I’ve just found this and I felt like sharing with you all:
“I was recently told of an African tribe that does the most beautiful thing.
When someone does something hurtful and wrong, they take the person to the center of town, and the entire tribe comes and surrounds him. For two days they’ll tell the man every good thing he has ever done.
The tribe believes that every human being comes into the world as GOOD, each of us desiring safety, love, peace, happiness. But sometimes in the pursuit of those things people make mistakes. The community sees misdeeds as a cry for help.
They band together for the sake of their fellow man to hold him up, to reconnect him with his true Nature, to remind him who he really is, until he fully remembers the truth from which he’d temporarily been disconnected: “I AM GOOD”.”
I have a similar philosophy, people do the wrong thing because they don’t trust their own judgement, people start criticizing the hell out of them and this just causes them to lose more trust in their own judgement. It is not an absolute rule but it does make a lot of sense.
Another thing is that people do the wrong thing, something they selfishly gain from without consideration of others, because they do not see what they gain from being considerate. When you are considerate, others are usually considerate in return and you are much less likely to make enemies.
But also when you know you are doing the right thing you forge a stronger relationship with yourself, one that trusts your own judgement more and you become confident in questioning things, rather than deciding you are not qualified to question them, and this makes you less suceptable to manipulation.