Little Help?

2 years, 10 months ago

I’m not one who usually asks for help with these kinds of matters, particularly on an online forum. I have a girl with whom I am very infatuated and who I thought liked me as well. We were going to go on a few casual dates and see where things went, but one day she stopped answering my texts and over the last few days I’ve been trying to contact her through all of the channels I can. I’m not asking for advice on some grand romantic gesture or anything like that, I just want some methods to relax until she finally responds to me. Some advice on how to handle receiving bad news would help as well,although that’s more preemptive than anything.

May 7, 2012 at 10:30 am

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Profile photo of Peter Peter (@searchingforthetruth) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

@vulpes,

” I just want some methods to relax until she finally responds to me. Some advice on how to handle receiving bad news would help as well,although that’s more preemptive than anything.”

She is not rejecting “You”…she is rejecting your approach. She might never respond…you can’t relax if you are waiting for her. Give it time, move on. Let it flow. If it doesn’t happen now, maybe it will happen in the future. Whatever, something better will come along. Believe that.

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Profile photo of Chris Chris (@vulpes) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

@searchingforthetruth

Thanks for the words, the only reason I’m really stressing about it is that it started out of nowhere. I really should just let come what may, it’s just not as easy as it should be.

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Shoot her a text saying “hit me up when you get a chance,” then forget she exists.

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Profile photo of Chris Chris (@vulpes) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

@generaltitsvonchodehoffen

Tried that, didn’t have the will to stop there.

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Profile photo of luigi luigi (@luigiblue) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

Paraphrasing the movie “Swingers” off the top of my head:

“The key to getting the girl is to pretend that you do not want her or care about her at all…at first she won’t give in, but after a while, a long while…she will. The only thing is, that after all this time of pretending you didn’t care, you realized you actually don’t care and you actually dont want her, you’ll move on and realize she wasn’t worth it”

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Profile photo of Aaron Aaron (@aaron) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

Try Deep Breathing exercises, they work well for me and keep me calm in stressful situations.

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Profile photo of Sasho Stoyanov Anonymous (@) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

Tell her that she’s the most foolish and futile person you’ve ever met, but there’s something sympathetic about it, and you’ll consider including her in your fantasies, dressed in a crocodile costume. If she slaps you, she likes you.

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Profile photo of Chris Chris (@vulpes) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

@Luigiblue
I don’t tend to base life decisions off of movie quotes, but ill think on that one
@Aaron
I’ve already upped my usual meditation time and it has been helping, thanks.
@beyond
That just might be crazy enough to work.

I’m actually already feeling alot better about it, I talked with a friend and read some “brotips” which were surprisingly effective in elevating my mood. So thanks guys, I think I may have this.

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Profile photo of luigi luigi (@luigiblue) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

@vulpes, I understand but the point of the quote is to show you that you WILL move on if she doesn’t message back. Wish you all the best man. I’ve been through similar situations.

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