Do you think, when asked "How are you?", we respond with "fine" because we are scared to learn that nobody cares about what is going on? Do you believe people don’t have compassion? Is it because we dont have any compassion or love for ourselves? Or is it that we all are actually "Fine"
I think the question has become a form of a greeting. Like when someone says whats up, or hello.
think about it, when you see someone who is visibily upset you might ask them how they are doing because you are concerned about them
But in the case you saw some one you and greeted them by saying how are you, and they went into a long winded response about how they were feeling. would you be a little taken aback by it?
maybe its just me -.- lol
Well excluding close friends and family, sometimes people tend to ask you “how are you” out of courtesy and not because they are actually concerned about you, you know.
Suppose you re having a bad day and your close friend asks “how are you today” you will obviously tell him/her that you re not fine and that you re having a bad day but if its someone else (like a not-so-close friend you run in to on the road) you wouldn’t because he/she would not be expecting a “oh my god i m having the worst dayyyyy helppp meeee bla bla bla” and start a deep conversation right then and there and plus you would not be willing to put it out there aswel, you know.
I realized this a couple of years ago and then vowed to always do two things:
Like Ramsh said, I only tell strangers that I’m fine. If it’s a close friend, I’ll tell them the truth. But I think more than anything, asking someone how they are is just a formality. It’s different with friends because, well… They’re your friends. =) I try not to lie about my feels with my friend because they truly care. And sometimes I’m really just fine!
I’ll normally tell them if i’m doing okay or not. But yes, in some people I can see that being true.
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