Dreaming Too Big? — On Having High Ambitions
I think that, despite some of my goals being very hard, it’s good for me to aim for them. I might have high ambitions but I don’t have any expectations: as long as I’m working towards the goals, actually achieving them doesn’t really matter. I will work towards achieving them but not base my sense of self worth on whether I do achieve them. Besides, another one of my goals, which I am working on right now, is to be happy no matter what, so that will help if I ‘fail’ at the others.
I know this is not the right thread, but I’d also like to ask you to check out my blog and maybe give me some feedback (http://www.vascobrazao.com) on the content (I’ll work on the design later) — do you think it actually provides value to people and helps them? How could I make it better?
Thanks again :)
I’m just glancing around, but I’d say two things. One is you need some visuals. I’m not a big fan of stock images, but if you need to do it, get something in there. Preferably, get a friend to take some awesome photos of the things you’re talking about. It helps us relate to what you’re saying and breaks up the content a bit.
The other thing is orient the articles—especially the titles—so that they help ME, rather than just being personal reflections or experiences. I hate to say it this way, but we, your readers, want to know how this can help US, not just read about what you’re going through. So “Just Two More Songs” should be “How to Go Beyond Your Limits” or something like that. The content can basically be the same: your personal experience, but make sure at the end to sum it up into action items that WE CAN USE. Take that next step and be the teacher, the adviser, the leader (not just a chronicler). That’s what will keep people coming back and reading your articles.
Read this article…for two reasons. It will show you how to write an interesting, inspiring article, and the story itself is about young people who set impossible goals and achieved them… http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2012/04/04/playing-b-ball-with-obama-6-steps-to-crossing-anything-off-your-bucket-list
@sandman, Thanks for the tips. This xmas break I might have time to take some pictures and play with the design a little bit, the thing is I’m not yet sure how I want the website to look :b.
Thanks for the article suggestion, I’m going to read it now :)
I read a little more of your blog posts. I think you definitely need to orient your message towards “news you can use”. They’re posts about you. You need to process the information more, and then create a tight, sharp, targeted post for each idea. Rewrite. Rewrite. Rewrite. These are written intuitively, from the heart. Now you need to craft them into a real product. Either that or tackle much more outrageous challenges and goals. There are a million blogs like yours. Think about what makes something outstanding rather than sufficient. What are the best, most compelling, useful, inspiring, well-trafficked or enlightening blogs in the world? Go see what they’re doing. What are your biggest dreams and how are you going to set your sites on those? The HOOK of your post here is that you’re young and your goals are outrageously grand. That’s exciting! Good luck. Think big. Work hard.
Nicely put, if you truly believe in your words, if you take them in your heart, then I say yes, go for it!
@theskafish, stop waiting to get somewhere before you leave the rat race bro. Leave right now and hitch hike to Colorado. Get a job at a ski resort. Learn to snowboard. Get a tattoo. Fall in love. Live happy.
This is one of infinite possibilities. It’s not success or ups. I’ve worked at ups man. I know it makes you want to kill yourself. But if you go explore you will find way awesome things that make life exciting.
I want you to be happy bro. You’ve seemed depressed for way too long. Let me know if I can help.
@vasco, No, you can’t have too big of dreams. You do have to be systematic if you’re serious about your goals though. It is possible to bite off more than you can chew, and get drained. So get hyped, but also pace yourself. I would say you’re off to a solid start.
“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.”
@bobbylloydxd haha i totally agree because I live near Aspen, Colorado and am getting a job as a ski instructor. It seems the people with that job are pretty happy and have fun
@vasco, JUST DO IT
@bobbylloydxd, I’m sorry if I always come off as depressed, and I know that as a longtime member of this site and as a longtime member of, well, life, I really should be setting a better example than that. I’m not even depressed really, there was something I had been bummed about for a while but I got over it. No, I’m not depressed, but rather I feel under attack from all sides, always on the backfoot, always on defense…..I survive by telling myself exactly as you said, that it isn’t success or UPS (by which I mean success or minimum wage), and that this is only temporary, if I just endure it things will change….and also I just took a final, the outcome of which basically makes or breaks me in terms of education. I guess I’m just worried is all…but I don’t want to hijack this thread.
Thanks for the kind words, in any case.
