Exercise in Values
I am borrowing this exercise idea from my English teacher, Mr. Darrow. He is the man.
Peace of Mind
Service to Others
From these values, make a list of the top ten you feel are most important.
Do you act on these values? You may truly believe they are important, but how often do you exercise them?
If someone who didn’t know you were to observe you up close for a week, what ten values would they assign you?
How is it a challenge to live by your first ten values? What gets in the way? Why do we sometimes act against our values? Do you think your values will change in say a decade?
Thoughts. Give em up.
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Respect, wonder, openness, Love, Forgiveness, Kindness, Education, Perseverance, Adventure, Justice, Honesty.
I think I follow my choices pretty well. I have forgiven people I thought I’d never forgive, accept all ideas openly, gaze in wonder for the universe, give respect WHERE IT IS EARNED, love my friends and family, and hardly ever lie and justice is a must.
With Adventure and perseverance… I’ll have to work on those. :)
I respect that. Man, I say kudos to you for staying true to being kind and compassionate! That’s awesome.
I consider myself a positive person so those are both two values I try and keep up as well. But I mean it can get difficult you know when you’re overwhelmed or stressed or in a bad mood or you stepped on a cactus. Sometimes you just gotta shake it off I guess – cause in the grand scheme of things that negativity ain’t helping anything. Though, it’s tough at times. I’ll admit.
So again, that’s really admirable.
I completely agree with you about freedom. It definitely brings happiness and a sense of satisfaction to life.
I love your insight. Love it, man.
A lot of values on your list were similar to mine when I first did this activity. I feel like having an open mindset offers so much more opportunity, which wouldn’t be the case for someone who is stubborn or single-minded. And I mean there is definitely a lot to wonder about. The universe is just so fucking cool.
I feel ya though: adventure and perseverance are definitely not effortless (or at least for me they aren’t). With adventure, you have to go out and make/find it, and I mean sometimes you just don’t have the resources. With perseverance? Ah man I am just such the ultimate procrastinator so my perseverance level is probably way below the accepted level. I should work on that too… hah
I guess by questioning, “what do you value in life?” I mean to ask what is it you would deem important? For instance, a lot of people consider their career to be one of the most important things in their life. It is a value of theirs.
So instead of “value” being what is right or wrong, I mean for it to indicate what’s important.
I don’t know if that helps explain why those words are listed, but meh, they’re just words.
Values I’d Choose for Myself (in no specific order)
Ive been working on this one, with meditation and reminding myself to be more aware
I dont operate with this as much as I should. Right now i don’t really show enough love to anyone I care about, this will change though.
Remaining positive is very important to me, I try to see the light in every situation
I don’t have as much fun as I’d like but, its a sacrifice for the time being
Curiosity is awesome. Adventure, explore, figure things out, about the Universe and yourself.
Gotta have some time set aside to relax and recharge
Truth brings evolution
I dont have enough self respect Im working on it though. Trying to remain aware of all my positives instead of focusing on the negative
When I’m open with people it helps me figure myself out a little bit more, so ill share pretty much anything
If youre not yourself, youre wasting you life.
If someone were to observe me
Honesty- idk how theyd know if I were lying though
Self Growth- always reading self growth articles
Humor- Always making my attempt at humor
I’d say fear is my biggest obstacle in life. Fear of rejection.
I think our values can change as we get older, I know my list even a couple years ago would be dramatically different. We’re always changing and growing.
I admire your honesty and really dig what you’ve got to say. And I feel you with the whole fear of rejection. For me, I don’t always realize how nervous I become when I think someone does not like me. And then in result of my anxious behavior, I tend to construct problems in my head that weren’t present in the first place, which ruins things. I don’t know. It’s weird. I guess that’s both of our biggest obstacles. But like you said, “we’re always changing and growing” right? So I’m sure we’ll both get past that soon enough.
Honesty, Integrity, curiosity, optimism, individualism, religion (when used as an instrument to make yourself better, not everyone else!), respect, kindness, creativity (aka innovation) and last of all but the greatest LOVE.
I believe that love is the pinnacle of all higher happiness, only good come from love. But on the flip side love is very abstract to define and many wrong things (opposite of love) are done in its name.
I’m going to replace Intelligence with knowledge. Intelligence you either have or you don’t, knowledge can be sought by anyone.
That said, here’s my list:
Knowledge, Curiosity, Individuality, Education, Art, Creativity, Play, Humor, Openness, and Acceptance.
@ Tanner–I was conciously not going to choose Honesty until you said “truth brings evolution”–that made me stop & think-thanks :)
@Alex– respect is huge for me–but I gotta play devil’s advocate when you said respect “where it is earned.” On a philosophical level–(and it’s just IMO) I think we should respect ALL of creation how it is, all we see, all people & all their opinions. I think when we disrespect eachother/or don’t give respect–(well for one, it leads to a snowball effect of more problems)–the reason for it stemmed from a misunderstanding or miscommunication in the first place. And it’s slightly contradicing bc forgiving someone is showing respect isn’t it?(even if they didn’t earn it bc obviously you’re forgiving them for something) I enjoyed your post every much :)
**Selflessness (we all need a lot more of this!!!), Wonder, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Compassion, PLAY PLAY PLAY, Humor, Flexibility, Respect, Sharing, Compassion.** I try really hard to do all these things, & I find it’s getting easier & easier. WHat gets in the way of acting in accordance with these values? I think everything you’ve learned your whole life is what gets in the way. Selfishness can cause us to act against our values, so can believing in lies. My list would probably be different in a decade- & for all I know something could happen & my list would change within the hour. Thanks for the exercise Sarah! <3
Honesty, Love, Friendship, Creativity, Service to Others, Compassion, Happiness, Adventure, Spirituality, Freedom and because it’s so hard to pick just ten I’m throwing in Wisdom as a bonus answer :)
I would say I act on these values on a daily basis, especially when it comes to being kind and compassionate towards others, as well as loving others. Freedom is probably the biggest one in there for me, and I think with Freedom comes Happiness.
Lots of words in the list have nothing to do with values whatsoever, like government, career, art, travel, rest, fame, mystery, fitness, etc.
My dictionary defines values as “your principles about what is right and wrong.”