Jealousy

3 years, 4 months ago

Do i just have to accept my boyfriend checking out other girls in front of me? Or is this uncalled for? I don’t feel like i should have to see that.

September 30, 2011 at 6:34 pm

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Profile photo of alive alive (@alive) 3 years, 4 months ago ago

Feel what you feel. My fuck buddy has decided to date someone else. And while we agreed beforehand that we were nothing serious, I’m still jealous. Why? No idea. It’s just how I feel. And in some cases you can’t help that.

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Profile photo of Matt P Matt P (@mkp843) 3 years, 4 months ago ago

sensitivity and honesty are some of the most important things in a relationship but seem to me to be some of the hardest to come by. You don’t have to accept anything for starters, but accepting a person for who they are is important.. ppl typically don’t just change at the snap of a finger. My best advice is never sacrafice your own wellbeing, stand up for yourself, take action, never settle, cause when you do your just gradually sinking.. Maybe he has a desire to be with those other women, he wouldn’t be checking them out for nothing.. talk to him about it, if you can’t get to an agreement, and tension stays, either let go or hold on cause it’ll be a bumpy ride.. I’ve been through a few bumpy rides, sometimes we still love each other, sometimes we don’t.. I’ve never been on a bumpy ride I didn’t stop riding tho.. if that makes sense.. sorry if that was an irrelvant rant.. lol..

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Profile photo of Jim Dean Jim Dean (@butch) 3 years, 3 months ago ago

Being a guy, and one who definitely checks out every girl I see (lol), when I fell for someone in the past I had no desire to check anyone else out.

Maybe that’s just me, but I always felt that was rude and honestly I was always so happy with my SO at the time that I had no reason to look around.

But, I don’t think that’s normal amongst ALL guys. I think it was just my personal thing. I felt it was kind of honoring the relationship.

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He probably should not be super blatant about it, but yes guys will always check other girls out.

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Profile photo of Bryan Hellard Bryan Hellard M (@xyver) 3 years, 3 months ago ago

What tits said. Guys check out girls, its a fact. If he is blatantly staring them down and saying “Whoa baby”, then you might have a problem. If he glances, or gives girls a once over, thats pretty average

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Profile photo of 1.61803399 1.61803399 (@drunkmonkmeth) 3 years, 3 months ago ago

Even when I’m with the love of my life I’m checking other girls out. No harm in looking

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Profile photo of Kirsten Kirsten (@kirsten) 3 years, 3 months ago ago

That’s not just a problem guys have, girls do it too. Everyone guy that I saw didn’t just become ugly when my guy and I first got together, I notice the cute ones. But I would never blatantly stare a guy up and down, whether or not he was with me, that’s being disrespectful in a relationship (in my opinion). So when your guy is with you and he’s being pretty obvious about checking other girls out, mention it to him. Maybe be lighthearted about, but also let him know you see what he’s doing. Smile and say something like, “She’s pretty cute, huh?” and don’t look away from him so he can figure out it bothers you. I mean, if he responds with something like “Oh yeah, definitely.”, you may have a problem because he’s obviously blind to your feelings. Cheer up! Do what’s good for you, that’s what matters. :)

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Profile photo of Stephen Stephen C (@stepvhen) 3 years, 3 months ago ago

I’m madly in love, I check out other girls, it’s natural. Doesn’t change the madly in love part. Let it go.

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Profile photo of Kevin Kevin (@benly150) 3 years, 3 months ago ago

Marley, your jealousy tells me that you have insecurities. maybe work on those, and the jealousy will go away. I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 years (known her for five), and she is my best friend. It’s funny, she actually see’s and points out beautiful women before I even notice. She has no problem with me looking at other women, because she knows that I am not a douche bag, that will cheat on her. Maybe, you just don’t trust your boyfriend, and it’s something you two will need to work on?

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Profile photo of Daniel Daniel (@meta) 3 years, 3 months ago ago

Just because you’re on a diet doesn’t mean you can’t look at the menu.

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