In the winter months there are a lot more of those ‘no, I’m not getting out of bed yet’ mornings. These usually result in a rushed morning, with not enough time for a shower/breakfast/shave, a rush into work and a black cloud over the day.
Can’t seem to find a good way to get out of this habit. Having the heating on half an hour before my alarm goes off makes it a little easier, but not much…
Any suggestions for making it easier to get out of bed in the morning?
I have the same problem – i think really it’s a matter of simply deciding to get up the very second your alarm rings and not touching the bed until you go to bed at night again. I think you have to make a habit of it, meaning you have to hold on for about a month. perhaps if you can keep it up for a month the worst is done :) also it’s probably possible to imprint the idea of getting up and being well rested on your subconscious before you go to bed at night. I have had some succes with telling myself i will be well rested and trying to induce an expectation of an active new day. also it probably helps to get the sleep you need!
Yeah I definitely have it happen more frequently around this time of year… which is even more inconvenient since I have to get up a good 20 minutes earlier to let my car warm up and scrape the snow/ice off it, and also, depending how cold it is, unfreeze my door so I can open it. One trick I’ve put into practice is setting my alarm a good hour earlier than usual. My previous morning schedule went something like this: alarm at 5:30, hit snooze till 6, plan on getting out of bed at 6 but hitting snooze about 5 more times and getting out of bed at 6:25 or so and ending up being late to work which starts at 7. Now I set my alarm for 4:30 and 5, so I have a few warnings I can shut off before starting my snooze routine at 5:30 and actually get out of bed at 6. Having a few warning alarms helps me a lot but I should probably just cut out the crutch and get my lazy ass outta bed with one alarm. :P
@Ellie, I never really was the type to put ‘warnings’ on my alarm clock. To me it seems even worse! Haha. I’d thinkg it would mess with your sleeping cycle, and for those last few hours you don’t get into REM sleep, which is the most critical phase. Edit: And if I remember correctly, the last few hours are where you are in your deepest sleep. Or is that a few hours before you wake up?
I may be looking into this too much. That’s not the reason why I don’t use ‘warnings’, just a thought i was thinking when I read that! I usually, like someone else described above, get up right when my alarm clock goes. Of course, when I don’t have anything to do that day it’s a bit harder;)
I usually have this problem because I remember my dreams most often when I wake so a lot of times I can just roll over and fall right back to sleep and have vivid dreams again. My dreams interest me so I’ll just do this until I really have to get up lol. Luckly I didn’t really need to be up today so I did that til noon…but now I feel like a bum who slept most my day away =|
@lee, ha i think a lot of us here suffer from that, I just made it out of bed myself
I’ve found myself pretty easy to trick in the morning. At the same time I could easily want nothing more than to stay in bed all day, I can tell myself that what I want most is to jump right up and take the day in stride. The trick is throwing doubt out the window; that and living a lifestyle that allows you to wake up in the morning feeling good
Just do it. It’s all about habit, belief. What you do is what you will automatically want to repeat, due to mental homeostasis. If you sleep in, you will want do do it again. If you rise up like a king, you will want to do that again. And your ego will try to force you to do whichever one it’s used to.
There are no tricks, no magic pills. Just do it, it’s ALL YOU and nothing but you.
You snooze, you lose. Stop making excuses and just get out of the fucking bed and feel good about it.
manimal you are such a lion. it must be so hard to get up when it is cold and dark outside in the winter up in sweden. you have such tremendous self control. i hate to get up in the winter and if i dont have to i just lay there an let my cat purr on my chest, try to remeember my dream,then i have to pee, then it is just being awake and the day starts. i think you gotta go with the flow…
Manimal has a point in saying it’s all about you but I’m surprised that no one has yet to mention actually going to bed earlier. It’s important to have the right morning mentality but this is really difficult to achieve by yourself…especially if you’re mistreating your body. It needs a certain amount of sleep to function properly. I’m a student so I know how sometimes it’s not even possible to get the rest you need but it’s very essential.
Yeah this isn’t that complicated. If you have interesting things to do with your day and are getting enough sleep, getting out of bed is easy.
that said, I definitely had problems coming to terms with going to bed early enough that I didn’t need an alarm clock. I felt like I was lame for being in bed by 10 or 11. previously I had some kind of internal belief that getting by on four or five hours of sleep was indicative of some kind of internal strength, when in reality it was limiting.
so, honestly assess what is important in your life, and adjust your priorities so that enough sleep is one of them. having been through it, I know it’s easier said than done. but to go all catch-phrasey, having a good life isn’t necessarily easy, and an easy life isn’t necessarily good.
My trouble is going to sleep at a normal time during the night, so then its hard getting up in the morning.
I remember reading that one of the best ways to make sure you are getting enough sleep at night, and make it easier to get up in the morning, is to always get up at a specific time every morning, even weekends. Then just go to bed when you are tired enough to fall asleep.
Some days you will be exhausted a little earlier in the night, and other days you will be able to stay up super late. As long as you create the habit of getting up at the same time everyday, it will become easy.
Uh, ditch the alarm. Seriously life-value goes way up. Train yourself to just wake up naturally. Alarm clocks drain your dreams from you. It’s like your consciousness expects to be awake soon, so it decides not to dream. People make the simplest things like waking up and going to bed a chore. Life is natural. Sleep/wake naturally. (and yes, you can awake naturally and still be on time for work!) I do it, my roommate does it.
Also if you don’t already (there are mass amounts of threads on here) take a cold shower when you get up. If you take a hot shower you are still feeding that “I just wanna be comfortable” mindset.
@Zach No, if you go with the flow it’s impossible to be lazy. Laziness is resistance, one of the worst and strongest types of resistance. Going with the flow and being lazy are opposites, because laziness doesn’t exist anywhere other than your resistant ego.
manimal i go with my flow, and i am so cool with myself.and that makes me not practice. i should hop out of bed in the dark of premorning and sit on my cushion for an hour or two. it will be good for me, i know this . it will be good for world peace. i know this
yet…. hmmmm i love to lay there in a half dream state. going with my flow.
help me find some of your lionlike determination please!
Ok here’s how you do it. Ask yourself WHY. “Why do I stay in bed?” “Because I like it.” “Why do I like it?” and so on. Don’t take any of the answers, just ask WHY again to that.
Also, in meditation, contemplate the difference between your real desires and what your ego wants. Which is more important to you? Which is more meaningful? Which one would your best self go after? Why aren’t you doing what you “should?”
and so on.
And also, just doing it. Just getting up, it’s nothing more than a habit. I don’t need determination because it’s my habit, it’s automatic.
I agree with the posts that say just get out of bed immediately. I go to bed, ideally with no noise on (with roommates sometimes a mellow pandora station is good) and set the alarm for 10 minutes before you HAVE to get up. As soon as the alarm goes off, get out of bed and start getting ready, but at a slightly slower pace. Spend a minute thinking about your day and the possibilities it holds. You won’t be fighting to get out of bed, and you can take each task a little slower to appreciate it, and not forget anything. Try to do it on the weekends too, so it becomes more natural.
One of the best ways is to find something to be excited about in your day.
ok manimal. i stayed in bed for an extra hour asking myself why. and it ended up being so delicoius. i so enjoyed that. it went something like this.
why am i staying in bed.. cuz i like to
why do i like to. cuz it feels so good
why does it feel so good? cuz im relaxing
why are you relaxing? cuz i deserve to relax now
why do you deserve to relax? cuz i had to get up all my life and now i dont
why dont you.
cuz im old
why are you old
cuz i survived this long… and on and on…
almost like meditating. but then warm and cozy and flat.