Dreaming Too Big? — On Having High Ambitions
Hey y’all. I’m 16, 17 in a month, and here are some of my life goals:
- create a passive income business that provides more value than I receive and allows me to live more than comfortably (meaning I can pay all my expenses and then some with it; probably relating to a blog since I’ve started one already)
- earn an Olympic medal (no idea in what event, maybe sprinting?)
- earn a Nobel prize (probably Peace)
- give a TED talk
- write a bestseller
- complete an Irnoman Triathlon
What do you think? Is this too much? I honestly believe I have what it takes to tackle these challenges and succeed, changing the world as I go.
What are your hardest goals? Do you think one should even set so many tough goals? Please discuss and elucidate me with your answers :)
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@vasco, First of all, congrats for being so forward thinking at your age. Good stuff.
A quote that resonated with me is “Live in reality, dream beyond it.”
It’s important to have big goals and dreams. Tough is good, because it means you’ll have to work your hardest to get them.
As long as your goals and dreams are something that you can actually do, then nothing is too big. For instance, if your dream is to become an Astronaught or the best swimmer in the world..well there are a lot of factors outside of your control. But if you want write a bestseller, that’s hard, but doable!
Have a positive attitude, but realize limitations when they exist.
Would you rather dedicate 10 years of your life to try and become an Olympic swimmer, or would you rather dedicate 1 year each to the other goals and succeed at all of them? You can have a lot of dreams, but realize the return on investment and see which ones are worth working towards.
Live in reality, dream beyond it.
@vasco Hey man, I’ve been wondering the same thing myself recently because I have a whole list of goals and dreams. All of them are possible but I don’t know how reasonable. People I know think I am just joking and don’t take me seriously or they just don’t believe it will happen…downers. Honestly though, everyone has dreams and goals when they are young, to be rich or famous or the best or whatever, but most everybody gives up on these dreams as they get older because they think they are being ‘realistic’, which is a damn shame and quite sad. That is why so many people today work jobs they hate or are dissatisfied with, because they think they need to, that they are trapped. The truth is man, it depends on the person and how determined and persevering they are. It’s about putting in the overtime…how bad do you want it? If you think you can, man, then you’re half way there. It’s about total commitment and believing you have what it takes. The people in history who believed they could change history, generally do! So congrats man and I hope to be hearing your name one day in the Olympics :)
These are my goals/dreams, no joke. Obviously, I don’t think I will do ALL of them but at least some/most:
Donate entire fortune to charity and/or donate a kidney/organ.
Start a revolution.
Subvert the dominant paradigm.
Get in a fight.
Find the American Dream.
Save a life.
Win the Nobel Peace Prize
Become a hero and fight crime.
Make a difference.
Live life-Don’t be a slave to the norm. (cliche whatever)
Explore the world.
Grow/hunt my own food.
Disappear-erase online footprint
-cancel all accounts,memberships, profiles, jobs, commitments, etc
-Withdraw. Leave and live life.
Fake my own death.
Name my son batman (or something sick like Zappa did)
-Or not have kids.
Have and live in my own sailboat and chillax all the time.
Become a mountain man.
Have an underground bus fortress. *other note.
Successfully learn to lucid dream.
Get in a full on fistfight and not get in trouble.
Become a vigilante.
Know what to say.
Make a song/rap.
Follow the road less traveled.
Start a religion.
Have a positive influence on the future.
Implement a “Just Do It” and “Yes man!” attitude.
Make a video/song/YouTube vid that becomes a hit.
Drive a fast race car really fast.
Get totally lost in a big city.
Fly around in a wingsuit.
Sensory deprivation tank.
Write a book or autobiography.
Die young. (Maybe in the process of saving someone)
Go into the wild! Untraceable!
BECOME A LEGEND
@theskafish, It just made me really want to hug you. :(
All I can say is that I hope you did well, and even if you didn’t some of your fears aren’t necessarily set in stone. Money is obviously an issue, but are there any other stressors in your life that you could cut out? I obviously don’t know your entire situation, but I also wanted to add that (although the future is important) spending a lot of time dwelling on what may or may not come seems to be wreaking havoc on your emotions. Again, that doesn’t mean the future is important, but all we can really work with is the present (and learning from past actions).
Humans seem small compared to the vastness of space. There are many things I’d like to see for myself, but I’ve made peace with how long it would take to get to most of those places (even at the speed of light). I want to see Earth from a distance, moonwalk on the moon, walk on Mars, etc. I also want to take flying lessons. It’s Earthly, but it seems fun. :)
@vasco, It’s great to dream big. Go for it man. But dreams are just dreams, realising the goals you dream of takes a hell of a lot of work, and you’ve certainly got yourself a work load there. Have you ever heard the expression “Jack of all trades, master of none”? I’m not trying to put you down here but most of your goals people dedicate their entire lives to just achieving one of them. I’m not saying you can’t do it, if you think you can go for it, I’m just saying cut yourself some slack man. It will take so much time and effort that you would probably miss out on your life, and that’s not cool man. It’s important to help others, but you cannot help them if you are unfulfilled. Good luck in your endeavours, keep the dream alive.
