how to move on… how to heal

3 years, 4 months ago

it seems that healing a broken heart takes so long . like there are so many layers to it. at some point i think, ok im over it. and then it all starts up again. the sadness, then the anger, the hatred, the acceptance. then im ok again for a while. breathe. meditate let go. all this. layer after layer.

does anyone else feel this way?

November 28, 2011 at 6:19 pm

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Profile photo of Ellie Ellie M (@tangledupinplaid21) 3 years, 4 months ago ago

Yeah. I have gotten over painful and anger inducing events only to remember them later on and feel the same stabbing emotion, though to a lesser degree. It really takes you by surprise when you think and feel like you’re completely over something only to have it come back to haunt you. Wish I had some tips for it.

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Profile photo of stonedragon stonedragon (@stonedragon21) 3 years, 4 months ago ago

i think it is super deep ellie. it goes back to my father. i see that now. i guess it is like that for women. for guys it must be the mother. omg. im fed up with it.

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Profile photo of BirdFlyingHigh BirdFlyingHigh (@birdflyinghigh) 3 years, 4 months ago ago

Sometimes it really helps to talk to the person who you feel conflicted over, but not about the heartbreak. Just about normal stuff, or some other thing that you can focus on. That way your relationship starts going back kind of to normal… but I guess that doing that can just make you more attached.

I don’t know… relationships are one thing that you can never pin down to a science!

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Profile photo of kim kim (@ominka) 3 years, 4 months ago ago

our brain is the machine in which we operate. youre in control, not your emotions over you. its sucks how easy it is to lose that grasp. utilize your imagination. see yourself as how you really want and deserve to be- happy. your imagination is your belief. we all know of this covert truth, but heartbreaks cause such hefty downfalls that it doesn’t occur to us that its just as easy, and can be just as quick, to get back up. it really is. believe it and it will be, i promise :) your imagination is your wheel in which you steer. now head to your destination!

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Profile photo of stonedragon stonedragon (@stonedragon21) 3 years, 4 months ago ago

oh alexa. im crying real hard now reading your post. i could feel you all afternoon. i was thinking about you so much and knowing that somehow you were being super strong today . and it was about father shit.
meltdown… it all amounts somehow to father or mother shit i think.
my meltdown too. it comes down to that i guess. trying so hard to get that love and then getting just slapped in the face/. when what you needed was love, a pat on the back. an its ok my darling child/ that is what kids need. pure and simple. protection and love.. like i always gave to my kids.

you were so great alexa not to give him a huge whack in the pants. but what good would it have done. you being kind and supportive to him at this point shows your maturity and strength. inside you can later cry.
my old man died a dogs death in moscow, with no funeral. he rotted away.
i hadnt talked to him for the last five years of his rotten drunken life.
it is good if you can make it up with your old man now. this will save you years of a crappy marriage like i had.
work these things out kids… that is all i can say!

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Profile photo of stonedragon stonedragon (@stonedragon21) 3 years, 4 months ago ago

kim by the way. thanks you r right about our imagination. we have to imagine that it can be better. this keeps us from falling into total despair. from depair to repair.!

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Profile photo of kim kim (@ominka) 3 years, 4 months ago ago

despair repair, i like it. yeah just like sad feelings, the happy ones too, hold as much conviction value in our imagination. trust the power of positive thought! hoorah

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