Get the feeling you're missing out?
I’m not all too sure what there is to be missing out on, but I feel sometimes that I am missing out on something awesome or cool or just intellectual. Maybe it’s my social side wanting to be social and my introversion side that just wants to be by their self. I feel like a dual in my head of being someone who is to themselves and humble and just takes in everything, and someone who wants to be that social person that engages in conversation. A side that is sincere and caring vs. my side that says fuck off don’t talk to me.
I fill the void sometimes by going shopping for clothing items. . but I just think i’m socially challenged ha.
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@rickvonstar, I am willing to do an adventure, there’s just not much to adventure around my neck of the woods. haha. I am so grateful@shivvy, I try to stay balanced, I do for the most part. Just sometimes I get that mehhh feeling you know. I feel a tad crazy most of the time ;) that does not go away. I like it though, it spiffies my world up. @ijesuschrist, I change all the time, I wish I could eat healthier though, whenever I do eat food I just feel like kinda grossed out about what I do eat cause I just think about where it came from. I know the solution is to buy like nuts n shit or whatever but I guess I just don’t want to be picky cause my mom grocery shops .
@icecream666, Yeah hahaah guilt pleasures indeed…money aint a thangg
@ioanabogdan, Haha, yes. This sums up myself right now. I thought I knew what satisfies me but honestly the limits are endless. I don’t know what to do with all these thoughts of wanting to do something or like experience something..a deep sense of curiosity is exponentially growing inside.
EXACTLY. i feel this way all the time. i always notice that one person sitting at a party just chillin, not really socializing, but still clearly enjoying themselves. i wish i could be like that. at parties, im always hopping from one conversation to the next because i feel like i may be missing out on an awesome conversation. and there are few things i love more that deep, intellectually and emotionally stimulating conversations.
its especially hard because i live at college, so there is always something going on. ill set out for a nice relaxing day to myself, then i see everyone having fun or doing something crazy and it makes me feel like i should be doing something too.
i notice that on this site, a recurring theme is the whole “sieze the day” thing, and most of us on here take that to mean have a bunch of crazy new experiences, try new things, etc. and while that can be a whole lot of fun, you also need to take time for yourself. there’ll always be something going on. but even the people that are currently doing something that you wish you were participating in, they have their down time too. you just dont always see it.
a lot of this angst about missing out stems from comparing your insides to other people’s outsides.
@cristinelizabeth, “I’m not all too sure what there is to be missing out on, but I feel sometimes that I am missing out on something awesome or cool or just intellectual.”
That’s exactly how I feel sometimes…I feel, usually, like I am waiting to do something, waiting for things to change, or should be doing something else or being somewhere else, where the interesting, intellectual, stimulating, things are…..something that makes me feel ALIVE. I can’t quite put my finger on what I feel that I’m missing out on either, most nights when I do go out I’m quasi-content to just chill with my friends, drink beers and talk, but I still feel like I should be elsewhere….I don’t really like the bar or club scene, or feel like there’s anything I’m going to miss out on there (i guess i can’t know for certain but it’s a hunch). It’s not even that I’m that shy either….i just don’t think those things are interesting. And I also always have this weird feeling like I never have anything to think about.
I always daydream of having the kind of life that would be at home in the pages of a book written by Cometbus or Kerouac, or the kind of life that would be song- or film-worthy….the kind of life that will make for a rich tapestry of memories later….something that will make me feel like these, my 20s, were “the times”….that it was important in some way. Maybe I just need to get out of Chicagoland….
@cristinelizabeth, I sorta know that feeling.
I’m greedy for new/different experiences and if I happen to have a time in my life (like right now) that’s filled with boredom I get the feeling that everyone else is living really exciting lives….while I’m just sitting around at home on the computer writing stories and reading or whatever
Sometimes I feel like people are keeping secrets from me about all the cool things I could be doing, and that they are doing them without me and laughing to themselves while I am MISSING OUT
My only solution is to go on an adventure!
@theskafish, Yup. Haha. I feel like my life is a movie and it’s going to get awesome. I also feel I need to get out of my town, they say it’s location location location. I also feel like I could be else where when I actually am out and about hahah. I think I find my place when i’m by water, I go for a run at least once a week on this trail by the river with my ipod. But I feel like happiness is only temporary sometimes. I also feel like I don’t want to go back to school nxt semester cause I don’t think I learn anything from the experience. I don’t know what I want out of this life. I want to keep growing as a person, not get tied down with education expectations. I don’t know. I suppose some day we will settle with the numbness of this life…
@cristinelizabeth, Find your balance my friend, that’s something we all have to do as some point in our lives. Too much of anything will drive you wild. Feed only your extrovert side and you will become dependent of others while forgetting who you are, feed your introverted side too much and you’ll miss the fun social outings that life has to offer. I found my balance by engaging in social events but making sure that I do meditation and yoga daily, that way I’m always anchored within myself but social events are too much fun.Finding this balance is crucial in everything; materialism/spirituality, work/play etc. Sway too much to either side of any side and you might go crazy lol
@cristinelizabeth, These are times when you try to find yourself. It is natural, I believe, to work on different levels, changing moods, feelings… and sometimes be in a mixed playlist of moods, ‘i wanna do that… oh, no.. the other one is better.. but i also want that..’. It’s the young soul craving for experiences, for lots of anything, for anything new or fun… but also for alone quality time. Just go with the flow and do whatever you feel like doing in the moment. Maybe there’s not a dual part inside of you. Maybe there’s only you, trying to find you.
“… and all I was searching for was me..” Ben Howard – Keep Your Head Up (Great Song ;))
@cristinelizabeth, i’m guilty of the last one you mentioned for sure I can’t tell you how many times i’ve found myself in a store asking myself wtf am I really doing here. I’d like to say i’m price conscious though and if it is just an instant gratification thing it’s never expensive.
@cristinelizabeth, I smell what you’re steppin’ in.
I consistently battle that. But I think for me, it’s not that I don’t like going out, it’s that it’s just easier for me to hang out with myself. I enjoy researching things and spending time alone, but sometimes I take that as an excuse not to go socialize.
There’s a common ground that you can find where I think you’ll be a lot happier. For me, I realize that I’m not a big group type of guy. I prefer hanging out with one or two close friends instead of hanging out with a larger group. For instance, I’m not a big fan of large parties..I’d rather be at a small one where it’s more intimate. So I try to do things like that more often.
Do you feel like your missing out on the world? You can go out and explore by yourself. And then you can do whatever you want to..and leave your options open to meeting new people :)
I also think a big part of it is just appreciating what you have right in front of you. You’re always going to feel like you’re “missing out” on things, especially because of the Facebook era where people post pictures and statuses about how awesome their lives are. If that’s the case, keep in mind that those posts are jaded because it’s mostly just show. People usually don’t want to share that they’re staying in on a Friday night because they don’t want to come off as lame to the rest of the world.
I’m interpreting your post in so many different ways..but does this apply to you at all? I’d love for you to elaborate because this is something that I identify with myself :)
@feren6, I am fairly certain you hit the nail on the head. I too don’t like big parties, And yeah I deleted my facebook for like 5 months.. I went for a run the other day on this nature trail and it felt awesome I think I should do it more… I feel like I have so much to share with people and help them and like make them smile but I just have these waves of confidence, I wish it stayed with me all the time. Sometimes I feel like on top of the world and others I feel like a door mat.
“I am as bad as the worst, but, thank God, I am as good as the best.”
I can relate with you and your predicament. What’s wrong with doing what feels best? If you can’t decide what’s best, just make a decision. That’s all you have to do.
“If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.”