My life goals:
Be recognised for my writing (not concerned about sales or popularity, just that it reaches people and I can be proud of what I have created)
Fall in love, like serious style
Help anyone who I come across that needs it
Do some volunteer work in the third world
You can definitely do all of these things. Fortunately, many of the goals you’ve chosen do not have to be done concurrently.
I’ve noticed two qualities in people who achieve incredible things. (They may represent two different strategies.)
One is an unwavering passion. Malcolm Gladwell describes TALENT not as innate ability, but rather how much someone will pursue an activity – even to the point of obsession. If you look at top athletes… yes, they had natural ability, but they also practiced all the time, obsessively. Their friends played video games and went out drinking, but all they wanted to do is shoot 3-pointers for 3 more hours or ride another 25 miles on their bike or do another 1,000 judo uchikomi. They entered every competition and never let setbacks slow them down. So, strategy #1 is obsession.
The second strategy is more the Tim Ferriss style. Ferriss is a life hacker. He set out to win a martial arts competition with very little preparation. Essentially, he gamed the rules and just got really good at picking up and throwing the other contestants out of the competition area. Maybe not sporting, but he won the competition, beating many competitors who had much more experience and technical fighting skill. He has hacked everything from Tango to cooking. So, make it happen. Want to speak at a TED conference? Well, guess what? You can HOST a TEDx conference. Why not? There are hundreds of local TEDx conferences all around the world every year. Then give yourself a speaking slot! That’s a hacker solution, but it counts!
Also, be open to opportunity and grace. Fortune favors the bold.
@theskafish, stop waiting to get somewhere before you leave the rat race bro. Leave right now and hitch hike to Colorado. Get a job at a ski resort. Learn to snowboard. Get a tattoo. Fall in love. Live happy.
This is one of infinite possibilities. It’s not success or ups. I’ve worked at ups man. I know it makes you want to kill yourself. But if you go explore you will find way awesome things that make life exciting.
I want you to be happy bro. You’ve seemed depressed for way too long. Let me know if I can help.
@vasco, No, you can’t have too big of dreams. You do have to be systematic if you’re serious about your goals though. It is possible to bite off more than you can chew, and get drained. So get hyped, but also pace yourself. I would say you’re off to a solid start.
“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.”
@dalniente, I’m sorry that my post made you sad…it’s just, I’m really worried about this final I took, because if I failed the course, I won’t get any more help in paying for my education and I have no money myself. I know it’s my own fault too, I felt really burnt out 3/4ths through the semester, though I’d been doing very well up to then. I’m currently working a seasonal near-minimum wage job at UPS out of a need for money in the immediate present, it’s frustrating but like I said I get through it by saying it’s just temporary. But if I fail this course and no longer receive support for education, it may be permanent…..being poor is so frustrating, always having to think about the price of pretty much everything, giving the same amount of hours as regular workers do but getting next to nothing in return, watching helplessly as bills and stupid state fees wipe out what little I have time and again. It isn’t that I am greedy or want to show off, I know that most of the stuff people do with money is just ego. But I just want to stop feeling like the bottom’s dropping out on me all the time, like Indiana Jones sprinting and just barely staying ahead of being crushed by that giant boulder. Maybe I worry too much…but the thought of spending the rest of my life working for near minimum wage extinguishes my desire to go on. That, and even if I had an average-paying job, I don’t want to go through life just like everyone else, bored out of my mind for the next 40-50 years until I retire as a broken, beaten, husk of a person.
On a lighter note, your goals seem pretty cool though! Especially that bit about exploring space. Do you want to fly ships? Visit other worlds? I’d like to hear about your space dreams.
If I tell you it’s too much, will you skip things? And that case, not it’s not too much.
If I tell you it’s not not too much, will you do all the things? In that case, it’s too much.\
Just do whatever you feel like doing.
You can’t dream too big, because it’s a dream! What you have wrote are not dreams, they are goals – and you know why?
“A goal is a dream with a deadline” – Napoleon Hill
So give your dreams a deadline (your lifespan) and go for it, but remember to enjoy the journey, cause that’s the essence of life!
Make sure you break up your overall dream goal into chunks and those chunks into monthly chunks and break those chunks into weekly chunks and those chunks into everyday activities to make sure you’re always making progress towards you big goals. Anything is possible.
@xyver, thanks dude. I plan to practice my coding over winter break so I’m good to go for next semester. Actually I’m trying not to think in terms of semesters or school at all, and more about how I’m going to get this field to bring me success, in which case there really is no break. But at the moment I’m really crossing my fingers I didn’t fail……I got a job and started feeling really burnt out, and had been bleeding points like crazy.
