How do you help people in their personal growth

2 years, 8 months ago

What do you guys think about influencing people in the direction of helping them grow and develop themselves? The reason I’m bringing this up is that here we have this kind-of community which follows some higher principles, and definitely one of the higher principles is helping others. So how do you help others? How do you help them change the thought patterns that govern their lives? And I’m talking mainly about the patterns which are destructive for the person – we can try to help remove them and instead offer patterns of higher principles, how can we do that? And what do you do when they start arguing with you?

July 27, 2012 at 7:00 pm

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Profile photo of Kevin Kevin (@bigred) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

Use this format:
Say your friend is doing something no good for their life.

Rather than tell them to stop and why(puts you above them), you should level with them, maybe even join them(gains trust pertaining to the subject), then “realize” the detrimental issues that “effect you both” and discuss the issue from their point of view.

If that makes any sense.
I’ve done it alot, but its really hard to explain.

I have a group of friends who i am really close to and care alot about, but they have some really bad lifestyle choices and values.
Rather than alienate them, and point out the obvious issues they don’t see, i join them and act like it’s MY problem I’m discussing.
Its worked so well that they have suggested to ME the very solutions i was hoping to suggest to suggest to THEM. After realizing that it could be applied in their life as well, they had their own realizations bout their lifestyle while giving ME advice on the very issue i was worried about.

No idea if that’s going to translate to English, but I’ve done it, it works, and can be applied to any serious issue if you have the right amount of motivation, will power, and persuasion techniques.
Psychology my dear Watson.. if your interested in this sort of stuff, it’s essential to understand how the mind thinks.

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