Guiltgifting Syndrome – Any fellow sufferers?

2 years, 2 months ago

good afternoon sweetums. seeing as its THAT time of year i am currently being plagued by an illness that seems to grab hold of me every year. guiltgifting syndrome. its symptoms tend to include..

– buying shit for people i want to impress
– thus resulting in me buying shit thats expensive for the people i want to impress
excessive trips to shopper drug mart (which is one of like five stores where i live but still it’s open til 10pm which is a luxury here)
– impulse purchases that add up (grab a lindt chocolate to add some oomph to her gift, throw a mini case of red bull in with his)
– buying unconventional christmas cards because i’m just SO FUCKING ORIGINAL however this unfortunately involves paying up the ass for shipping to the boonies where i live. apparently i believe the receivers of my gifts must not settle for your lame “wishing you all the blessings of the seasons” cards or those mass printed animal foundation ones that you get in the mail to guilt you into donating

its side effects tend to include:

– significant shrinkage of the wallet and/or bank account
– the subconscious desire to ‘one up’ other gift givers
– forgetting who i bought all this shit for. whose box of chocolates are these? good lord whose hipster neckalace was this again?

December 18, 2012 at 2:06 pm

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Profile photo of Matthew L Wynn Matthew L Wynn (@matthewynn) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

Are you religious?

Profile photo of daisy daisy (@daisy) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@matthewynn, not at all. i possess of a lot of laveyan satanist-like values and beliefs.
but in fact, until i was 15 and my parents separated, my jehovahs witness father would still allow us to celebrate xmas but we couldn’t make a big deal about it. the angriest i’ve ever seen him @ me was after i bought a xmas light star and stuck it in my bedroom window of our house at the time (and mind you this window faced our backyard aka a huge forest, no one saw it i just felt i was missing out on this ‘normal’ thing that people do)

Profile photo of Matthew L Wynn Matthew L Wynn (@matthewynn) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

Ok… I see where you’re coming from now. To me it seems that the desire to live up the the expectations of others, or to a normalcy based on traditions have put you in this mindset that allows you to suffer when it comes to this time of the year. You celebrate the giving part of Christmas, but what about the actual origin of it? I was raised Christian, and I found that it didn’t fully make enough sense for me, and so I dropped it around the age of 11.

Up until earlier this year from then I wasn’t celebrating the values of Christmas, just enjoying the material abundance that came about. Once I let go of the attachment to the material world however a little while ago, the whole prospect of Christmas giving time became much more clear. My conclusion is that if you’re going to give someone a gift, do it because you want to, not because tradition said now is the time. This is going to be the first Christmas where I don’t worry about buying anything for anyone, and where I don’t expect or want any gifts in the first place from anyone else. Can you imagine being in that state of mind about this time of the year?

Profile photo of Dan Dan (@danfontaine) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

Be more selfish, idk.

Profile photo of Tobias Valdemar Broe Knudsen Tobias Valdemar Broe Knudsen (@2bias) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

I think you just need to set up some rules as to by what criterias you gift people. – example, my parents mostly buy gifts for children (younger than 18) and just people we are with at christmas – imagine the mayhem if everyone had to gift everyone who ever sent them a gift – no one could afford it, and we would all be depressed with guilt.

you just need to rationalize. Would you considder it bad if someone didn’t gift you for x reason? then maybe you should just focus on the people close to you, or whoever you feel like gifting because you’re excited about it. try to eliminate your guilt, it’s crazy and you know it!

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