@vasco, Sorry to say man, but your goals are quite egoistic. You want money. You want fame. You want to be BETTER THAN EVERYONE ELSE at athletics. You want to be BETTER THAN EVERYONE ELSE at writing books… Not that your goals are bad, but you must understand that you’ve got to work reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally hard to just complete a single one of them and chances are that you will accomplish none of these. But I wish you good luck and the best of life! :)
My own goals are:
- get to know God better.
I think that one should choose his goals for the journey, not for the goal.
Nothing wrong with aiming big. Just remain focused. I’ve achieved a lot looking back. Featured in a BBC program, Ball Boy at Wimbledon & Performed in the first music concert in Sierra Leone to name a few.
Have your goals. Try and live out your dreams!
@niko2210, Don’t project man. You clearly don’t know me or the reasons behind my goals. Sure, achieving these goals will bring me money, some fame and an ego boost, but that is not what I am looking for. Besides, I think it is clear from the rest that I have written in this discussion that I don’t think like you assumed I do.
@casper724, Thanks :) Right now I’m focusing on finishing school and maybe receiving a scholarship (fingers crossed!), but I am working towards my goals at the same time. After school I want to have more time to focus on what’s really important for me.
@papaya23, That’s exactly my attitude! Thinking about winning the Nobel peace prize is just a sort of motivator. If I just want to do good, then I might as well sleep in today, overeat and plan on contributing some time in the future; if I’m aiming for the Nobel prize, no way I’m going to sit on the couch and be lazy, I MUST contribute in a meaningful way.
My dream is to give other a chance to complete their dreams. Good luck, dude! But remembering, you don’t need recognition, as long as you know that you do something great for others.
@theskafish, “set up passive income and leave the rat race, before it convinces me to slit my wrists.”
That made me so sad.
• Make a significant contribution to my field
@dalniente, I’d give my left nut, left kidney and left lung just for one trip into space. Heck I’ll even give my corpse to science too lol.
Dream as big as you want man, because if we weren’t chasing our wildest dreams, life might be pretty monotonous.
@dalniente, I’m sorry that my post made you sad…it’s just, I’m really worried about this final I took, because if I failed the course, I won’t get any more help in paying for my education and I have no money myself. I know it’s my own fault too, I felt really burnt out 3/4ths through the semester, though I’d been doing very well up to then. I’m currently working a seasonal near-minimum wage job at UPS out of a need for money in the immediate present, it’s frustrating but like I said I get through it by saying it’s just temporary. But if I fail this course and no longer receive support for education, it may be permanent…..being poor is so frustrating, always having to think about the price of pretty much everything, giving the same amount of hours as regular workers do but getting next to nothing in return, watching helplessly as bills and stupid state fees wipe out what little I have time and again. It isn’t that I am greedy or want to show off, I know that most of the stuff people do with money is just ego. But I just want to stop feeling like the bottom’s dropping out on me all the time, like Indiana Jones sprinting and just barely staying ahead of being crushed by that giant boulder. Maybe I worry too much…but the thought of spending the rest of my life working for near minimum wage extinguishes my desire to go on. That, and even if I had an average-paying job, I don’t want to go through life just like everyone else, bored out of my mind for the next 40-50 years until I retire as a broken, beaten, husk of a person.
On a lighter note, your goals seem pretty cool though! Especially that bit about exploring space. Do you want to fly ships? Visit other worlds? I’d like to hear about your space dreams.
Make sure you break up your overall dream goal into chunks and those chunks into monthly chunks and break those chunks into weekly chunks and those chunks into everyday activities to make sure you’re always making progress towards you big goals. Anything is possible.
@theskafish, It just made me really want to hug you. :(
All I can say is that I hope you did well, and even if you didn’t some of your fears aren’t necessarily set in stone. Money is obviously an issue, but are there any other stressors in your life that you could cut out? I obviously don’t know your entire situation, but I also wanted to add that (although the future is important) spending a lot of time dwelling on what may or may not come seems to be wreaking havoc on your emotions. Again, that doesn’t mean the future is important, but all we can really work with is the present (and learning from past actions).
Humans seem small compared to the vastness of space. There are many things I’d like to see for myself, but I’ve made peace with how long it would take to get to most of those places (even at the speed of light). I want to see Earth from a distance, moonwalk on the moon, walk on Mars, etc. I also want to take flying lessons. It’s Earthly, but it seems fun. :)
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