How to respond to anger?

i used to have uncontrolled anger all the time and i loved to pick fights with my husband who was unable to express his emotions. this made me crazy sometimes and i would get over emotional just to get him to react.this went on for years, and i hated it.
now im alone and i dont have so much emotion or anger any more. i went thru a phase of extreme depression, sadness then anger after he left me, and then hatred, then acceptance. and sometimes i go around in that emotional circle again, but it is ok. i just look at it, and feel it, and then let it pass.

anger is good, not bad, but you have to be careful how you express it, to not hurt other people around you. after the worst blast passes, you calm down then perhaps talk about what is bothering you. that is healthy.
but do not repress anger. it will come out in another form which can make you sick.

that irritation animus is the lack of nicotine in your blood i guess.
when you are high i guess it doesnt effect you, that really isnt the way to work with this in the long run. but it does make it easier. i never smoked cigs so i dont know, i have just seen my son trying to quit so many times and seen how grouchy he was. this too will pass.

Men and women react differently. Women go crazy and start screaming and crying, men make the completely logical decision to shout and beat the shit out of someone… makes sense?

I haven’t been angry in a very long time, but the way I used to react to anger was to beat people and break stuff.

manimal you were such an animal. and now you are getting to be more and more human!

@kidvisions. it is funny you mention mattieu ricard. i was with him last nite. he just came out of a meditation retreat here where i live. his mom lives near me. im an old friend of his. we have the same teachers.

Most of my anger comes from other people’s shameless stupidity and I’m still struggling not to punch someone in the face. :)))))))))))))))))))) It’s natural. I try to write problems on pieces of paper or express it through music. To let it all out. Let everything out, figure everything out, and leave no room for misunderstandings. Acknowledging my mistakes helps. And of course… rock n roll. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ls7ov-iPsUw

I find deranged lunatics entertaining.

Just ask them why they are angry.

you realise..
every time we get angry..
wot really happens iz.. we “dnt like it” wen things dont go the way we want em to..
like ppl react to things the way “u” dnt want em to r “didn’t expect”
or the situations aren’t the way “u” want em to..

bt den u’d say, obviously!! its natural to get angry if xyz did this to me..!
well its not..
cuzz.. if anger was suppose to be “natural”.. everythin associated to it wud be natural..
lyk hypertension, high blood pressure, obesity and diabetes etc etc..
but dey are’nt..

the point is..
we jus want to “control” situations n ppl..
wich for sure iz not in our control..
cuz most definitely we cant control ppl i mean cumon.. how wud u like it if sum1 wz tryin to control u..?

so wot v r suppose to do iz..
control the only thing dats “in our control”
our thoughts…
keep a check on em..

its works..
jus the need to overcome the deep rooted believe systems dat we’ve created.. =]