I feel trapped.

2 years, 8 months ago

Hi HEthens!
I’ve been going through a serious rough patch for the past two years. I live in Staten Island, a sub-urban city just outside of Manhattan. I’ve been feeling trapped in some lifestyle that I don’t belong in, but I’ve no idea how to break free and live my own life. I’m a 22 year old college student studying accounting, but I absolutely do not want to be stuck in some office the rest of my life (I don’t care how well the job pays.) Basically I love the outdoors, and have always wanted to work in law enforcement. I apologize for the shoddy writing, but I need help. I really do not know what steps to take in order to move to someplace much more rural and find a job suited to my tastes and personality.

April 24, 2012 at 7:18 am

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Profile photo of Rehum P Rehum P (@wesker53r86) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

first you need confidence and courage to break out of your vicious cycle and do something about it. For me, I attend Krav Maga classes in hopes that one day I become an instructor myself. Although it’s hard, it’s sort of worth it. Be adventurous and explore new opportunities and you may one day discover a hidden talent that you specialize in. If you work a job that you enjoy, you never have to work for a single day.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

@Mike O., totally feel all of this except….
” and have always wanted to work in law enforcement”

Why? Really why do you want to do this. I’m gonna be harsh, don’t give me some bullshit answer, really why do you want to do this?

I’ll give some advice after this.

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Profile photo of Mike O. Mike O. (@otchrocket) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

Thanks for the help, guys. @IJesusChrist, My father was with the NYPD for 27 years, so I’ve always taken a great interest in the job. It’s funny – you ask me that question and I have no solid answer; no solid reason to pursue a career in law enforcement. I always wondered if it were just an illusion that i created in my mind (that I wanted to be a cop, that is) with no real attraction to the field. I don’t mind for that last part to sound confusing. It sounded better in my head.

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Profile photo of Mike O. Mike O. (@otchrocket) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

That’s the thing, though. I know what I enjoy (music, astronomy, nature), but how the hell do I go on from that?

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

@Mike O., my advice is don’t be a cop. You will learn little, you will do little, and you will really be a puppet for the largest boss in the world. Nothing against your father, but law enforcement is no more than capitalist enforcement in this country.

Pursue your REAL interests. Finish your degree, take some time off or work part time. In your spare time do some thinking. If you can afford it travel. Go to new places. Take a ticket to miami, LA, texas, minneapolis. Spend some money in places you’ve never been. Meet some new people. While at school (how much time do you have left) take some out-of-the-blue classes, like piano or music theory or color theory, or conservation, or organic farming.

Really – just PURSUE yourself, look for what you want.

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Profile photo of daveb daveb (@daveb) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

@Mike O., sounds like you should be a conservation officer . . . trees and animals need protection more than people do. Cops do a lot of paperwork. something like this: http://www.esf.edu/nfi/about.htm is out in nature!

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Profile photo of Em Em (@emily) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

IJesusChrist is right… I work in law enforcement, hopefully not for too much longer, and it’s a bunch of BS (IMO & from my experience). Daveb has some great advice though!

If I were you, and if you don’t have anything tying you to your current location (like a mortgage or a child), then get the fuck out of there! :) Take a chance, and go on a whim-and pick up and go someplace else, and DO something else. Steps to take? Set up an appointment with a career counselor at your school & have them try to point you in a new direction (I don’t really know, but I think all accountants work in offices for the rest of their lives). Look into traveling…research an area, go visit, find a place you like, and just move! It’s not forever, you can always move again. You’ll meet new people along the way! If you’re short of cash for traveling, visit couchsurfing.com. Find things that interests you (bc you think they’re fun, not bc you think you could make money doing them), and find ways to volunteer to get more experience in those fields, and just to meet people that share the same interests as you.

Opportunities pop up in the most unexpected places, but you have to be out there taking chances & following your heart, in order to have the chance to encounter these opportunities. In five years, you could write a book of all of your awesome experiences of the new life you started making for yourself, or you could be in the same predicament you’re in right now. The only thing holding you back is yourself <3

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Profile photo of Mike O. Mike O. (@otchrocket) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

Thank you so much, everyone. I love this community of people! I now have something to go on.

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Profile photo of Dick Dick (@dick) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

What they said^
I will add…don’t be afraid of change. Worst case scenarios rarely ever happen and are never as bad as you imagined.

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Change your major and get the fuck out of Staten Island.

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Profile photo of SumtinProphetic SumtinProphetic (@sumtinprophetic) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

@Mike O., leap and the net will appear.

Find a rural city that interests you, move there. You will find something that suits you. You already know what you’re looking for… so, just go to it!

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Profile photo of Mike O. Mike O. (@otchrocket) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

You guys are great. I already have more to go on less than a day after posting this than I’ve come up with in the past 3 years. Much love to you all!

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Profile photo of Llewdik Lirpa Llewdik Lirpa (@llewdiklirpa) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

Try reading the Celestine Prophecy… and do a little travel on your own. Branch out and see the world. Experience living and loving life for a bit. Let the lessons come.

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Profile photo of Ricardo Ricardo (@ricardomrodriguez) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

I can only speak from experience. When I feel trapped, I do the opposite of what got me to feeling that way. If I’m being too much of an introvert and start feeling lonely or isolated, I try to go and socialize, if I’m working too much, 60+ hrs a week between my full time job and part time business (which should take over my full time income soon, woohoo!) I try to work less, only 40-50 at my full time job and I take it easy on my business by not doing anything or delegating things to my partner lol

I don’t know if you smoke weed but that usually helps me see things differently

I don’t do it regularly, only when I need to see things from a different perspective

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