I want to live a life of transcendence and detachment, but my grandpa isn’t going to live forever, and he told me that when he dies, i’m going to inherit his fortune, and his beautiful house. I want no part of American society, but I want a family, and a wife… I experienced the wild and studied survival for around 4 years, so i’m capable of surviving on all 7 continent (excluding Antarctica). After my first taste of the wild, I can’t imagine NOT living there… I don’t want a career, or a predictable life… I want inner peace and understanding… I know my wishes contradict themselves, and i’m making no sense, so i’ll paraphrase:
Live nomadically in a beautiful foreign country? or live an unfulfilled life with a wife and family?
The only thing I would like to do is be a writer, and write a novel about my adventures, experiences with other cultures, and philosophical views.
@professorx15, Having the life with the wife and kids is not by necessity unfulfilling my friend, in fact it seems that most human beings in recorded history have found this way of life fulfilling enough to perpetuate it!
Do not limit yourself to a false dichotomy, this is not a binary decision – perhaps you could find a girl willing and able to accompany you in your wilderness adventures and after a few years of that might want to have kids with you and bring them on your adventures as well! You could sell your grandfather’s house if it doesn’t hold too much sentimental value for you-freeing up plenty of money to be geared out for the wild and for flights/buses and other travel expenses, and use the leftover money at the end to purchase a more modest house once you finish your nomadic phase.
This is only one example framework of how your life can go, focus on what’s MOST important to you out of all the possibilities and then build your framework based on that priority-don’t limit yourself!
@prittii, no approach is direct, no approach is realistic. Reality is relative to the observer. The only truth is no truth. Ideological concepts are made ‘real’ by the physical present, and the past and future are simply dynamic concepts, that are ever-changing hence chaos. But I already hit realization when I was meditating a few days ago, so I learned how to embrace the present, rather than an ideological concept, not for a better future, but for a better present. I’m stupid, i’m unrealistic, i’m not smart, OH NO MY EGO HURTS SO BADLY! see! now you feel better don’t you? because your ego is satisfied; my ego is non-existent. but to anybody reading this, thanks for the help regardless of whether or not you were sarcastic!
@professorx15, Damn you are in a lucky situation my friend. I want to do the same as you but I have to save up on a minimum wage job first while paying rent and then pay for my travels into other countries. I would sell your Grandpa’s place, buy a place in the woods, live there, use the money you got to travel to other places and yeah..
@prittii, I’ve read a good bit of this feed and it seems like a good amount of what you value, despite living in poverty, is materialistic. Why is learning about the self and the spirituality that follows a bad thing. You talk about the beauty of restaurants and built-up parks or whatever like without these things humans couldn’t be happy. Working as a part of society can be fulfilling, but we as humans are a part of and are meant to interact closely with nature. So if this guy decides that he’d rather leave a consumption and production based society that is materialistically selfish to go and be a part of that beautiful balance between man nature and other living things, who are you to judge him for it?
@seti, Ok. I’ve got your point. I just had enough of this argument. I think I already made clear the way I think… Everybody else can think different.
My opinion doesn’t change, yours also… So why keep arguing?
@professorx15, I see that I cannot argue with you. We have very different views to life… at the same time we have the same. Our ways approach is different.
You are a dreamer. I am also a dreamer.
Then the difference comes: I believe in sacrifices, because I’m Christian and in my religion we do not believe in self-existence, like in Buddhism, Taoism, Hinduism, etc: We believe material is necessary, giving our blood and sweat for it is sacred and sharing is divine.
Once you add to the conversations these stuff about ego, meditation, I notice its not worth of my time. I don’t believe in stuff create by societies that are far more backwards than the society where I live…
I do not think I have to meditate to empty my mind, instead I think I have to fulfill my mind with beautiful thoughts.
I do not think I have to get rid of my “ego” to be happy… Ego is part of a human mind… actually the reason why we are alive. Search: Id, Ego and Superego in google.
Anyway, I’m tired of this argument… it goes in circles. I wish you happiness in your decisions. Just remember: what we plant today, grows tomorrow: it’s no personal view, just nature!
@professorx15, It seems like you’ve been given the perfect opportunity to completely chase your dreams, without the fear of failure. Put all that money in a bank, and do whatever you want to, knowing that if things don’t work out you always have that money to fall back on.
I was lying on the diving board of a swimming pool belonging to some ridiculously rich chick this weekend (I was paid to take pictures of her party but was invited to stay and party with them in this ridiculous mansion) and at about 2am they cranked the song below (Frank Ocean – Super Rich Kids) and I laughed to myself as I was lying there because I realised how much fun I was having but that living in that environment would absolutely sabotage me and cause me to become stagnant. It’s fun to drop in on that life but I would never want to become it. I hope that provides a little insight.