This is probably a stupid question. But i’ve been thinking about it alot lately. What is the difference between sex and love?
Everyone has their own opinions and i’d like to see what other people think, it’s always good to be open minded.
P.S. I’m not sure what category this would be considered haha
To me, the difference between love and sex is the time spent between the two. Love is spending time and genuinely enjoying being with the other person (making their problems your problems, getting excited when they are excited, etc.) Sex is just a physical goal, and can be quite selfish if that’s the only outcome of the relationship you really care about. To me, loving someone is much more fulfilling than just gettin some ass.
I know people call the act of sex ‘making love’ and sure, there’s some truth there. But I think love is it’s own creation between two people and sex (with someone you have feelings for) is an act of celebration for the love you feel for one another. Love is like baking a cake haha and sex is like eating it together.
I like to think of them as complements, two sides of the same coin. Love is accepting and cherishing the entirety of someone’s being – their strengths, their imperfections, their dreams and fears. Love is an action of thought. Sex, on the other hand, is a physical expression of love. Sex is the absolute acceptance of someone’s body, the joining of two disparate selves into one. To pleasure your partner is to show them that you love their body and want desperately for them to be happy and to experience Euphoria together.
Sex is something that anyone can do. It does not require skill and is not hard to find. You feel an orgasm and that is about it. Love, on the other hand, is rare. That is something that your heart finds for you. It does not require you to use your head. Love is about appreciating the person for everything they are and everything they are not. You start to remember every conversation you’ve had with that person cause each one means something. Your stomach flips up like when you are on a roller coaster. Every day, you hope to see this person. And when you’re not with that person, you miss them. I believe that there are people that can have sex without falling in love and good for them. But there are also people who can love without having sex.
I think love is beyond wanting the physical intimacy with your partner. It is caring for him sometimes more than about yourself. Sex yes can be a way of showing a person that you love him thus we called it making love. But these times sex is just something that people do. To gratify a need. Sadly out of lust.
Love is an emotion, sex is an act.
Despite what theists (well some like Christians, not all granted) think, sex is not inherently for love. Pleasure, connection, fun and ritual are commonly noted reasons for sex.