@vasco, no dreams are too big man and honestly if you have those passions, goals or whatever go for them. The things you do day in and day out are preparing you for what you are trying to accomplish. Just aim at doing one at a time and in the end you will complete them all. Take it step by step and good luck man.
Travel the world
Open a restaurant
Write a Cookbook
Open peoples minds to living green, consuming less, and helping change society
@bobbylloydxd, I’m sorry if I always come off as depressed, and I know that as a longtime member of this site and as a longtime member of, well, life, I really should be setting a better example than that. I’m not even depressed really, there was something I had been bummed about for a while but I got over it. No, I’m not depressed, but rather I feel under attack from all sides, always on the backfoot, always on defense…..I survive by telling myself exactly as you said, that it isn’t success or UPS (by which I mean success or minimum wage), and that this is only temporary, if I just endure it things will change….and also I just took a final, the outcome of which basically makes or breaks me in terms of education. I guess I’m just worried is all…but I don’t want to hijack this thread.
Thanks for the kind words, in any case.
This thread is very inspiring.
My goals: grow as a musician
grow as a Teacher
talk to more random people
sell all my unnecessary things
live somewhere with awesome culture
travel to other planets/dimensions
compose music and lead a group
higher forms of intellectual and spiritual expression
Nah man, don’t be afraid of dreaming big. The sky is NOT the limit.
Aim for the moon, but you may or may not hit, however if you miss you’ll end up in some other awesome place.
I highly doubt the olympics thing though, not to be a naysayer, but if you have no idea what event then you won’t succeed. Do you even know which sports you’re good at? And how good are you at these?
Keep in mind that most successful athletes started when they were really young, and they started because they had a lot of raw talent. They work very hard, almost every day, and they can’t indulge in a lot of normal people stuff.
Here’s the thing, dreaming big is nice and all, but it won’t get you anywhere. If you want to make the dreams come true, you gotta work hard, and work smart. Do things in the right order so that you build optimal momentum and get the path of least resistance.
I would start with the income and Ironman, because they are by far the easiest, and have the most potential to propel you forward. The passive income game is actually very, very easy.
If you write a bestseller or win the nobel prize, getting to do a TED talk won’t be a problem.
But if you’re gonna win the nobel peace prize, you gotta do some big things.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a naysayer, but you gotta work really hard and really smart if you want to make your dreams come true. And it’s fucking worth it.
Don’t dawdle, you gotta put all the “spare time activities” aside if you wanna make it happen. No parties, no videogames, no drugging, just work.
Are you willing to do that?
If so, then I have no doubt that you’ll achieve massive great things.
@vasco, Sorry to say man, but your goals are quite egoistic. You want money. You want fame. You want to be BETTER THAN EVERYONE ELSE at athletics. You want to be BETTER THAN EVERYONE ELSE at writing books… Not that your goals are bad, but you must understand that you’ve got to work reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally hard to just complete a single one of them and chances are that you will accomplish none of these. But I wish you good luck and the best of life! :)
My own goals are:
- get to know God better.
- accomplish this http://www.highexistence.com/life-secrets-and-tips/
- write music (will probably never produce an album)
- write stories/ a book (will probably never be published)
- give my children a good cildhood
- keep learning for my entire life
- run a marathon
- find THE ONE
- be an inspiration to others
I think that one should choose his goals for the journey, not for the goal.
@vasco, Go for it, man!
Although on the sprinting medal. Do you already run track or anything? Because most people that compete in these sports have been doing it their whole life or have done some form of intense sport. Not trying to discourage but just suggesting to get in training for it!
I also want to give a TED talk :)
I think that, despite some of my goals being very hard, it’s good for me to aim for them. I might have high ambitions but I don’t have any expectations: as long as I’m working towards the goals, actually achieving them doesn’t really matter. I will work towards achieving them but not base my sense of self worth on whether I do achieve them. Besides, another one of my goals, which I am working on right now, is to be happy no matter what, so that will help if I ‘fail’ at the others.
I know this is not the right thread, but I’d also like to ask you to check out my blog and maybe give me some feedback (http://www.vascobrazao.com) on the content (I’ll work on the design later) — do you think it actually provides value to people and helps them? How could I make it better?
Thanks again :)
I believe the most valuable thing in setting and achieving goals is the journey. The higher your goals are, the more developed you’ll become. (of course if you work hard on achieving your resolutions)
So yeah, dream big.
Nothing wrong with aiming big. Just remain focused. I’ve achieved a lot looking back. Featured in a BBC program, Ball Boy at Wimbledon & Performed in the first music concert in Sierra Leone to name a few.
Have your goals. Try and live out your dreams!