I’m introverted and for the most part I can provide a higher level of insight and intelligence than most people I seem to associate myself with. I may seem arrogant by stating that fact, but in reality, and with a personality like mine– it’s true. Whether it be that I am attracted to people who are not as philosophical as I am, or that I just don’t know where to meet people who have a similar personality to me, the problem exists. Now I understand that there are many more people like me out there and I believe that a large portion of this site’s members have the same conflict– although when we introverts embrace our introversion we obtain clarity of mind, our deep reflection and rumination sometimes engenders loneliness. My questions are: "How does an introvert find other introverts with similar interests in the physical world, without utilizing the internet to catalyze the networking?" and: "If you can relate to this, what are some strategies you’ve acquired throughout your life that help you cope with your inability to relate to the average individual because you are perceived as ‘weird’ or ‘eccentric’?
Although I do not necessarily believe that there is complete validity in the MBTI test, the personality type that I’ve consistently been labeled as is "INFJ". Maybe this has something to do with my eccentricity.
Any advice or similar thoughts?
actually Tine, I don’t think he’s wrong. I think that finding balance between the two and avoiding the extremes is important, and suggested Jay experiment with being different than he described himself. as I see it, this matches with James’ idea that one can be a charismatic introvert but you are probably right about the wording being confusing.
James: I didn’t mean to imply that there are any impossible combinations. mix and match those four words from my post any way you like. I’ve known deep-thinking extroverts and introverts who were social butterflies. change amounts to turning up the volume on the aspects that aren’t being expressed, different for each of us.
A: It depends on the introvert.
I think introversion is detrimental to intelligence because you never put your ideas out there to have them be bettered by the competition of other ideas.
I think that my own personal sense of introversion comes from a sense of perfectionism. I want to build a worldview that I completely understand. But that isn’t the way of building a good worldview; nothing can be static.
If introversion comes from not wanting to be proven wrong (and I think that much of it does) it usually only serves to help you harbor delusions.
Of course sometimes being delusional can get a lot done… definitely a mixed bag. I just think it’s good if you are inspired by others rather than shut down by them.