“It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it”

Trust is what builds a shared future and is at the heart of civilisation – the idea that we each ‘have each other’s back’ so that we can focus on doing something that we would not not do if we didn’t believe someone was looking out for us. ..providing us with the secure environment required to build that shared future.
Trust is that feeling that someone else cares about you so much that there is no need of fear …no need to guard your self or consider any risk. As such it is the source of ultimate relaxation and is a necessary pre-condition to love.
The danger is that we all to often, and all too easily, create a sub-conscious connection between ‘love’ and our idealised vision of the future – Trust provides the hook for this connection to occur. This future ideal becomes the source of our hope and strength.
When Trust is broken, or removed or evaporates, it hits us as s shaft of cold sharp pain dressed as betrayal. Our future is stolen away – we feel bereft of hope. We feel gutted and abandoned.
However the fact is we are probably set ourselves up for this ugly outcome as soon as we begin living in the future – anticipating and ‘banking’the future before it actually happens. If we live in the present, the ‘now’, rather than anticipating a romanticised future, we are far better equipped to deal with unplanned realities. We can adapt and accept far more easily, and beyond this, we can enjoy.

For example, a woman who finds that her boyfriend is seeing another woman is faced with a single choice – accept it and enjoy the fact that you have no responsibility to his happiness, or ditch him and enjoy the freedom to meet someone else who is more closely aligned to you. Reality and Truth is a gift if we treat it as such. Trust is a bond – it provides benefits but, like a drug, it is easily abused.

@citygirl9050, I don’t think it makes you crazy at all. I think it means you feel unconditional love towards him and aren’t letting your ego get in the way. As the saying goes, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

I’d say a person is crazy to be with someone who keeps betraying the trust.