I have suffered from depression, and can feel its onset coming back again. I find that everything I do makes me upset, I lack the motivation to start or complete anything, stress is just mounting and I find myself without much support. Do you guys have any suggestions on what I might do to to improve my situation and any others that feel this way?
I find that taking time out of your day to tell yourself (out loud especially) what is good about your life right now, which can be as simple as “today I have beaten my personal record for not dying” or at the very least recognizing what could have gone wrong or aggravated you that day, but hadn’t works wonders for staving off deression, it’s all about changing your perspectie man, and if you have the time….there are no drawbacks to meditation
Don’t expect what is maybe not coming.
Do you feel that everything you do is pointless, or do you think that no one appreciates what you do ? If you don’t feel any of this, then this is not really depression, but just weariness of everyday monotonous routine. You may be used to more dynamics when nothing interesting happens and just don’t know how to approach something new, or you don’t even know that you need something different. :)
The sunshine follows thunder, eh? Well, the thunder doesn’t last much, so worrying about something that will also pass is kinda fucking pointless. Hahaha.
“So much of what we worry about never happens. So why worry about it?” -Robin Sharma
That’s exactly what I feel, and everyday just seems to reinforce that point more and more.
I get what you’re saying but if i did that for like the last month pretty much the only thing i have is “im not dead yet”, everything is just going south and i find myself losing hope.
Meditation puts me at ease for the moments that I am doing it, but it is helping so I might just meditate more. A lot of stress will be lifted after Thursday though so maybe I won’t feel as shitty?
I feel your pain, I’m in the same situation. Lately I’ve been doing a lot of meditating and I seem to be climbing out of it… I hope.
One big problem I face is that when I want to start something I know I won’t be consistent so I don’t bother.
Nikola, do you often ponder existential questions?
YO YO YO! I find myself slipping into depression stupors every now and then, i’ve become more adept at combatting them. some quick pointers you may choose to implement.
-Tell your parents (if living) you love them (if you do). (It just does something. It’s pure)
-Trust your fucking instincts. If you want help, ask the universe for help, then start trusting your instincts as the puzzle pieces start coming back together. This is not instant satisfaction. But holds strong in the long run.
-Block everything out for a little bit… (2-6min a day) to explore yourself with unfailing dedication. Probe your emotions and find out what is imbalanced within. Figure out exactly what is the root of the problem and slaughter it. 2-6 min with no distractions and absolute dedication to yourself can accomplish a lot. Maybe too much. But it’s never too much. You can handle it. Whether you believe it or not, you know the cause of and solution to every internal dilemma. You just have to consult yourself and go inside. The flipside to that coin is that inside ourselves is the scariest place imaginable, it holds all of our deepest fears and truths. And yet again the third flipside to this complex coin is that nothing within is too great for us because it is of us. You can never lose, only grow.
good luck nikola
hello :) i suffer from severe depression, and it comes and goes. you need to keep yourself motivated, no matter how hard it is, find something to live for, something that makes you strong, something you look forward to and something that keeps your mind busy and in action. what i’ve been trying0 and trust a sister, it helps amazingly, is meditation. this will give you a clear mind and a positive outlook. try Binaural Beats if you’re having troubles keeping your mind focused. your mind is your own worst enemy, control it before it takes a toll on you. also, try inspirational videos, speakers, etc.
check ishafoundation.org — he helped me. be sure to watch his motivational and inspiring videos on youtube too. heres a link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=40p2OAcJ8uk&feature=related
take it seriously and i can assure you it will help. goodluck my brother x
Two things that help take the ease off (but do not cure) my depression are exercise and vitamin D. My depression without these things is all different kinds of bad as opposed to my depression with them. I won’t lie, if I’m in that state where I’m just lying in bed smelling like a stink cloud and drooling slightly, they won’t help much. But they’re good preventative measures for me and I’ve found since I’ve made exercise, healthy eating and supplements a routine I’ve had fewer and shorter bad spells.
Small goals also help. Don’t overwhelm yourself with anything, but everyday make a small, achievable goal for yourself that you will complete by the end of the day. This could be as simple as making your bed, reading a few pages of a book, a short session of meditation, whatever works.
I would also agree with what everyone else has posted, but I wanted to suggest something different.
Take a deep breath, inhale through the nose, hold it, tell yourself to smile and be happy, exhale, you’ll be happy.
Also, I had depression last year and it made me as who I am today. I grew a lot from it, everyone does (usually). In order to change for the better, we need to be stressing to our veins. True for the inner world and outer.
I suffered from depression on and off for the past 10 years. I virtually have to depend on a cocktail of drugs to get me through the day. It has not been easy. My advice to you nikola….speak to someone or join a support group that has experience with depression. They know what you are going through and be able to help you more effectively.
i try to remember: sadness is as natural as rain. people fear it like death, but it is inevitable and okay. let yourself go through what you need to, but don’t wallow or feel sorry for yourself because your sadness is not special or different.
depression is like an ugly dog that follows you around. try to find someone you can laugh with at it. if not, then try to laugh at it yourself.
@wizster, AMEN!!! All of your points are spot on!.. and in the perfect order :) Only thing I would add after calling your folks if you can is to GO OUTSIDE! – Whatever it takes.. even if to just sit on the front porch, go for a walk, go for a drive, go to the book store (<-one of my faves and I never even buy anything.)
I think today most people have had their bouts with depression in one way or another and now matter how much or often we have felt it, it is an intense and serious feeling. Some people can control it within them, others need a little help.. I know I have
**listen to your instincts and trust them** Much love to you @Nikola
when i was a little kid i had anxiety attacks and that led to depression. I don’t suffer from this as much as i did when i was a child. i find it to be useful it has actually helped me much as an artist. embrace it, feel the beauty in it, this feeling only lets you know you are alive, don’t misunderstand it, it is only trying to let you know the truth. you seee when you are depressed you see things differently you loose hope, you find yourself confused, you feel lonely, its just filled with negativity. i look at it as a state of mild insanity, because you try to connect things that some times just don’t go, you have to trick yourself in order to stay sane. try to cry but think about what it is you are crying about embrace it like i said let the truth be known. if you can smoke some weed, i know that was major help for me, do it.