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Psychonaut (@soulpilgrim)    2 years, 6 months ago

This post is in deliberate contrast to my JUST CHOOSE LOVE post.

I believe in both of these statements. I believe that most people you know couldn’t give a shit whether you are dead or alive & everyone is judging you.

When you accept you are practically anonymous to the world & you’ll be judged whatever you do it gives you enormous freedom to do whatever you want & be who you want to be.

No one gives a fuck about you. They are all so absorbed in their own bullshit that you can do as you please. Occasionally someone may form an opinion not based on fact about you & you’ll be so unconscious yourself that you’ll actually take that persons opinion on board. Don’t ever do it to yourself again.

Who gives a shit what your boss thinks? He’s just as fearful and misinformed as everyone else.

Who gives a shit what your so called friends think? I guarantee at least half of the people you consider to be friends are just acquaintances. They all talk behind your back. Don’t waste your time or energy seeking approval from these people. Your better off having one or two real friends.

If you died tomorrow. Even your closest will be over it in a years time.

Seriously. Stop giving a shit about what other people think. Be yourself. Manifest your dreams.

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Psychonaut (@soulpilgrim)2 years, 6 months ago ago

The skill in all this is to know when not to give a fuck & when to choose love. Can you do both at the same time? It’s a paradox.

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vishnu (@vizznou)2 years, 6 months ago ago

hehe agree.. george carlin said: ever notice how everyone else’s stuff is shit and your shit is STUFF?

and of course we can do both together

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Anonymous (@)2 years, 6 months ago ago

Yeah, like Jason said – George Carlin and awesome video. Nothing else to discuss. Like alexa said – paradoxes are fun. Like everyone said – be skeptic and awesome.
Not giving a fuck is a serious matter. Ever been to an acting audition, guys? COMEDY IS SERIOUS. DRAMA IS SERIOUS.
Once you master it, you’ll just lack people to love…
I am writing this with tears in my eyes while creating a drama, because I can.
Giving a shit? Look around you. Everybody is a “know-it-all”. But a few people can laugh and cry and not giving a fuck.
Now just love the people who are close to you.

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ELI var namnet (@manimal)2 years, 6 months ago ago

Hell yeah, this is an awesome topic.

You have your body and your mind, these are separate from other bodies and minds. Everyone has full responsibility over their own body and mind, someone reacts badly to what you do, that’s their problem, not yours. You react badly to someone else, that’s your problem and not theirs.

NO OTHER HUMAN HAS ANY RESPONSIBILITY OR OBLIGATIONS TOWARD YOU WHATSOEVER. Read that sentence a couple of times. Stings a bit doesn’t it? That’s because you’ve been conditioned to be extremely attached to other people, this conditioning has the sole purpose of making it easy to exploit you (and others.) You’re always on your own in this world, everything else is just a delusional haze. ALWAYS on your own, don’t try to hide from it. You are always on your own.

Now, not giving a fuck gets you “out of the loop” so to speak. It’s one of the most important aspects for a higher way of life. Giving a fuck is what the buddha calls dukkha.

Like I said in another thread yesterday “Don’t be a shithead, don’t give a shit.”

Now, not giving a shit will make the haters go for you. This could be considered a problem, but it’s really just a symptom. It’s not your problem, it’s theirs. You haven’t done anything wrong, they’re just mad because of their own insecurities and big bloody ego. Never mind the haters, don’t give a shit.

Every great person has haters, usually lots of them. Jesus didn’t give a fuck and had thousands of haters, and still does. And that guy might just be a fictional character, yet real people hate him. See how absurd that is. Hate and anger in other people has nothing to do with you, it’s all about these individuals.

Hate and anger within yourself though, that’s your problem only, and nobody else’s. No other human being is responsible for your thoughts, you choose what to think, and you choose to react.

Don’t be a shithead, don’t give a shit.

I am a no-fuck-giver, and I approve of this message.

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Sid Gore (@Sidman11)4 months, 2 weeks ago ago

What about family?

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Jason (@thinknowlivenow)2 years, 6 months ago ago

“Who gives a shit what your boss thinks? He’s just as fearful and misinformed as everyone else.”

Pure gold Psychonaut. I’m working on a guest post for HE at the moment that deals with precisely what you mention here; caring about what other people think of you. What good is the opinion of someone who isn’t even anchored in true reality? Shadow boxing is the result of choosing that path.

Also, spot on, Manimal : )

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Anonymous (@)2 years, 6 months ago ago

Don’t be afraid, HEthens. You just need a pencil. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=20DN9wDhbAo

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stonedragon (@stonedragon21)2 years, 6 months ago ago

MANIMAL. that was a spot on thing you said there. thanks for that. im always getting caught up in the blameguilt syndrome.
how many others out there suffer from this..

moan moan. its his fault, its my fault. its her fault, its their fault, not true. whoes fault is it really. !!!!
and indeed who gives a flying fuck! in less than a hundred years we will all be reduced to something less than recognizable anyway.

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ELI var namnet (@manimal)2 years, 6 months ago ago

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ck66ML-ByrM&feature=relmfu

Extremely deep and relevant video (or not haha.) I love it, I think I’m gonna build one of these things.

