Exercise in Values

3 years, 8 months ago

I am borrowing this exercise idea from my English teacher, Mr. Darrow. He is the man.

Honesty
Peace of Mind
Wisdom
Intimacy
Honor
Friendship
Love
Self-growth
Power
Creativity
Courage
Gratefulness
Reputation
Competition
Sex
Companionship
Success
Community
Flexibility
Justice
Generosity
Play
Serenity
Loyalty
Integrity
Hard Work
Humor
Independence
Order
Standing Out
Being Realistic
Accountability
Sharing
Art
Compassion
Happiness
Safety
Fairness
Career
Passion
Education
Risk
Pleasure
Travel
Security
Faith
Self-Respect
Conversation
Adventure
Chastity
Perseverance
Being Right
Recognition
Responsibility
Decency
Rest
Curiosity
Change/Variety
Pride
Protest
Protest
Fun
Government
Communication
Forgiveness
Kindness
Experience
Money
Comfort
Service to Others
Diligence
Challenge
Family
Patience
Achievement
Trust
Humility
Spirituality
Nurturing
Leadership
Freedom
Religion
Individualism
Fame
Optimism
Romance
Acceptance
Openness
Intelligence
Involvement
Excitement
Patriotism
Consciousness
Wonder
Appearance
Fitness
Mystery
Fitting In
Positivity
Discipline
Nature
Health
Respect
Selflessness

From these values, make a list of the top ten you feel are most important.

Do you act on these values? You may truly believe they are important, but how often do you exercise them?

If someone who didn’t know you were to observe you up close for a week, what ten values would they assign you?

How is it a challenge to live by your first ten values? What gets in the way? Why do we sometimes act against our values? Do you think your values will change in say a decade?

Thoughts. Give em up.

April 19, 2011 at 11:28 pm

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Profile photo of Julian Julian (@mingus) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

Honesty, Love, Friendship, Creativity, Service to Others, Compassion, Happiness, Adventure, Spirituality, Freedom and because it’s so hard to pick just ten I’m throwing in Wisdom as a bonus answer :)

I would say I act on these values on a daily basis, especially when it comes to being kind and compassionate towards others, as well as loving others. Freedom is probably the biggest one in there for me, and I think with Freedom comes Happiness.

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Profile photo of Julian22 Julian22 (@sanatan) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

Lots of words in the list have nothing to do with values whatsoever, like government, career, art, travel, rest, fame, mystery, fitness, etc.
My dictionary defines values as “your principles about what is right and wrong.”

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Profile photo of Alex Eastman Alex Eastman (@alex) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

Respect, wonder, openness, Love, Forgiveness, Kindness, Education, Perseverance, Adventure, Justice, Honesty.
I think I follow my choices pretty well. I have forgiven people I thought I’d never forgive, accept all ideas openly, gaze in wonder for the universe, give respect WHERE IT IS EARNED, love my friends and family, and hardly ever lie and justice is a must.
With Adventure and perseverance… I’ll have to work on those. :)

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Profile photo of Sarah Mevissen Sarah Mevissen (@sarahmev) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

To Julian:

I respect that. Man, I say kudos to you for staying true to being kind and compassionate! That’s awesome.

I consider myself a positive person so those are both two values I try and keep up as well. But I mean it can get difficult you know when you’re overwhelmed or stressed or in a bad mood or you stepped on a cactus. Sometimes you just gotta shake it off I guess – cause in the grand scheme of things that negativity ain’t helping anything. Though, it’s tough at times. I’ll admit.

So again, that’s really admirable.

I completely agree with you about freedom. It definitely brings happiness and a sense of satisfaction to life.

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Profile photo of Sarah Mevissen Sarah Mevissen (@sarahmev) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

To Alex:

I love your insight. Love it, man.

A lot of values on your list were similar to mine when I first did this activity. I feel like having an open mindset offers so much more opportunity, which wouldn’t be the case for someone who is stubborn or single-minded. And I mean there is definitely a lot to wonder about. The universe is just so fucking cool.

