Leaving the comfort zone
I know there’s an article somewhere on here about this. And I’m just putting my word in to stress how much all of you should try it. (if you already haven’t) If you’re the shy keep to yourself type of person like me you need to go for it asap. I was at Warped Tour yesterday and I was standing next to a really attractive girl while watching Taking Back Sunday play. Normally I would have just gave quick glances at her beautiful sight while not saying a word, but I did it, I spoke to her. We talked a little bit with a connection then parted our ways with her still in my mind. 3 hours later I was at the stage where Yellow Card was playing at. I was close to the back of the crowd and there were people crowd surfing, something I had never done before. I just didn’t feel comfortable approaching people and asking them to lift me up and have people carry me. It doesn’t sound like a big thing to do but I’m just not that type of person. I stopped thinking about it and my body just moved, all my actions then followed without thought. No ‘what ifs?’ and all that. I got people to lift me up and the crowd began to carry me toward the front row, it was awesome. I got to a weaker or unexpecting part in the crowd and they started to let me drop. I almost fell on my head and was bracing for the impact. Then, all of the sudden I feel about 15 hands grab under me right before I was about to hit the ground and they lifted me back up. The feeling was amazing. It’s a feeling of unspoken words that somehow manage to say to you “People care, and they are there to help out”. I felt connected. I finally made it to the front row where they let me down. I looked to my right and there she was, the girl that I had spoken to earlier. It was like fate (whether you believe in it or not). We talked more after Yellow Card was done and I got her number. None of this would have happened if I hadn’t left my comfort zone and tried something new. I had the time of my life. So if you’re like me, I urge you to exit your comfort zone. You won’t regret it.
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@brandonphillips, You fucking rock man! Very refreshing read.
I can relate well to this conundrum (being too shy/fearful to go out-on-a-limb). A quote I came across not too long ago states: “do not be afraid to venture to the limbs, as that is where the fruit lays.” It’s so fucking true. The beautiful thing about it too is that we all have the potential within us to take such initiative. We’ll rarely find what we’re looking for unless we first engage ourselves and start taking ‘risks’ as you have. Thank you for documenting this success story with others.
P.S. My first experience crowd-surfing occurred some months ago while at a Circa Survive concert if you know who they are. At the time of the show, they were my favorite band, and so needless to say I was stoked to even be at this show. Throughout the course of their set, I had been thinking of a way to leave my mark, and crowd-surfing — although I had never done it before — instantly came to mind. So for the last song they play, their most recent single at the time, I demanded the people around me to lift me up (they obliged) and I made it all the fucking way to the stage where I locked arms with the vocalist (Anthony Green). It was unreal and I am SO proud of myself for mustering the audacity intrinsic to my ‘act’.