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stonedragon (@stonedragon21)2 years, 6 months ago ago

although on the other hand when you do think about it what you do to others does have a direct inflence on how they are going to treat you back. so it does matter how you act. you cant just go around and act like a real asshole and expect everything to be peachy for you.
this discussion should be called not giving a fuck about what others think of you. should not be confused with not giving a fuck about how you act towards others.

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Anonymous (@)2 years, 6 months ago ago

You um… should shut the fuck up. My hands are not this long to hug you.

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ELI var namnet (@manimal)2 years, 6 months ago ago

@stonedragon A person who avoids being an asshole just because they want a certain reaction from others, is still an asshole in disguise. An asshole with a fake mustache-nose-glasses-eyebrows thingy, pretending to not be an asshole.

“Doing good” with the agenda of being treated well is not doing good at all. Doing good for the sake of doing good is. Doing good just because you authentically feel like it.

It all comes down to intent. Intent is everything, and that’s the main reason to not give a fuck. About anything.

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Jason (@thinknowlivenow)2 years, 6 months ago ago

^Intent is the name of the game.

Mental intent leads to emotional intent, which leads to intent of action. The causal chains begin and end within the mind; notice how most people have a hard time paying attention to anything for more than five seconds. Or, they are constantly tethered to their phone. Mass control is now easier than ever!

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Filip (@filipek)2 years, 6 months ago ago

I agree in a way with the topic starter, because in essence you are right. We are on our own on this world, however, don’t forget that we are social creatures!

I don’t believe in pure altruism, except the parent-child relationship (when it’s a healthy one of course), but you can set your question marks to that as well. But if nobody would give a fuck about the other, we wouldn’t be as civilized and cultured as we are now, no doubt about that! Maybe we wouldn’t even exist as human beings, because there are so many things we can’t do on our own…

As everything, you have to see this in perspective as well, believe in yourself and trust yourself, that is what matters!

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Chris (@chlomo)2 years, 6 months ago ago

I like to think I’ve been a no-fucks-given kinda guy for years

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Raul (@aleceiffel)2 years, 6 months ago ago

I’ve been checking out this site now for a couple of weeks ( didn’t even realize it had a forum!) but this post made me join. It’s a nice kick in the ass that I definitely needed today to hear today. May not have been the most elegant way to state it, but god-dammit it, it short enough of a mantra for me!

Thanks again Psychonaut

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Anonymous (@)2 years, 6 months ago ago

Great post…i think that the idea of not giving a fuck and being able to truly love at the same time is non – attachment, that`s the first and maybe the most important step towards freedom…

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Tony (@emjay)2 years, 6 months ago ago

I don’t give a fuck about this thread.

; )

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Psychonaut (@soulpilgrim)2 years, 6 months ago ago

I reckon start by not giving a fuck about anything then while you are free you can then choose love. Sorted!

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Michael (@mike)2 years, 6 months ago ago

Great post man. We should all aspire to give less fucks. I find I’m generally happier when going about things with this type of attitude.

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José (@justze)2 years, 6 months ago ago

I think that we have to put some boundaries within the no fuck giving aspect, and that boundary should be love. What I’m trying to say is that when we are talking about dont giving a fuck we are talking about giving a fuck about what we want to do, or doing whatever we want despite other’s opinions or judgments, however any action will have it’s reaction, you will receive what you give. That said, and knowing that you choose love and want love, you will have to do love, to practice love, because nothing can be accomplished just by wanting it or choosing it. I hope this makes sense, my mind is high.

peace

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Daniel (@qwuakeup)2 years, 6 months ago ago

Its not that we have to stop giving a fuck, we just have to give less of a fuck. Most people give too much, which is the problem. Give a little bit of a fuck , that’s fine, but don’t overly give too much of a fuck.

A hilarious video about this:

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Dick (@dick)2 years, 6 months ago ago

It’s not your problem, it is theirs. This realization is where the real not giving a fuck comes from.
My Dad once said to me, “Nobody cares about you”. They were and are words to live by. I knew intuitively that he was excluding the few that do (immediate family).
I love my family, despite the fact that sometimes they have a problem that’s not mine.

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stonedragon (@stonedragon21)2 years, 6 months ago ago

“Good and bad, happy and sad, all thoughts vanish into emptiness like the imprint of a bird in the sky.” Chogyam Trungpa

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pat (@epath)2 years, 6 months ago ago

I guess I am, as usual, in between don’t give a fuck and just choose love. For one thing, it is just not true that if you die no one will think of you; at least, when my friends have died, I’ve thought about them for years and years and still do. I write about them, talk about them, and keep their memory alive. Of course, the part about not giving a fuck is that YOU won’t be there, so of course it’s all moot from your point of view. I do have 5 -6 good friends now. Sometimes I feel they don’t give a fuck and sometimes I don’t give a fuck about them momentarily; that’s life, you get caught up in what you’re doing, or your aspirations, etc. change. Unless you are totally enlightened or really psycho, I think you can’t do without others though it is best to be able to live on your own if you have to.

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ELI var namnet (@manimal)7 months ago ago

Begone, foul demon of the internet.

GET THE SPAMBOT OFF OUR BACKS!

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ELI var namnet (@manimal)6 months, 4 weeks ago ago

SPAMBOT IN THIS THREAD AS WELL.

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