A week ago i posted about how i’m not over a guy due to continuous infactuation. Well, i’m still not over him. Once again let me point out I am NOT in love. I’m not in love with the boy, i am in love with the memories. The late night walks on the golf course in my neighborhood. The dancing in the rain at a kids park at 3 o’clock in the morning. The way we could stay up all night in either mine, or his bed, JUST talking. The way he’d stare at me from across the room at awkward family gatherings at my grandmas house. The way he’d hold my hand and kiss me in front of EVERYONE because he wanted them to know i’m “his”. The way we could drive around and sing boy band songs (mostly mayday parade) and not be enbarrassed at all.
These are just a few of the things I miss more than anything.
If I made a list of EVERYTHING, you’d probably be reading for another 2 hours.
Basically, what i’m trying to say is, I’ve tried everything to get over this shit. Painting, making music, even doing the things i’m told, and not rebelling against authority. I just can’t seem to get him out of my mind, even though i don’t like him, honestly, he disgusts me.
But thats just life i guess.
Only time can heal.
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@xyver, @beyond, honestly, at this point, i think i just posted it in the wrong forum. I didn’t know there was a relationship forum. But hey, we learn from our mistakes. I wasn’t looking for attention, or pity, @yoinkie, I just didn;t word it right. IOf i had put “I need advice” or “what should i do?” then it would’ve been a reasonable post. Once again i’ll apologize for posting in the wrong forum, and/or offending you.
@grandkintaro777, Except she wasn’t asking for good advice, she was just venting.
Like I said before, how are they being assholes? It’s easy to pounce on someone and call them names, but can you support it with evidence?
@taylordacreator, And why did you feel offended? If you are looking for advice, one that’s popular around here is you have to change your perspective. So, your current perspective of the responses are that they are negative, so here you can practice having a positive perspective on things.
Like I said to grandkintaroo, it’s easy to pounce and call something a names (in this case, you’re calling a statement offensive), but can you have evidence to support your call? What about the statement makes it an offensive statement?
@taylordacreator, @beyond, @grandkintaro777, explain how I am an asshole? Especially @taylordacreator, did you read my comment? Im pretty sure I gave you the best advice you can get; a cold hard slap of reality to the face. “if you have nothing positive to say dont comment”, so thats how you want the world to work for you? So basically you are telling us that you posted this topic for the sole purpose of strangers online telling you “there there, everything will be ok.” and giving you attention, because you didnt ask for advice, nor did you ask for help. You basically asked for pity.
Still though, take my advice. You are going through something that is very common, everyone experiences it. The fact that you are letting a human being dictate your happiness towards other things is absurd, and pointless. The man disgusts you but you cant enjoy anything other then him. Let that shit go and concern yourself with making yourself happy and improving your life.
And for those of you that called us assholes; get the fuck out into the real world. Enjoy yourself a cold slap of reality once in a while. You create yourself a fairytale box where you dont want to hear any constructive criticism. The sentence, “if you have nothing nice to say dont comment” Is the SINGLE worst sentence in the entire world. That sentence is translated into, “I cant handle hearing anything negative, im too weak to face reality, so please help me pad me ego and self esteem.” You people keep acting like this and the real world will destroy you.
Let me give you all some advice; keep a few asshole friends and associates close to you always. They will do more good to your life then anyone else. A normal friend will tell you you are doing good, the girl your with is perfect, and your job is great. An asshole friend however, will tell you how it really is. The best move Ive ever made was to stop being a childish boy and grow up and learn to take negative advice, think it over, and use it to better myself. This is probably the best advice I could give to all of your, but you probably wont listen to it because its too negative. Enjoy your bubble, I guess.
@taylordacreator, When you see comments by people that show no weaknesses, remember that they’ve been through it and don’t want to remember it, because now they’re kings of their world.
Also, Heart break in the title and emphasizing on the fact that you’re not in love surely is a self-convincing bullshit. I’m also not in love with him, but I never had amazing memories with him, you know. But if you dump your pride, you might get ridiculously sincere responses here. :)
@xyver, You are an asshole too.
“The way he’d hold my hand and kiss me in front of EVERYONE because he wanted them to know i’m “his”. The way we could drive around and sing boy band songs (mostly mayday parade) and not be enbarrassed at all.
These are just a few of the things I miss more than anything.
If I made a list of EVERYTHING, you’d probably be reading for another 2 hours.”
@taylordacreator, What are you looking for by posting this? I see no questions or asking for advice, mostly something that looks like a journal entry. and Im tempted to throw out a “cool story, bro”, but I suppose we can meet somewhere in the middle.
Everyone has someone like this. There is a lot of different ways to deal with it, but mostly time is what helps the most. Get over it, there are far more important things in life to worry yourself over then some guy that disgusts you.
She was venting in hopes of someone posting something meaningful to cure her of her heart break, but instead she gets blown off to the point she got offended.
Did you also know there’s a relationship category featured on HE? People saying her venting doesn’t belong on this forum is quite idiotic.
@taylordacreator, How are they being assholes? It’s a legitimate question.
Usually people come here and ask questions, to provoke discussion. You just posted a “journal entry”, like you said, so the question of “why did you post this?” stands.
It doesn’t have to be a negative question, it’s a curiosity question. When you do something outside the norm, you will get questioned. Sometimes mean questions, sometimes nice questions, sometime neutral questions that can be taken either way. The trick is to take the neutral questions in a positive way, instead of projecting negative influence into them and making them into negative questions.
“i’m not an asshole, you are”
“no, you are!”
hahaha. stop taking yourselves so seriously :)
i think you are still attached to him because he gave you memories which made you feel good, and right now there is no one doing that for you, so you long for the feelings he gave you, not him. i say, find someone better ;) and try not thinking about him…or posting about him. hahaha. have a nice day everyone <3
So because it’s different from the “norm” it’s reasonable to blow her and her venting off?
I know you’re fond of those memories you have, but you can always try to relive those memories with someone different or create even better experiences with someone else. You probably know the chances of you guys becoming together again, but if the chances are very low, move on and try to find someone else that makes you happy.
Live in the present more then anything to create a better future, reliving your past will only create more depression. Put a lot time in your present, instead of your past and you’ll be a lot better off.
If you become heart broken again remember this message.
“If you have nothing to say to help her, why say anything at all ? Its quite easy to not say anything, I don’t see any progress here except constant arguing and name calling.”
Getting punched in the face is one of the most useful skills to learn in life. It’s a pity that there’s so few people willing to do it in real life, but atleast our online personas can learn to take a beating. She’ll thank us later.
@upset girl, I’d punch you in the face, darlin’