I have had enough of all this pussy footing around, its BS and serves no purpose, the FACT, that you have found a connection with another human being who just happens to be of the same sex, SAYS everything, and it’s time someone just fucking spills it:
Who you allow yourself to connect with is a personal choice, based upon your life’s accumulation, and the only thing that makes a connection ‘bad’ is if the relationship is destructive in nature.
The ONLY THING that matters is that you connect with someone. This is it. This is the Reality of this world. Who cares who it is? If it is of the same sex?
And you’re right, me being straight makes it impossible for me to understand what it feels like to persecuted like you do, I agree 100%, BUT, I do know one thing, I understand how bullies, the ones who feel the need to persecute others out of ignorance, work.
They rely on you to FUEL their anger, so to control you they say something that makes you emotionally respond, this pours fuel onto the fire of their insecurity because they see that you have taken the hook. When you respond emotionally to a bully, they win.
If you do not respond emotionally to them, you win. You defuse them, instead of adding coals to their fire, you are pulling the embers out, taking away their vigor, one ‘lol’ at a time.
How do you do this? Recognize the TRUTH:
((( The ONLY THING that matters is that you connect with someone. This is it. This is the Reality of this world. Who cares who it is. )))
So if someone is mocking you for who you decided to connect with, fuck them, who the fuck are they to judge you so one dimensionally? They are actually the ones in the wrong, you have to know this
once you know it, you will find your anger and rage for someone being so cruel start to subside as you understand the dynamics of the situation more, and recognize that in reality, this individual’s limited world view and lack of understanding of connection forces them to respond to something different as a dog does to a stranger at the door.
((( “as a dog does to a stranger at the door.” )))
This is the truth. Do NOT give them POWER over you for something that, (1) Is a character flaw in them., (2) is an irrelevant point because relationship is about connection.
The negative connotation associated with the words ‘gay’, ‘fag’, etc. will remain a negative only as long you continue to allow yourself to be provoked by them so easily.
The bully wins when you do this, and perpetuates the cycle.
@tine, everyone is entitled to be happy in their own way. but by being gay you are not fulfilling life. there are 2 different sexes for a reason. the purpose of a relationship through marriage is to bring life into the world. 2 gay people can not bring life into the world. a gay person has to realize if their parents were gay they would not be alive.
so overall gay people are a waste of semen.
“The purpose of a relationship through marriage is to bring life into the world.”
wrong, the purpose of a relationship at all is connection and what you connect with is dependent on how the unique circumstances of your life dictate
you can only know what you know, therefore if your circumstances dictate reality one way, you only know it that one way, an example of which is your perspective on this Idea
you are too focused on the legalistic side of relationships.
you are not considering, at all, the human element.
the physiological point you made, makes sense, but represents only a very small part of an overall relationship
and if because your unique circumstances have dictated that you can only feel comfortable with a man, or a woman,
who are you to judge NOT GOING through their lives to understand the ‘why’
you are assuming the ‘why’, this demonstrates a lack of understanding and a closed mind
“who are you to judge NOT GOING through their lives to understand the ‘why’
you are assuming the ‘why’, this demonstrates a lack of understanding and a closed mind”
judge me NOT GOING through my life to understand the ‘why’.
i do not assume things because that makes an ass out of u and me.
a closed mind?
you posted this and you are not getting the response you want from me. you are not accepting my views.
“some people are born and raised on the the prejudiced ideas that homosexuals are lesser people, these people bully because they believe that what they preaching is genuinely right and they are in some cases “doing gods work.”
See, and for me, I don’t view blaming their reasoning on something imaginative ( in a contradictory way at that ) as any different than,
“Some of those people who used the words gay, fag, queer derogatorily are in fact just trying to strengthen their insecure selves.”
The only difference being what they are using to justify it with.
“I think what you are saying is somewhat insensitive.”
I apologize if I have come across this way. I only meant to point out that,
“But when you know that most of the time it’s a genuine belief that we are lesser people”
these people do not do what they do because their is anything fundamentally wrong with you, it is a reflection of themselves, therefore their words, in reality, are meaningless
“If your beliefs that a relationship is only to procreate are sincere then you would also have insulted all couples who don’t want babies, those husbands and wives that are sterile and those special needs men and women who are sterile. Are they a waste?”
if you dont want babies that is being selfish. if you are sterile that is not a choice but being gay has nothing to do with a sterile husband and wife that are straight.
there are people out there that are meaner than me. but do you notice that there is no world peace. the world is a mean place and quite honestly i do not expect a great life, but if my life turns out to be great… at least my expectations were not let down. being gay straight bi or single.. they are all choices.. but in the end… is being in that relationship for you, the care for your partner, your devotion in life, or to share how you came to exist with another person with whom you created?
actually, i honestly do not mind that you have a differing opinion, i was glad that someone who i was talking about decided to comment
your ‘response’ was so extreme and close minded that it was shocking to read…
the irony being, you are acting like i have some intent of not accepting your ideas, when your statement showed clear as day, without a doubt, no question, a complete disregard and lack of understanding or care for someone else’s.
don’t you see your comment as hypocritical considering all that you have said about gays?
and to be honest, the conversation between you and Wolverine demonstrates the point I was making in the post, for you to think that your words of reason will reach his ears is a misunderstanding of the circumstances,
his opinion is not a reflection of something grounded within reason, therefore to respond to the logic of his thinking is an exercise in futility as you will 1) not reach him while defending yourself and 2) you are giving him exactly what he wants
to recognize the truth here is to acknowledge the circumstances that create someone limited in ability to accept something different and what reasons motivate this person to present their idea the way they do
being gay straight bi or single.. they are all choices.. but in the end… is being in that relationship for you, the care for your partner, your devotion in life, or to share how you came to exist with another person with whom you created?
that statement. they it plays out in my mind says are you selfish, do you care to much about others before yourself, are you single due to complications, or will you bring life into the world passing on the great gift of life that generations had to struggle to do.
my bottom line of questioning gays is this:
you and your so called partners of the same sex were brought into the world by two straight human beings. is it not confusing to see this? i would probablly be more comfortable with a bi-sexual person than a straight up gay person because the bi person has the chance to be straight and make the decision his/her creators made to bring them into the world.
how can you be gay descending from a straight relationship?
“is being in that relationship for you, the care for your partner, your devotion in life, or to share how you came to exist with another person with whom you created?”
yes, this is the point of all relationships
“or will you bring life into the world passing on the great gift of life that generations had to struggle to do.”
Clearly, not everyone desires this or was meant to do so
“you and your so called partners of the same sex were brought into the world by two straight human beings. is it not confusing to see this?”
Look, I am telling you that you have not considered the reasons ‘why’ fully, you are only looking at the circumstances through a physiological perspective and not considering the human element, the ‘why’
“how can you be gay descending from a straight relationship?”
you say this like you have an answer, what is your answer? Because this is the question YOU should be asking yourself before you think you know and should be based on more than the very narrow, physiological window through which you are peering at the situation.
I’d like to offer a consideration, I can probably fuck off, I know, but consider it from the physiological plus circumstance, find the circumstance correlation, and if you can, consider the correlation from an empathy standpoint, given the correlation, is the outcome a surprise? Can someone truly judge?
Also, consider relationships from this angle, relationships are about connection to learn empathy, therefore institutions like marriage are socially encouraged, a woman being the natural choice considering the breeding involved.
but the main point is connection, connection is the foundation of society, therefore to judge connection when it is done in a positive way is to deny the reality of the situation.