Here is a problem with my introversion and intelligence:
I’m introverted and for the most part I can provide a higher level of insight and intelligence than most people I seem to associate myself with. I may seem arrogant by stating that fact, but in reality, and with a personality like mine– it’s true. Whether it be that I am attracted to people who are not as philosophical as I am, or that I just don’t know where to meet people who have a similar personality to me, the problem exists. Now I understand that there are many more people like me out there and I believe that a large portion of this site’s members have the same conflict– although when we introverts embrace our introversion we obtain clarity of mind, our deep reflection and rumination sometimes engenders loneliness. My questions are: "How does an introvert find other introverts with similar interests in the physical world, without utilizing the internet to catalyze the networking?" and: "If you can relate to this, what are some strategies you’ve acquired throughout your life that help you cope with your inability to relate to the average individual because you are perceived as ‘weird’ or ‘eccentric’?
Although I do not necessarily believe that there is complete validity in the MBTI test, the personality type that I’ve consistently been labeled as is "INFJ". Maybe this has something to do with my eccentricity.
Any advice or similar thoughts?
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No nit-picking here, please read ideas not words. Easy-going and deep-thinking aren’t opposites, but I think easy-going would be close to the other end of the spectrum for Jay, based on his post.
it’s the same as reading your sentence equating extroversion with being superficial; I don’t think you were actually implying that all extraverts are superficial. Moving on.
Either extreme can be a problem for those who want to change and grow; wherever you are now, whatever you’re doing, you’ve got to step outside of yourself a bit if you’re interested in a wider world and more varied experiences. I think balance helps those who want to experience the full flavor of this life. Given that Jay really wants to meet new people, change would help given that what he’s doing now isn’t working.
Sometimes I feel the same way as you man…
“How does an introvert find other introverts with similar interests in the physical world, without utilizing the internet to catalyze the networking?”
By meeting people, getting to know them, and hoping that they are similar to you. I haven’t really found anyone… I’ve got quite a few that are close :) Or maybe they are just like me, I just don’t know them well enough yet.
“If you can relate to this, what are some strategies you’ve acquired throughout your life that help you cope with your inability to relate to the average individual because you are perceived as ‘weird’ or ‘eccentric’?”
Fake it till you make it. Or, fuck what everyone else thinks.
I think introversion is detrimental to intelligence because you never put your ideas out there to have them be bettered by the competition of other ideas.
I think that my own personal sense of introversion comes from a sense of perfectionism. I want to build a worldview that I completely understand. But that isn’t the way of building a good worldview; nothing can be static.
If introversion comes from not wanting to be proven wrong (and I think that much of it does) it usually only serves to help you harbor delusions.
Of course sometimes being delusional can get a lot done… definitely a mixed bag. I just think it’s good if you are inspired by others rather than shut down by them.
I think i feel you here… I think bout everything, i analyse things and philosophize where others simply just don’t give a shit. It truly is frustrating to feel that no one cares, but if you want to connect with people i think the best way to do it is not to discuss everything and just try to not take yourself too seriously, it think that’s what scares people away a lot of the time, also it may seem as if you are giving a lecture when really you’re just sharing your thoughts, for no particular reason other than to discuss, and reach a new level of insight or perspective.
Yes, the case of clicking with someone that is a match for you without deliberate use of internet as filter is a very rare chance, but why would you need it to be otherwise if you’re an introvert? The precious few that you do happen to run into are plenty! At least that’s what’s been in my head for years.
@ Manimal, Not Necessarily.
If I’m with an extraverted, superficial type of person, my contribution to the discussion comes from my position and has to do with what I am interested in. I will still share my existential beliefs with them. Don’t let others judgements sway your decisions and actions. I’m a proponent of “fuck what everyone else thinks”@ Bryan Hellard