Is it always easy to make yourself do the things you absolutely love?

2 years, 2 months ago

How come its so hard to get us to do something on a daily basis that we know for sure will give us immense joy?Its really an awesome feeling to visualize…to see the Life as I want it to be…but its a task to bring me to do it everyday even when i know it surely feels good….same thing with exercising or meditating….anyone feeling the same?How do you feel when it comes to starting something you like?

November 4, 2012 at 2:42 pm

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Profile photo of lalamiel lalamiel (@lalamiel) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

Uh I am the same and then I feel bad because I do not have the motivation, or something…it’s a bad cycle. We gotta get out of it…

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Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

It’s the same for everyone.

It’s called ego homeostasis, a survival instinct meant to keep us from taking unnecessary risks, but it mostly gets in the way. Simply put, it’s fear of the unknown.

The only way to change it is to push through. If you give up, you let the resistance win, and you make a habit out of giving up.

Motivation is like a muscle, it gets stronger the more you USE it.

And the more you face resistance, the more you get used to it, and get used to dealing with it.
And the funny thing is, when you really establish the habit of going for it… the ego homeostasis adapts and tries to keep you from NOT taking action.
That’s why you see some people just cruising along like it’s no challenge, because to us it no longer is, we only get that resistance when they stop doing awesome stuff.

The only way out is through. You just gotta hang in there, keep pushing till the rubber band breaks. Make a habit of persisting and doing what you love.

I think it’s pretty damn silly to not do what you love in every moment.

This reminds me, I promised Martijn to make a guest post about motivation and I totally forgot it. Thanks for the reminder.

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Profile photo of Almeida Almeida (@xetado) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

There’s a saying that it takes 21 days to construct a habit. Maybe motivation can turn into a habit if you practice it.

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Profile photo of Dan Dan (@danfontaine) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@xetado, Exactly 21 days? I think it’s better to not think of things in terms of the future.

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Profile photo of Almeida Almeida (@xetado) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@danfontaine, I personally see it as “you should practice regularly something to turn it into a habit”, not just practice it in a specific time.

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Profile photo of Po Po (@berryblues) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@manimal, Thankyou:) That helps:)

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Profile photo of Ellie Ellie M (@tangledupinplaid21) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@berryblues, I have a lot of trouble with this. The most recent example is a friend of mine giving me a few pictures to paint for his friends for Christmas, that he is going to pay me for, that I haven’t started yet. I know once I do, I will enjoy it a lot. I just haven’t done it. I love art, reading, and playing music, and I slack on all 3. Any time I do one of these activities I ask myself why I don’t do them constantly.

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Profile photo of ELI var namnet ELI var namnet (@manimal) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@berryblues, De nada, it’s all up to you :)

@xetado, Exactly, habits are just habits, automatic repetition of what you frequently do. If you change your actions, you change your habits.

@tangledupinplaid21, JUST DO IT MORE!!!

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Profile photo of Aline Aline (@aleen) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

Maybe your inconscient are afraid of failing at something you love and are afraid of deception and sadness if you don’t succeed?

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Profile photo of Susyisthinking Susyisthinking (@susyisdead) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

@tangledupinplaid21, I have the same problem when it comes to my photography. People will ask me to post my photos on facebook and flickr or ask me to print them out for them and as much as I love sharing my photos I slack on it A LOT. When it comes to my violin though, I actually think i’m practicing a little too much, because sometimes I forget about my studies.

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