Exercise in Values
I am borrowing this exercise idea from my English teacher, Mr. Darrow. He is the man.
From these values, make a list of the top ten you feel are most important.
Do you act on these values? You may truly believe they are important, but how often do you exercise them?
If someone who didn’t know you were to observe you up close for a week, what ten values would they assign you?
How is it a challenge to live by your first ten values? What gets in the way? Why do we sometimes act against our values? Do you think your values will change in say a decade?
Thoughts. Give em up.
Honesty, Love, Friendship, Creativity, Service to Others, Compassion, Happiness, Adventure, Spirituality, Freedom and because it’s so hard to pick just ten I’m throwing in Wisdom as a bonus answer :)
I would say I act on these values on a daily basis, especially when it comes to being kind and compassionate towards others, as well as loving others. Freedom is probably the biggest one in there for me, and I think with Freedom comes Happiness.
Lots of words in the list have nothing to do with values whatsoever, like government, career, art, travel, rest, fame, mystery, fitness, etc.
Respect, wonder, openness, Love, Forgiveness, Kindness, Education, Perseverance, Adventure, Justice, Honesty.
I respect that. Man, I say kudos to you for staying true to being kind and compassionate! That’s awesome.
I consider myself a positive person so those are both two values I try and keep up as well. But I mean it can get difficult you know when you’re overwhelmed or stressed or in a bad mood or you stepped on a cactus. Sometimes you just gotta shake it off I guess – cause in the grand scheme of things that negativity ain’t helping anything. Though, it’s tough at times. I’ll admit.
So again, that’s really admirable.
I completely agree with you about freedom. It definitely brings happiness and a sense of satisfaction to life.
I love your insight. Love it, man.
A lot of values on your list were similar to mine when I first did this activity. I feel like having an open mindset offers so much more opportunity, which wouldn’t be the case for someone who is stubborn or single-minded. And I mean there is definitely a lot to wonder about. The universe is just so fucking cool.
I feel ya though: adventure and perseverance are definitely not effortless (or at least for me they aren’t). With adventure, you have to go out and make/find it, and I mean sometimes you just don’t have the resources. With perseverance? Ah man I am just such the ultimate procrastinator so my perseverance level is probably way below the accepted level. I should work on that too… hah
I guess by questioning, “what do you value in life?” I mean to ask what is it you would deem important? For instance, a lot of people consider their career to be one of the most important things in their life. It is a value of theirs.
So instead of “value” being what is right or wrong, I mean for it to indicate what’s important.
I don’t know if that helps explain why those words are listed, but meh, they’re just words.
Values I’d Choose for Myself (in no specific order)
If someone were to observe me
I’d say fear is my biggest obstacle in life. Fear of rejection.
I think our values can change as we get older, I know my list even a couple years ago would be dramatically different. We’re always changing and growing.
I admire your honesty and really dig what you’ve got to say. And I feel you with the whole fear of rejection. For me, I don’t always realize how nervous I become when I think someone does not like me. And then in result of my anxious behavior, I tend to construct problems in my head that weren’t present in the first place, which ruins things. I don’t know. It’s weird. I guess that’s both of our biggest obstacles. But like you said, “we’re always changing and growing” right? So I’m sure we’ll both get past that soon enough.
Honesty, Integrity, curiosity, optimism, individualism, religion (when used as an instrument to make yourself better, not everyone else!), respect, kindness, creativity (aka innovation) and last of all but the greatest LOVE.
I believe that love is the pinnacle of all higher happiness, only good come from love. But on the flip side love is very abstract to define and many wrong things (opposite of love) are done in its name.
I’m going to replace Intelligence with knowledge. Intelligence you either have or you don’t, knowledge can be sought by anyone.
That said, here’s my list:
Knowledge, Curiosity, Individuality, Education, Art, Creativity, Play, Humor, Openness, and Acceptance.
@ Tanner–I was conciously not going to choose Honesty until you said “truth brings evolution”–that made me stop & think-thanks :)
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