Everything Happens for a Reason?
Everything happens for a reason? Do you believe in it?
I used to be an advocate of the "Everything happens for a reason" excuse but then I realized, is that all it is, an excuse?
Every time something doesn’t go our way we immediately use the excuse instead of trying harder, we immediately quit, thinking that it was meant to be. But is it? I was recently in a situation where at first it wasn’t going my way and I was about to say "O well, everything happens for a reason" but then I stopped and said " NO, fuck it, I want this and I’m going harder after it, if it’s going to happen it will happen because I make it, not because I believed somehow it will eventually happen" and guess what, it worked. I have a friend that uses the phrase so often its lost all meaning. He gives up on everything because he always believes it happened for a reason and that’s my question,
do you believe in letting the universe unfold as it should or do you believe in fighting for what you believe in and what you want in order to make it happen?
I used to be opposed to that saying for the same reason… It seemed like an excuse as well as a meaningless phrase to cling onto for comfort in adverse situations. Then I realized that though that is one way to interpret the saying, it can also have an exactly opposite meaning.. You can make everything have a reason or purpose by finding motivation from downfalls. For example I couldn’t find work for a long time and started getting down on myself about it, but it only opened the door for me to find a job I really like, when I would’ve been working at a restaurant otherwise(I did the food industry for too long and started hating it) since those are all the first places I applied that. So me getting denied by 20 other places happened for a reason, but only because I chose to see it that way. I could have said “damn I guess I’m unhire-able” and assumed that being jobless was also happening for a reason…. I’m kinda rambling now but hopefully you see my point.
I used to be a bit of a fatalist as well… but now I believe it’s just something that people say to reassure themselves– and that’s fine; everyone needs a little pick-me-up maxim, but you shouldn’t let it become your predominant world view.
If you’re not trying to do the things you imagine, then what is imagination to you?
If you wait around for shit to happen it might, but it probably wont.
@luigi I do think that everything happens for a reason, but I don’t think we see it the same way.
I have a hard time believing that everything happens for a reason becuase I dont want to think that I have no control on how I live my own life. I think that as long as people try to make the best of their life at a particular moment then it will lead you to the right path and have a happier life. Especially if you grew up in a household like mine. My parents didnt push me in any direction, they were happy for me no matter what I chose to do. And chose I did, ive done many things in my life already and I feel like some people dont trust their own decisions so they wouldnt have gotten as many oppurtunities that ive had. If they are waiting for someone else to make the decisions for them because they think that it will all fall into place maybe it won’t. someone once told me that insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result i feel like this could be applied to someone who is looking for a different outlook on life. The statement everything happens for a reason is a logical statement. I mean people usually have reasons for doing whatever it is they are doing at the very moment, i guess in my mind it just comes down to what are those reasons??
Everything happens for a reason is not a good way to look at things. A new one I picked up that I like much better and ads great meaning to everything that happens to me is that, “Everything that happens to you, is the best possible thing that can happen to you.” In other words every situation you go through will be good for you in the long run. I picked this out of the book “ZEN and the art of happiness.” In this book it is explained, that the universe is out to better itself every step of the way. everything in the universe, including us, come from the same origin, whatever that may be. That makes us one with the universe, so therefore the universe is for us, not against us. Even when something shitty happens, it will benefit us in the long run. So everything that happens is the best possible outcome for your life! it’s not for some amazing reason that things happen, it’s to benefit you in the long run!
Well I’m a believer that everything happens for a reason but at the same time you have to make things happens, because in the end you are the engine that moves you own life. There is a reason for everything, but that does not mean that that reason cannot be your own will. And if there is something happening that you don’t like then change it, maybe that something is there to tell you ” wake the fuck up and start moving, if you want things to change.”
