet is all over the world, aiding our greatest minds to connect with one another in a way never before possible pushing our technology further and further, manifesting the ideas in our minds into a material external reality. HOWEVER, you can see on the other side, the majority of minds in the world have not kept up with this rapid evolution of technology. We are still living with materialism and possessiveness. Rather than putting our thoughts and creativity into our external reality, the technology in the consumer’s hands is more often used for taking pictures of themselves and judging one another. Thoughts have remained more or less stagnant while technology is evolving faster and faster. It’s time we catch up.
It does not matter whether you delete it or not, it is how you cope with having or not having it.
It is like with every addiction. It is not difficult to abstain from alcohol when you spend a year in the dessert, but it is the art to abstain from alcohol when spending every evening in a bar. Same with facebook, you can delete it and then it will not be difficult to stay away from it, but the art is to stay away from it without deleting it, and choosing to browse it whenever you want/do not want.
People start looking forward to meet you and you look forward to meeting them too. And that’s good.
I think All the posts above will further confuse you if you haven’t decided yet. I am 3 years sober and let me tell you it’s not easy. People will ask you why are you not on fb and will ask you to comeback. But just decide right now and stick to it.
Also, it’s not a suicide. You can always make an account again if you don’t like the change.
Here’s how you permanently delete your account:
Havent been on FB for about two years. Nothing groundbreaking but it does provide you with an outside experience when others talk about Facebook. Endless hours of stalking are now spent elsewhere. Twitter is a great resource for latest news and keeping up with people that interest you.
Get off for a month and you’ll forget all about it.
@staylucky, Just dont be one of those people that deletes it, then rejoins and makes a post making it a big deal that they are back. Attention seekers.
I use fb for funny memes, sports news, and other news thats attached through it. No addiction here, I usually log on when I have some down time and I want to see some funny pics.
“No hope for the human race” is a hilarious fb page for Meme’s, if anyone is looking.
I deleted my facebook for 3 months and came back on it. it was nice to be reminded of some good times, it depends on what type of person you are really. For me it’s the platform people post videos and pics on and taht really is good to look back at on from tiem to time ( not too much ) i might have to say im wasting alot of time on it again tho :P
i have a facebook account and use it in a daily basis, but I refuse to have the app on my phone for several reasons. 1. I don’t trust their privacy policies, So I won’t give them my phone number and I have it linked to a fake email address. 2. There is no need for me to check it when I’m not on my computer, if anything urgent comes up then they can damn well ring or visit me. Same principle as not breaking up with someone or telling them something too important by txt, it’s down right rude. 3. I need me time, and a fair bit of it. Having it on my phone would just invade my space.
There are heaps of little reasons but that’s the core of it. Facebook and any internet service can wait until I have time for it.
@staylucky, The last paragraph you wrote makes it sound like your talking about a drug lol. Well in a sense for some people it can be, and depending on how you use it matters. I use it to spread the word from this site mostly, hoping that more and more people will sign up and become more aware of things the TV wont tell them.
If you arent using it to your advantage and you are just using it to stalk peoples lives than its probably better to delete it. If you are using it to connect with old friends, share meaningful ideas and what not then keep it.
I’ve been on it less than a year and it sucks ass, nothing but a bunch of people I know who do not know me, people who’s language I speak but none speak mine. On HE everyone is virtually, but I should say literally, a stranger to me but I am more at home than I am with people I have know all my life. So sad.
I did,one of the reasons being, that you make a persona, you show what you perceive as being your best side, which is contrary to what I want. It motivates you to live out of the moment, you see pictures of the past and events of the future, I could ramble about fb a lot, but I won’t
If you feel like deleting your fb, do it, don’t be a pussy and think you won’t fit in anymore, or miss those awesome parties, get your ass on the street and walk stmble upon a party.
A good tip is to reduce the addiction is to minimize the news feed. just make a lot friend-strangers not visible on the news feed. i have 900 friends, but only get like 1-3 updates during a whole day. that way i get easily bored and most of the time i forget to check it. now i only use it for group discussions with my board, planning parties trips etc, which means almost never use it in weekends and during working hours. it feels great! facebook is a really good tool as long as one filter out the addiction, thats why im not deleting my account.
The way I see it is that you have to detach yourself from the popularity races that facebook hosts.
Facebook has become integrated into most peoples lives as a means of communication. It’s also beginning to integrate itself with other sites and apps to make signing up for such sites quicker and easier.
I don’t agree with the whole vanity aspect of facebook. Designing your page to become as “pretty” to other facebook users as possible and posting to seek a reaction from others are all levels of lower consciousness in my opinion.
The same can be said for twitter. I myself have, admittedly, become a frequent user of twitter and to be honest this topic here has made me think and re-evaluate my reasons for using the site. As @creds said, facebook is a great tool, the danger is when it becomes a new reality, a new world.
Twitter and facebook can, if used in an improper manner lead us down the path of trying to impress everyone and further away from that goal of higher existence. However, if used properly, I believe they can act as a catalyst for change and personal evolution.