I feel ya though: adventure and perseverance are definitely not effortless (or at least for me they aren’t). With adventure, you have to go out and make/find it, and I mean sometimes you just don’t have the resources. With perseverance? Ah man I am just such the ultimate procrastinator so my perseverance level is probably way below the accepted level. I should work on that too… hah

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Profile photo of Sarah Mevissen Sarah Mevissen (@sarahmev) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

To Julian22:

I guess by questioning, “what do you value in life?” I mean to ask what is it you would deem important? For instance, a lot of people consider their career to be one of the most important things in their life. It is a value of theirs.

So instead of “value” being what is right or wrong, I mean for it to indicate what’s important.

I don’t know if that helps explain why those words are listed, but meh, they’re just words.

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Profile photo of James James (@tanner) 3 years, 8 months ago ago

Values I’d Choose for Myself (in no specific order)

Consciousness
Ive been working on this one, with meditation and reminding myself to be more aware

Love
I dont operate with this as much as I should. Right now i don’t really show enough love to anyone I care about, this will change though.

Positivity
Remaining positive is very important to me, I try to see the light in every situation

Fun
I don’t have as much fun as I’d like but, its a sacrifice for the time being

Curiosity
Curiosity is awesome. Adventure, explore, figure things out, about the Universe and yourself.

Rest
Gotta have some time set aside to relax and recharge

Honesty
Truth brings evolution

Self- Respect
I dont have enough self respect Im working on it though. Trying to remain aware of all my positives instead of focusing on the negative

Openness
When I’m open with people it helps me figure myself out a little bit more, so ill share pretty much anything

Individualism
If youre not yourself, youre wasting you life.

If someone were to observe me
Honesty- idk how theyd know if I were lying though
Self Growth- always reading self growth articles
Humor- Always making my attempt at humor
Order
Curiosity
Kindness
Patience
Openness
Fitness
Respect

I’d say fear is my biggest obstacle in life. Fear of rejection.

I think our values can change as we get older, I know my list even a couple years ago would be dramatically different. We’re always changing and growing.

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Profile photo of Sarah Mevissen Sarah Mevissen (@sarahmev) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

To Tanner:

I admire your honesty and really dig what you’ve got to say. And I feel you with the whole fear of rejection. For me, I don’t always realize how nervous I become when I think someone does not like me. And then in result of my anxious behavior, I tend to construct problems in my head that weren’t present in the first place, which ruins things. I don’t know. It’s weird. I guess that’s both of our biggest obstacles. But like you said, “we’re always changing and growing” right? So I’m sure we’ll both get past that soon enough.

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Profile photo of damoon004 damoon004 (@damoon004) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

Honesty, Integrity, curiosity, optimism, individualism, religion (when used as an instrument to make yourself better, not everyone else!), respect, kindness, creativity (aka innovation) and last of all but the greatest LOVE.

I believe that love is the pinnacle of all higher happiness, only good come from love. But on the flip side love is very abstract to define and many wrong things (opposite of love) are done in its name.

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Profile photo of Matt Matt (@mrgeetah) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

I’m going to replace Intelligence with knowledge. Intelligence you either have or you don’t, knowledge can be sought by anyone.

That said, here’s my list:

Knowledge, Curiosity, Individuality, Education, Art, Creativity, Play, Humor, Openness, and Acceptance.

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Profile photo of Em Em (@emily) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@ Tanner–I was conciously not going to choose Honesty until you said “truth brings evolution”–that made me stop & think-thanks :)
@Alex– respect is huge for me–but I gotta play devil’s advocate when you said respect “where it is earned.” On a philosophical level–(and it’s just IMO) I think we should respect ALL of creation how it is, all we see, all people & all their opinions. I think when we disrespect eachother/or don’t give respect–(well for one, it leads to a snowball effect of more problems)–the reason for it stemmed from a misunderstanding or miscommunication in the first place. And it’s slightly contradicing bc forgiving someone is showing respect isn’t it?(even if they didn’t earn it bc obviously you’re forgiving them for something) I enjoyed your post every much :)
**Selflessness (we all need a lot more of this!!!), Wonder, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Compassion, PLAY PLAY PLAY, Humor, Flexibility, Respect, Sharing, Compassion.** I try really hard to do all these things, & I find it’s getting easier & easier. WHat gets in the way of acting in accordance with these values? I think everything you’ve learned your whole life is what gets in the way. Selfishness can cause us to act against our values, so can believing in lies. My list would probably be different in a decade- & for all I know something could happen & my list would change within the hour. Thanks for the exercise Sarah! <3

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