involuntary sexual nightmares/dreams – females
I’m disturbed by frightening and demoralizing nightmares that involve sexual desires of the opposite sex, not hating men in general, but in my dreams I’m just scared and feel engrossed I don’t understand why or where these dreams come from, because nothing weird happened during my childhood, and i got those dreams suddenly since a few years they return when i wanted to get rid of desires of my own and others all together by becoming more conscious about desires and being free from desires. The thing i talk about is rape, murder, prostitution, imprisonement, sexual demoralizing behavior in general, why does this happen and how to get rid of them? Is it something inside me or something bothering me outside myself, like some influence or something? Or is it my involuntary scary imagination? how to control it to happy thoughts and happy dreams? I question myself this as a female, because i dont know if men experience sexual dreams as involuntary or scary at all. I could think it is because i’m scared of it that i dream about it, but it doesn’t make any sense because i was always scared of it but now even more because of those nightmares, and also more people are scared of it and they dont dream about it, and I’m not consciously traumatized only those nightmares traumatize me, and i had some weird friend in a bad circuit a long time ago, does that make a link to my unconscious?
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@blankey Yea i thought of something like that too, but then i thought what if it means something about me? What if those dreams or things tell me something about my world, my believes. Yet i could try to understand how lucid dreaming is working, but i dont know yet.
@manimal, They dominated females. They are still covered for the same reason by the way. You’re gonna need a band of another bunch of real sincere friends to dominate the whole world. They didn’t just took part in destroying previous pop cultures, they inspired the bands that are dominating the charts today. You just can’t destroy classics, you’re just going to use them to your advantage. Anyway, this is a topic about sexual nightmares, not about good dreams.
@beyond I mean when you feel love towards someone it is romantic, when you feel raw passion towards someone it feels animalistic..somehow i linked that to evil; but that is also because you can feel that towards someone you are not in a relationship with even if you already have another relationship you can feel it towards any other person. I don’t think it is a moral way to act on raw passion compared to love for someone:S…so i judged it as being evil and when raw passion go’s further people do horrible things, and that is not because they love the other person, it is really another way of feeling towards someone…
@generaltitsvonchodehoffen yes you would say it somewhere concerns me so that could be the reason it shows up in my dreams….i just dont know why now since a few years, actually when i decided i did not want to have to do anything with desires…problem in finding some guy that is not like that is that my brain somehow interprets his desires as harmful, evil and wrong……
@beyond meaning it is not my fantasy, so i don’t see the pervertion thing because it is not what i want, it is what i fear, like i fear insanity, those nightmares have a close feel of insanity to it, that doesn’t mean i choose to have those nightmares, or you mean i somewhere on some level in my unconscious existence influence these dreams, but that is just the thing i dont know if i do that and i dont understand how:S
@manimal I so much do understand what you are saying, part of me agree’s with it, but part of me believes i need to restrain and train and evolve myself into a better human being by behaving morally acceptable, while in fact my core emotions perhaps are just not that in tune with moral behavior. I have two different sides, the animalistic and moral side, but maybe i should have good and bad or maybe i should have no judgment about it at all..
For example if someone does something that is unjust you can either make a fuzz of it, scream, react on it, find someone else to do that for you or run away< OR you could just suffer in silence……..well that is the thing that bothers me constantly, my evolving behavior tells me to suffer in silence while my animalistic behavior wants to protest against it..i would even come to think that my repressed me is a protection mechanism, while my moral me is the one suffering in silence………exactly what you say when you describe the feeling of fear, just feeling the fear not acting at all just stay frozen and feel the fear burning along it is just insane………….WHY have i told myself to feel the burn and keep on burning it is strange………i dont think it is healthy..it is some form of learned helplessness, because when you act upon it, it becomes animalistic, but maybe that is a good thing..
well the root of it all does come from culture, civilizations, religion, dogma's, we learned to act a certain way because some form of behavior is seen as good and the other is seen as bad. And the good behavior is rewarded while the bad behavior is punished. Now when you repress feelings, that clearly is not the way to go, because it turns out to attract exactly what you don't want in life. But being moral, you can not just act upon your first instincts, or can you?? Is there a life to live when people act on their first impulses, without making life a chaos. For example, discipline, intelligence and control are things learned in civilization, not really something animalistic. To teach oneself discipline is some form of cruelty against ones nature. Yet the lack of discipline results into laziness, is that a judgment of a bad thing because it is something we as a society dont see as a positive characteristic of human kind. Yet perhaps animals do have discipline and some form of intuition but it comes natural to them, but i come to feel that discipline is something you do without wanting to do it at the core of your being. It is a form of molding yourself into something else, something more refined.
I don't understand it, animals do have a clear structure of how their life is, and it works in tune with nature without needless harm right?, yet people have this learned civilization that go's against the core of nature to prevent chaos, a clash between cultural values and natural instincts..to find ourselves in our true nature should we evolve ourselves by being more culturally distinct and moral (feelings of love, compassion, altruism, conscious, intelligence) or should we evolve ourselves by going to our roots in nature (feelings of passion, anger, fear, intuition/instinct)? OR is going back to our roots in nature the same as going back to inner peace (feelings of love, intuition)..with other words, do animals have inner peace and do they evolve spiritually or is it merely something humans strive for?
@heartbeat, I’ve had dreams of being raped for the last couple years. Yeah, they’re terrifying. It affects you when you’re awake too, sometimes I’m jumpy and uncomfortable the next day or two. I don’t know why they started, I think it’s more that as I’ve gotten older and moved to the city and heard more stories it’s become a bigger fear for me, and my dreams are always terrifying anyways so i guess my imagination feels it’s a good thing to add to scare the shit out of me. Sometimes if I play really relaxing music while I sleep I don’t have such bad dreams. That’s the only solution I’ve found. I’ve wanted to see a therapist about it, but my mother says since they’re just dreams they can’t affect me enough to be worth seeing a doctor.
@heartbeat, Freaking out because you had a nightmare is something you can actually deal with easily. It’s a dream, look at it as something that tries to protect you. Because dreams do protect you. Rational fear protects you from getting hurt. You are not hurt.