Living in the wild, or living in my millionaire grandpa's house?
I want to live a life of transcendence and detachment, but my grandpa isn’t going to live forever, and he told me that when he dies, i’m going to inherit his fortune, and his beautiful house. I want no part of American society, but I want a family, and a wife… I experienced the wild and studied survival for around 4 years, so i’m capable of surviving on all 7 continent (excluding Antarctica). After my first taste of the wild, I can’t imagine NOT living there… I don’t want a career, or a predictable life… I want inner peace and understanding… I know my wishes contradict themselves, and i’m making no sense, so i’ll paraphrase:
Live nomadically in a beautiful foreign country? or live an unfulfilled life with a wife and family?
The only thing I would like to do is be a writer, and write a novel about my adventures, experiences with other cultures, and philosophical views.
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Your life is something you should be selfish about. I completely reject the idea that anyone should live the way another person wants them to. YOU are the one that has to live inside your head and carry out your life, not anyone else! Sometimes I am amazed at how nonchalantly people throw their lives away. I work with multiple people working themselves to exhaustion so they can study a subject they don’t like, simply because it’s what their mom wants them to have a career in. I say fuck that. Do what you want.
And I second manimal, why choose one or the other when you can have both? In fact if you are inheriting a fortune does that not give you even more freedom to do the wilderness thing?
@frustratedpanda, If you always in your life just do what makes you happy, you will be pretty unhappy in the end!
This is planet Earth… not wonderland!
Why does Beetroot taste so strong and not as pleasant as burgers, when actually beetroot is extremely healthy and burgers are not?
Why sitting and doing nothing feels better than exercising, but exercising is making you healthy and sitting and doing nothing is making you sick?
Because life is not about doing what the fuck we want! If you do that, you will end up really sad!
Accept the house, go on adventures in the wild every now and then, bring your future wife and kids, write about it. Get home to the house, publish your writings on your computer.
Why choose when you can have both?
And needless to say, if you go into the wild and omit the other things you want, you will get equally bored by that eventually. You won’t feel fulfilled if you don’t have the family you want as well as the adventures.
Why choose when you can have both?
If your parents look down on you, they brought you up wrong.
I don’t have a child
If you friends look down on you, they are not your friends.
If your partner looks down on you, you’re not meant for each other. (monogamy doesn’t exist anyway)
And not a single fuck was given about those that look down on me.
@prittii, Cool it with the criticism… He doesn’t have a responsibility to society, if he wants to go live in the wild that’s a completely fine way to go. He is fortunate that his grandfather has left something behind for him, but that doesn’t define what he’s supposed to do with his life. Who gives a fuck if you grew up poor or rich, if he was born homeless and decided to venture out into the jungle would that make him a better person than his current situation? No, he’s just following what makes him happy.
@prittii, i really have no clue what you are trying to accomplish by taking on every single person here. Yes. their views differ, yes, you dont like it, we get that. But please, oh please do try and understand that the way you see the world is the way YOU see the world. Why would the experience of work be more valuable than the experience of just laying in the forest? Who decides what is valuable?
@prittii, lol pritti, I completely understand your point of view. It may seem like I’m selfish, or affluent, but i’m not. I have lived in a trailer all of my life, and I experienced 2 weeks of my life homeless. I should have told you this beforehand, but I forgot to include that vital detail. Thank you for your criticism though, even if it was meant to harm me, because you taught me about how selfish people can be, and you told me alot about your life.
@manimal, thank you. it may seem like im selfish, but I really dislike what money does to people. The Buddha escaped wealth and prosperity for spiritual enlightenment, and I was going to do the same, until the helpful logic of assholes and kind-hearted people.
@professorx15, I don’t really see how you’re being selfish at all. Sometimes I think the want for a life partner and children can be selfish. People put so much pressure on themselves for those things, and so either settle for one of the first people that come along, resulting in a life of unhappiness for both involved, also bringing children into that situation. Or people live a life of unhappiness due to not being able to find the ‘perfect’ life partner, and having the ‘perfect’ family.
Do what you want to do dude, do not let the imaginary family in your head hold you back. Later in life you can always change your mind, or like others have suggested, you could try and find someone who would want to share that life with you. You shouldn’t have to mold your life for the sake of others.
@professorx15, Having the life with the wife and kids is not by necessity unfulfilling my friend, in fact it seems that most human beings in recorded history have found this way of life fulfilling enough to perpetuate it!
Do not limit yourself to a false dichotomy, this is not a binary decision – perhaps you could find a girl willing and able to accompany you in your wilderness adventures and after a few years of that might want to have kids with you and bring them on your adventures as well! You could sell your grandfather’s house if it doesn’t hold too much sentimental value for you-freeing up plenty of money to be geared out for the wild and for flights/buses and other travel expenses, and use the leftover money at the end to purchase a more modest house once you finish your nomadic phase.
This is only one example framework of how your life can go, focus on what’s MOST important to you out of all the possibilities and then build your framework based on that priority-don’t limit yourself!
Although the response is coming across harsh, I think that Prittii is making valid points; that if we are all interconnected and part of this evolutionary energy, then aren’t we duty-bound to make some sort of contribution..for this point, I definitely agree.