I agree with @kevin “Everything that happens to you, is the best possible thing that can happen to you.”
|Sean D Stevens
I do believe that everything happens for a reason. For this to not be true, it means that events happen with no pretext. However, if something “bad” happens to you, you say “It must have happened for a reason”, and not bother trying to interrupt what that reason is, that’s just intellectual laziness. Essentially, “Everything happens for a reason” and “Everything that happens happens so you can become better” are the same statement, but the latter challenges you to explore what is happening to you.
Everything happens for the reason you give it.
It seems everything comes full circle, it seems.
There is an actual scientific principle called “Cause and effect” which states that every action has an equal yet opposite reaction. Kind of like the idea that energy does not die it only changes its form.
Well, it depends on which way you look at it?
How about this; Everything that happens, has a lesson, and it is up to you to fully understand that lesson, to make things happen the way you want them to happen.
Example. I can be easily frustrated whilst driving, by crappy drivers, traffic, having to pee, being tired, hungry, etc….
So every time I feel myself getting frustrated when traffic appears, or a light turns red when I’m in a hurry, it is a lesson for me to chill the heck out, and shrug it off, because in the end, it isn’t a big deal.
Now when I have learned fully accepted this lesson, when I am stuck behind a super slow driver, I have to remember all the past times when I exploded and realize nothing has changed besides my shitty attitude. Remembering this, I accept my situation and smile instead, remembering that it doesn’t really matter that a sow driver is in front of me.
Life is one big lesson that we can either choose to conquer as best as we can, or let it conquer us. Everything that happens is so that you can conquer it and become a better person.
So does everything happen for a reason? Yes.
The reason is for you to become a better person, physically, mentally and emotionally. That’s why events both good and bad happen in your life. It’s like a computer upgrade to who you are. You can either improve or you can crash. It’s all up to you.
Evidentally, things do happen for a reason. But when something bad happens and we are able to whip back around and say no, this isn’t how this was suppose to happen, we are becoming a better person. We are fighting for what we want and I’m almost positive that that is suppose to happen. But only some of us actually have the ability and strength to keep going and fight on, Because THAT”S what WE are SUPPOSE to do.
Everything that happens to me happens for a reason. The reason is: I made it happen, or I didn’t make it not happen. This goes for everything. Things that don’t happen to me don’t happen because I didn’t make them happen. This is what responsibility and awareness is all about.
Your purpose and destiny are decided by yourself. They are simply the goals you make for yourself, conciously or unconciously. It’s all you. Everything that happens to you is what you made happen, or what you didn’t make not happen.
I’m kinda agreeing with you manimal. What happens to you is what you made happen, but I look at it in a larger scale. There are some things out of your ‘individual’ control, completely but you still have influence. You can decide your personal fate, but collectively as a human consciousness we decide our fate together in bigger terms, and because of that, some things are just out of our individual control.
@Alex Yes, you can only fully control the things that concern your life situation.
About the shared human fate: it’s not what we decide together, it’s the sum of what every individual decides. It’s all about the individuals. Be the change and all that jazz.
Nothing is ever personal, there is no personal fate. There is your life, and there’s what you do with it, that’s all there ever is in your life.
@luigiblue, they aren’t mutually exclusive. You can fight to all heaven to get something, and if you don’t get it then it is beyond your power to get, which would mean it was meant to be in a logical sense. The problem then becomes if you use this as an excuse not to do something then to argue whether or not it was meant to be is a pointless philosophical argument over whether there is predestination or not. Moral is: try
Seems to me Everything happens for a reason means about the same as “when one door closes another one opens” I also think of it saying “for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction “
@luigiblue, If you are to agree that everything happens for a reason then you are essentially accepting the teleological argument as binding. Such that reason is used synonymous to purpose. A fortiori, you are acknowledging and accepting a form of ontological pre-determinism.
@tangledupinplaid21, I absolutely adore your artwork, you have exceptional talent! I’m looking forward to seeing some more :)
I appreciate that people are still commenting on this thread but It’s a little old haha. Over a year old. My views have changed dramatically since then.
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