How do YOU flow, and be yourself?

3 years, 1 month ago

I have a question that I would like to hear peoples different ideas on.
I’m struggling a lot with finding the proper words to express myself. Like, even in my own head, I think that my own words are limiting my mind. Sometimes I am so inspired and especially when I go to HE, but also in my daily life discovering and learning all of the time. But I shoot myself down with my limited way of thinking. I draw blanks sometimes during conversation ect. I therefore have a very hard time being myself and expressing myself and feeling pure bliss. These words aren’t even always physical words but thoughts and actions too.
A LOT of you here are fantastic with your posts and comments and your words flow and even I feel some personality. It’s pretty amazing when people can be themselves like that. :] I’m pretty sure this is just a mental block or some kind of "ego" thing but, help? I’m not shy and I’m very open minded, and freethinking and critical and I do have a lot to share. But this wall I keep hitting sucks! A stunt to creativity and opportune moments for sharing an insight and socializing! Hopefully I phrased this in a way that I asked the right questions. Language ‘can’ be so limiting.
I think this ties into "Introspective meditation", in a way

February 9, 2012 at 12:48 pm

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Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Stop.Thinking.Too.Much.

I’ve had the same problem, and the main problem is really being in your head. Get out of there and be present. How do you solve the problem? First of all, you gotta do things and focus on doing them, another thing that helps is paying attention to your breathing.

Read the latest blog post about taoism, then read some good taoist book. Meditate, workout, have fun. Do things that you can put your mind into so you don’t think so damn much, and the problem will soon go away with some consistency.

Read the thread “What sets your mind free” for some tips on such activities.

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Profile photo of Nick Nick (@nickc2007) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

I could definitely divide my life in two: When I’m thinking about the past/future (and therefore often worrying), and when I’m completely immersed in life. Say you’re reading a book. You’ll either lose track of time completely and get immersed in the story; or you keep getting distracted, thinking about your worries, and you find that a page or so has gone by without taking any of it in.

Keeping this in mind is pretty useful. When you’re doing something, and find yourself worrying about something else, just remind yourself of what you’re doing at that moment, and concentrate on that. Best way I’ve found to do this is losing yourself in a musical instrument for an hour or so (of course this goes for anything artistic/creative).

For me? Turntable practice, cooking, walking, and above all socialising (especially if it can include a spot of stupid dancing).

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Profile photo of Flynnstone Flynnstone (@flynnstone) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

I was a bit hesitant share my opinion on this site when I first joined because everyone seemed so intelligent and knew what they were talking about. I realized that if I just spoke (or wrote), by just getting it all out there,I was able to put my ideas together better and eventually improve my confidence in myself. At least for me, it’s how I looked at my writing, not necessarily that there’s anything bad about it. Language is limited, and i wish I could broadcast thoughts/emotions without language, but I haven’t gotten there yet.
I try to sit with a blank piece of paper at least once a day and do something creative with it, whether I write, draw, or just stare at it and do nothing for a few minutes.

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Profile photo of CosmicLemonade CosmicLemonade (@cosmiclemonade) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

@Caitlin thats exactly how I’ve viewed all my writings since I started blogging in 6th grade. The only way to grow is to put yourself out there and possibly fall on your ass a few times. Its a continuous process that reveals itself to the extent that you take risks. I always love rereading what I’ve written and critiquing it in order to develop the ideas and consolidate them for future reference. This, to me, is the great value in these discussions as well. Its preeetty sweet. Dig it

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Profile photo of Stony Island Stony Island (@emjay) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Yes! I think @Caitlin said it best: Express it with something.
Write. Draw. Whatever.
I’ve had a few of those moments myself, but the thing that helps is like what a few of the posters said. Just remind yourself of what you’re CURRENTLY doing and Why you’re doing it. I guess, basically, Live IN the moment. And Describe it.

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Profile photo of Sasho Stoyanov Anonymous (@) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

I am always myself, indeed. Especially when I’m drunk.

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Profile photo of DANM!! DANM!! (@deej) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Haha @Manimal – I created that thread! I haven’t looked into taoism, I’ll do that. Thanks.
@Nicholas – That’s great I think the ability to immerse yourself and have complete focus is the best way to hone that ability in other areas of life.
And Caitlyn – exactly! I think it’s the way you look at your own communication style ;P I wish I just broadcast my message when I wanted to but there doesn’t seem to be any better way then to do it whether or not it works.

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Profile photo of Flynnstone Flynnstone (@flynnstone) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Yes, exactly! Thanks everyone :)
I’ve been thinking about this for a little while now…but in regards to broadcasting our messages…you know how many people (on this site, at least) maintain that we are all one consciousness, we’re one energy field, and that we’re all connected somehow?
I wonder then why it is so difficult to relate to each other, why we must use language and other modes of imperfect communication if we are but one being. I hope that we might eventually get to the point where we can communicate perfectly.

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Profile photo of Kaibyou Kaibyou (@kaibyou) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

I write music.

To me, it’s not a hobby, but rather an essential thing I must do to express myself.

It doesn’t really matter if people like it. It’s me.

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Profile photo of DANM!! DANM!! (@deej) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Thanks guys yes I had the epiphany where I understood something that I’ve been told my whole life. Just to be myself. Imperfect communication
@ Tine – Yes it all stemmed from social anxiety which I used to have at a point and I’m experiencing the negative backlashes of it now. When my mind goes blank trying to figure out the best way to say what I want to say. It’s kind of like forgetting what I am and what I know and then.. it’s gone and then I’m fighting to get it back. viola complete blankout. Weird. I know. It’s why I’m able to feel more like myself alone sometimes.
@Caitlyn that would be great. I think that’s a good concept. For now we have our actions and expressions to stand behind or in front of our words. Which is also very powerful.

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Profile photo of Jay Jay (@cptapples) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Yesss i know exactly what you mean man. I rarely find myself in deep conversations with people but when I do i find i cant really explain what i want to express. Maybe because the truths that i have discovered so far are more of a feeling, which at least i find difficult to express (You guys on HE do a great job though). Maybe its just a practice thing, the more you try the better you get. As a kid my parents did most of my talking for me and so growing up i was slightly stunted, im still experiencing the effects. But anyways as far as i can tell you express yourself very well, better then me at least.

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Profile photo of stonedragon stonedragon (@stonedragon21) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

tine i knew i could count on you for that.
i just was chatting with my neice in college who asked me for some beginning advice on how to meditate and i said i would send her something/
this looks like a great thing. that you posted.

hey just let it flow out.. sort of verbal diarehhea. we at HE dont care much what each other writes. once in a while we get into big intense fights even. it all dont matter much. just say whats on your heart.
that is the most important for all of us at this point.

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Profile photo of Alex Alex (@hollowinfinity) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Take in thoughts when you breathe in..let them go when you breathe out. If you start with the most basic part of existence (breathing) then everything else just follows. Thoughts flow in, thoughts flow out. Constantly with a clear head.

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