I can’t really tell. It was a simple question where almost no one replied that lies hurt. I’ll try to rephrase if I’m doing a research like that again but the point was to see how people react to this question. Some of them answered from a personal point of view while others were more philosophical.
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I am an honest person, but I think sometimes we have to lie. I am going to be honest 90% of the time, unless it will fuck up my life. What I mean by fuck up my life if I am honest, lets say you have weed on you, I am going to lie about having it on me if I get pulled over. I don’t think that is the same as lying to someone about there partner cheating on them, or lying so you can have personal gain.
@daveb I hear ya about learning things, I just went on a huge neuroplasticity tangent yesterday reading a bunch of articles that say learning new things either increases the amount of neurons you have, or connects them better, or something along those lines. I agree that it is good for your brain to learn things, but in college nowadays (I just finished last year) students are required to take an increasing number of courses that are simply requirements, and don’t necessarily pertain to what you’re there for at all. As I said, no one should take offense to cheating though, since it is only yourself that you are cheating in the end.
As far as workers, I think we’re all undervalued, to the tune that our wages are stuck in 1960 while the cost of living, as well as boss’ wages, are in 2012. I simply can’t stand getting screwed over and I can’t stand bullies. Of course there are things I can do to escape them, but I haven’t figured out just how yet.
I believe in honesty for the most part but I also believe in doing whatever is necessary for self-preservation and resisting domination by powerful people.
Well, I have troubles with a lot of people for telling them the truth. I just can’t stand ass-kissers. And I had a tiny trouble with the law for telling the truth in someone’s face in front of an audience. It’s always fun to see how other people lie and then it comes back to them. I don’t know why they do it. It never ends well. I’m talking about big lies. Small lies are for everyone. Silence is dishonesty. Two months ago I made an experiment. I wanted to know the opinions of at least 50(they might have been 200. I stopped counting when I saw the major result) people that I chose randomly. My question was: “Which hurts more – The truth or that someone lied to you?” The majority answered the truth. I’d like to do the experiment again but on a bigger scale. I’m not sure if they answered adequately but I was amazed… Most of the people want to hide from themselves.
Sucks that your major had worthless classes in it, but I’m sure you’re not alone in that experience. I studied something I really enjoyed – something like 90% of my credit hours were in music. Since I only got 1-2 electives each year those were also classes I found really interesting. So we’ve got different perspectives based on our experiences.
I agree that many workers are undervalued, but I disagree that everybody stealing from their employer is any way to resolve that problem. I think that makes the problem worse.
as someone who used to lie and misrepresent myself a lot and has totally turned that around, honesty allows me to live a very simple life, without any pretense. everybody in my life knows where I stand and accepts me for who I am today. I never have to “fake” anything. in fact, when I started being honest it really helped me grow, because I was setting much higher standards for myself, raising my expectations for my own behavior.
as skafish illustrates above, lying and cheating are actions people use to cover weaknesses, compensate for making bad choices, and avoid changing.
Sasho, very interesting findings. I think that may be a big problem with many, many people today. They are scared of the truth and don’t have the ‘balls’ (excuse my french) to face it, like they know they should. They keep running from it until it becomes a habit of their ego. Then it just becomes the norm.
Running from the truth may make you feel safe for the time being, but in the end you’re always running. If you just face it in the first place you can nip it in the bud and deal with it from the get go. Then it’s out of the picture after that. Once this becomes a habit, you learn to deal with your problems instead of constantly trying to escape from them. Every problem has a solution.