Whether LOU (as Prittii mentioned) learns the sciences of the wild, lives a sustainable living, or raises amazing human beings, the key thing is, is that he gives back to the universe. From the sounds of his post, I think he has every intention of doing that. The fact that he is planning on writing a book shows his intent; that he wants to move people with his words. If he is a wordsmith with a message, he might help millions of people around the world; an effect which is much more profound then working for a big corporation.
I hear where you’re coming from Prittii, as I come from a working class background where my parents struggled also..and my ancestry is from a land full of people who live the “yogi” lifestyle which basically is an excuse for a lot of them to to be lazy, irresponsible and use their “sacrifices” to justify begging people for money. But I think the intention to write a book, live a sustainable lifestyle, and break free from the social conforms of living somewhere “nice”, is refreshing and something we should celebrate.
If everyone lived the same, there would be chaos. India, China, Japan and mega metropolis’s are testament to this. Balance is what the universe needs. For every 100 people that want to live in the corporate world and contribute to the economy, there are 100 people who want to live with the bare minimum and make use of every single resource they have. That is the balance of nature.
Good luck mate, and make sure if you do decide to live in the wild; you give some of what your grandparents worked for, to someone/something who needs it. As I’m sure you would only need a small portion of what that mansion is worth to build a palace in the wild :)
@professorx15, why not do both?
go out and live how you want to live, and when you come back you’ll have that inheritance to basically settle anywhere you’d like. this will give you a chance to experience what you would like to, then settle down and share your experiences with others.
@professorx15, Damn you are in a lucky situation my friend. I want to do the same as you but I have to save up on a minimum wage job first while paying rent and then pay for my travels into other countries. I would sell your Grandpa’s place, buy a place in the woods, live there, use the money you got to travel to other places and yeah..
The first thing you need to ask yourself is, Is there a way in which you can have both co-exist. In your particular case finding a wife with the same views as you willing to take on the same lifestyle. That may lead to you staying in your grandpas house for the time being, working on your writing skills, planning where you would like to travel specifically, then wait for the right opportunities to expand themselves in front of you. The key is to not get so caught up on the minute details of it, but rather set the frameworks for what you want and let the rest flow. I hope this helps your decision, I can partially relate to you because I am at a similar crossroads in my life.
I’m sorry if you think my reply is harsh and I’m bumming people with aggression. Actually I’m just giving a reply to the same level people give to me.
I complimented Seti for trying to do a more unique and interesting job, and instead of being happy, he says I’m judgmental. The meaning of unique according to the dictionary:
“Being the only one of its kind; unlike anything else: “the situation was unique in modern politics”; “original and unique designs”.”
So what is unique here? Investment banks or studying shamans?
And interesting is surely subjective… so sorry if I’m the only one that thinks investment banks are not interesting.
Anyway, my point is what @godslight, wrote… he seems to be one mature person here. Unless what you do affects society positively, you won’t get any good from it.
I wonder if all these people here saying to this guy: “yea, go live in the wild, do what you want”, would say that to their parents, to their children, to their best friend. I’m sure they wouldn’t! Nobody wants to have a close friend living in the wild, between wild animals, with the risk to get a sickness, without growing any forward in life…
@prittii, I’ve read a good bit of this feed and it seems like a good amount of what you value, despite living in poverty, is materialistic. Why is learning about the self and the spirituality that follows a bad thing. You talk about the beauty of restaurants and built-up parks or whatever like without these things humans couldn’t be happy. Working as a part of society can be fulfilling, but we as humans are a part of and are meant to interact closely with nature. So if this guy decides that he’d rather leave a consumption and production based society that is materialistically selfish to go and be a part of that beautiful balance between man nature and other living things, who are you to judge him for it?
@professorx15, what @manweiser13 said is what I was going to say. If you want to write about your adventures go have ‘em, and write the whole time on them, keep a journal, write about the characters you meet when you meet them. Then when you come back you’ll have a wealth of experience and honed writing skills. Believe it or not my own ambitions are more or less the same, next year I’m going what I call tramping ( just travelling about with no particular destination in mind and sleeping out in the wild). I’m just going to take off in definitely. I’m also a writer. But I don’t have a mansion to come back to ( you lucky bastard :P) so you my friend have no excuse, make it happen.
p.s. If you want to be a writer you already are, all you have to do is write.
And so, you conclude that you are right, while really, you haven’t got the slightest idea of what goes on in me.
Would you believe me (the best source for knowing what goes on in me) if your interpretation is wrong and that I wasn’t ironic?
You assume and assume and assume, doesn’t it tire you?
“You are insulting by telling the author is lazy and selfish, which is also judgmental.”
No… My approach is realistic and direct.
He is someone that doesn’t want to think about any other person in the world. Wants to live alone, by himself in the wild… and maybe take advantage of his grandpa’s house in the future. Meaning of the word selfish by dictionary:
(of a person, action, or motive) Lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.
So you are asking me to be a hypocrite and write everything I think in a “nicer” way… to not sound so harsh, because the word “selfish” sound so negative and offensive?
I think if a person wants to get beautiful words, you have to do beautiful acts.