Hearing the same things again, reoccurring

2 years, 2 months ago

Each new chapter of my life, always comes with hearing or seeing things that go with what I am currently going to indulge in. Some may say, oh that is just you paying attention more detailed of your surrounds. Well I am always analyzing my surroundings, and they seem to always mold what is happening.
So in this chapter of my life that is just starting again, I have lots of chapters cause I love to change. But this new man has entered my life, random as all ghetto. And like my best friend in Alaska was all, awe what if you’re the one he wants to marry. And my co-worker was like i’m going to be the brides maid, cause I have to be. Cause he is a driver at papa johns, i’m in store ha. And then like i’ve been hearing a lot about children and talking about kids around me. I’m just like what is life trying to tell me now? That this guy really might be the guy I marry? Cause in my every day life I honestly don’t want to get married or have kids but, that stuff kinda happens sometimes and makes peoples lives. I don’t want to be lonely ya know. Or it’s just me being over thoughtful, hmm what do you think.

December 9, 2012 at 7:02 pm

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Profile photo of Luke Luke (@gotwisdom) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

I believe what we experience externally is mainly a reflection of our internal views. In a way, I suppose it could be thought of in terms of perspective – what you think about you will notice in the external world. That’s not to say life doesn’t hold surprises. But if this is happening and you are having these feelings, it’s for a reason. I would say the best course of action would be to simply address these feelings. Meditate on them and see what you discover. You don’t need to know where you are heading in life, but it’s still beneficial to ponder just so you know yourself well :)

Also, I don’t think being over thoughtful is possible! Good luck.

Profile photo of highideals highideals (@highideals) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@cristinelizabeth, Whassup girl!? good talks. Well, i dont know abou the whole universe showing you signs things personally. Perhaps, he is the guy you are going to marry but i think that about every girl i meet. There is always that possibility. I think you should play it out like any other relationship and just see where it takes you. If you go into it thinking that you will marry him it might make you blind to other things that are less attractive about him or vice versa you might scare him off be clinging to quickly. you said “they seem to always mold what is happening” but maybe (not to be raining on the parade cause i fuckin love parades…not really haha) you just are more aware of things that people say when they match your life. Like they are constantly saying the same conversations but you just highlight the parts that apply to your life at the given time. I think a lot of people do that.

However, I wouldn’t analyze, “what the universe is telling you” moreso what you are telling you and what he is telling you. Does he make you happy? if so how often does he upset you? Do you communicate well?(communication is the ground to every healthy relationship) and if all these are telling you that he is THE GUY then fuck it man, play it out. But with that being said i think it is important to go through the stages and not to rush anything. No one should rush marriage, it only strains a relationship. Ive been with my girl for 2+ years and ya i might marry her, but im not trying to rush it. We have years to decide if we want to spend the rest of our lives together and we learn new things about our relationship everyday.

To sum up. Don’t analyze too much. If you are really happy with him and he is loyal, respectful, and loves you for who you are. Ride it out but don’t rush it!
Hope this helps… im still pretty new to HE but i’m trying to get my name out there.

Much love and godspeed

Profile photo of Matthew Matthew (@ojai) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@cristinelizabeth, Ever notice how when things we are attracted to seem so right, meant to be and almost “written in fate”…then when we are out of that phase/feeling we see how things maybe weren’t as right as we thought?

That’s what I think. I’ve thought plenty of things before that I thought were signs for me to go somewhere with something but really it’s imagination, i think. Imagination, a stirring analytical mind and an eye for events that correlate with what you feel at that particular time in your life.

Profile photo of Starry Eyed BLiND. Starry Eyed BLiND. (@cristinelizabeth) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@highideals, yo doobiee haha. Lol, cause I fucking love parades, not really haha. Yeah i’m not being clingy at all! Like he always asks me to chill and he says we don’t hang out enough but idk I just don’t want to be too available to him like I have a life too. I don’t expect anything more from him than just like enjoying each others company, and if things do go to another level than that;s cool. We just started talking like a week ago, and everyone around me is all excited about it. Yes I am happy because he is super fine, and I usually don’t date for looks honestly. I hear ya, I don’t want to rush into any of that ball and chain crap it freaks me out. Knowing you are going to spend the rest of your life with them like WHHHHAT, scary D:

@gotwisdom, Thank youu, :) I agree, I’m just gonna sit back and enjoy the show :p

Profile photo of Starry Eyed BLiND. Starry Eyed BLiND. (@cristinelizabeth) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@ojai, well yes, it takes two to tango so if only the other person feels the mutual imaginative feelings about their lives it will coincide to become one. It’s finding that person that understands this. I know all too well how that goes, But why does everything have to be like HAHA you just got into that to learn a lesson about yourself, silly, why would you waste your time? there is no wasting of time though because all the time you ‘spend’ is based on what you feel at the time should be spent on so, UGHH . hahaah. Why is life so simply yet so contradicting at being the most complex situations for us to figure out

Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

If the answers had come to you, why would you be asking the questions?
You don’t wonder about these things because you heard and saw it, you heard and saw those things because you were wondering about it.

The mind filters reality, what you focus on becomes more prioritized, you tune your eyes and ears to it. Subconscious thoughts are no less thought than conscious thoughts. They actually usually have more impact.

The world isn’t telling you anything, really. The world is just a feedback system, it only reacts to our actions. There is no predetermined future to foresee, there are only choices.

Whether or not he may be the guy you’ll spend your life with is ALL up to you, it’s your choice, and his choice. If you don’t want it, it won’t happen. If you do, maybe it will.

And a lot of the time, we hear the same things over and over because we don’t learn the “lesson” we’re supposed to learn from it.

So the question is. Do you want a husband and kids?
If yes, you know what to do.
If no, you know what to do.

Just do it.

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