How do I free myself of my Ego??

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nicole :) (@nicolederosie)    2 years, 1 month ago

Lately I have been reading up on ways to be happy and LoA, Law of Attraction and that whole ordeal has gotten me very interested in this part of… learning about these super amazing things… Anyways, I was just wondetring what steps I should take if i wanted to free myself of my ego? I understand your ego is the source to sadness, ect. Yes it has benefits but for those of you that know what im talking about all answers would be apreciated thank you :)

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FindYourGreatness (@jpete011)2 years, 1 month ago ago

It takes time. But simply understanding what it is will help speed things up a lot. Ego is your emotions, past experiences, beliefs, personality, values, and most importantly your HABITS. So everything you’ve done throughout your life has been reinforced into your ego and you habitually act in certain ways most of the time. You can say something like, “I’m quiet” or “I’m really bad at basketball”.. But these are just thoughts reinfoced by your ego (which remembers your past experiences of being quiet and sucking at basketball). Stay present minded, that’s what meditation helps with.
Here you are now in this moment. Forget about everything in the past. If you wanted, right now you could stop being quiet (if you have been in the past) and start creating a habit of being more loud and extroverted. Eventually this will become habit and your ego will some day ‘take it in’ and you will then likely think, “I’m an extroverted and outgoing person.” Similarly for the basketball example, you might suck at basketball now, but say from this moment on you started practicing dribbling, shooting and passing one hour a day for the next year. After that year you’ll think, “damn I’m a very skilled basketball player.” Your ego changed after implementing that new habit

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FindYourGreatness (@jpete011)2 years, 1 month ago ago

It takes time. But simply understanding what it is will help speed things up a lot. Ego is your emotions, past experiences, beliefs, personality, values, and most importantly your HABITS. So everything you’ve done throughout your life has been reinforced into your ego and you habitually act in certain ways most of the time. You can say something like, “I’m quiet” or “I’m really bad at basketball”.. But these are just thoughts reinfoced by your ego (which remembers your past experiences of being quiet and sucking at basketball). Stay present minded, that’s what meditation helps with.
Here you are now in this moment. Forget about everything in the past. If you wanted, right now you could stop being quiet (if you have been in the past) and start creating a habit of being more loud and extroverted. Eventually this will become habit and your ego will some day ‘take it in’ and you will then likely think, “I’m an extroverted and outgoing person.” Similarly for the basketball example, you might suck at basketball now, but say from this moment on you started practicing dribbling, shooting and passing one hour a day for the next year. After that year you’ll think, “damn I’m a very skilled basketball player.” Your ego changed after implementing that new habit

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craig (@cgbush)2 years, 1 month ago ago

sure meditation helps, it has a helping hand in just aboot everything. my opinion on it would be to just work at being a good person, stay modest aboot EVERYTHING, be giving, honest, loyal, and dont hesitate to go that ‘exta mile’ even for strangers. if you cant get rid of ego, make it a pure one, something to be proud of. theres nothing wrong with being proud of being a good person is there?

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Michael (@mike)2 years, 1 month ago ago

Ego is human evolutionary trait; helps cope, plan/interact with/around outside world. Wouldn’t do you much good to do away with it completely. To reiterate what others have said, perhaps try to quell unnecessary thought chatter coming from the ego mind.

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Nick (@nickc2007)2 years, 1 month ago ago

Yeah, it’s pretty important to note that if you free yourself of your ego you’re also freeing yourself of all your passions, friendships, goals, everything you’ve spent your life working towards. Is that worth it?

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aneesh (@aneesh)2 years, 1 month ago ago

@Nicole – this is the ONE universal topic of every religion and spiritual doctrine that has ever been created… For example, in Christianity and Islam, one surrenders his ego to God and in doing so, he finds true happiness. In Hinduism, this surrender is also important but the process is also an inquiry (who am I?). Buddha sought to free others from their egos by denying the very existence of one. So in that respect, every religion is saying the same thing! The only differences are in the method.

There have been very few in the world who have been able to successfully rid themselves of their ego. It takes immense courage. All desires will be lost – as it has been said – desires and ambitions will die along with the ego. But that does not mean you will cease to do anything in this world… Quite the opposite… An egoless man will devote himself to helping others because he is no longer in need of help himself.

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aneesh (@aneesh)2 years, 1 month ago ago

Finding your true self is a lifelong, solitary process. Many here are suggesting means of egolessness but none of them have achieved it, and so no one can help you.

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Anonymous (@)2 years, 1 month ago ago

Free yourself of the word ego and panic when you realize that ego was always there. Then calm down when you realize that ego is not the demon you should hate, because demons are sexy and boring.

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Exist (@exist)2 years, 1 month ago ago

It’s likely your goal isn’t really total ego removal, instead to remove negative past influences, to live more in-the-present moment, able to appreciate your life and love everyone, which is certainly attainable.

I’d say run through The Presence Process.

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Jason (@thinknowlivenow)2 years, 1 month ago ago

Transcendence of the lower self is absolutely possible, practical and real. Ironically, those who have done this are often perceived as unstable, ungrounded and too mystical for their own good. I just finished a small article addressing the role of emotional impulse in regards to ego, called “Why YOU Shouldn’t Care What Other People Think”: http://www.thinknowlivenow.com/goal-setting/why-you-shouldnt-care-what-other-people-think

The key with ego transcendence isn’t in denying the existence of your ego, but rather recognizing the correct role that it plays. Do not waste time trying to “fend off” or “cut out” the ego, as that is where you are placing your attention, and thus validating its existence in the process. To get rid of darkness in a room, we don’t “sweep it out” or “pull it out”, we open the window/shades and/or turn on a light, and the darkness diminishes as a result.

The key is to start becoming aware of the negative influences of your ego, then striving to correct and diminish this influence on your internal/external reality.

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vishnu (@vizznou)2 years, 1 month ago ago

To get rid of darkness in a room, we don’t “sweep it out” or “pull it out”, we open the window/shades and/or turn on a light, and the darkness diminishes as a result.” ^^ awesome analogy :)

there was a similar thread on here about ego and this really stuck with me: “You need an Ego, if you didn’t have an ego you wouldn’t know who’s mouth to put food in, when eating in a restaurant.” so thats what you call ego – I, Me as separate from the rest of everything… and its absolutely essential.
there are actually a lot of threads here on about ego in every sense of the word actually. i highly recommend you to check em out:

http://www.highexistence.com/discussions/topic/what-is-the-point-of-ego/

http://www.highexistence.com/discussions/topic/assisting-ego-self-awareness/

and always remember: http://www.highexistence.com/discussions/topic/its-not-always-about-you/ :)

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Ray Butler (@trek79)2 years, 1 month ago ago

Some believe ego is the inclination one has toward their own superiority and grandure, others think the ego is the very self. But the fact is that ego exists in the dictionary, if you want to liberate yourself from it then stop looking it up.

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