Love at First Sight

3 years, 5 months ago

Does it exist?
Why you think that?

I for one believe it does exist.
I believe this because I believe to have experienced it.

06.24.2011 at 6:54 am

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Profile photo of Adam Mac Adam Mac (@emceedan) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I don’t think it exists. Love is much more meaningful than anything sight alone can deliver to our minds. And if anyone is going to argue that it’s not just sight that was involved – it was some action combined with appearance, voice, feeling etc, then the whole expression of love at first sight is moot.

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Profile photo of Adam Mac Adam Mac (@emceedan) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

Lust at first sight, however? I believe in it. I’ve seen me do it.

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Profile photo of Troll Troll (@alien51) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

“Love at First Sight” is an expression obviously. I did not mean to imply that the “first sight” or visual caused one to realize they truly loved someone more than anyone else. Rather the first ‘encounter’.
An ‘encounter’ is the acknowledgment of both individuals of the other individual’s existence.

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Profile photo of Adam Mac Adam Mac (@emceedan) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

Hehe I gotcha. I don’t believe in “love at first encounter” for the same base reason that I don’t believe in love at first sight. I think love is too meaningful to be established so wistfully. Infatuation seems more appropriate.
After two people bond and develop a deeper and more intimate relationship (ie love) I can see how that initial intense infatuation could be perceived as love at first sight. I think it’s beautiful no matter how you look at it though.

Care to share your story? Was it recent?

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Profile photo of Troll Troll (@alien51) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

No wasn’t recent. Probably bout 4 or 3 years ago.

Recently moved to Florida from Missouri and had been living there for a year. Before a band practice I jumped off stage to go get the sheet music and stuff; I stood up to go through a doorway and there she was. I moved so fast the first thing I saw was her face. We stood there face to face about 2 foot apart for a good 4 to 3 seconds just staring at each others’ eyes. She had a face of bewilderment, I imagine I did as well. Then we brushed by each other and continued the practice. During that moment I felt a sensation of joy and satisfaction which persisted. And always did during further encounters as long as she was concentrating on me.

Sounds like standard infatuation but there are a few facts which counter that possibility. I’ve been in a few previous relationships and felt infatuated and excited while being close to them or thinking about being with them, but this doesn’t compare. Also after those previous relationships I realized that pretty much all dating is just a big game and decided to give it up. And only pursue those I had real intent to have a long term relationship with. This developed into a ‘neutral’ sexual state. If I saw a sexy woman I wouldn’t stare and drool or even glance. They were just another person, not a possibility of sex. I thought this would continue until after High School; even after moving to Florida where the ratio of beautiful women to “OK” women went from 1:3 to 2:3 I still had this attitude. But one meeting with this particular one and… I wanted to know everything about her. I wanted to meet her family. I wasn’t even thinking about how sexy she was. I was thinking, “WTF?!? How come I feel this way?” Most of all I wanted to find that out.

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Profile photo of Em Em (@emily) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

@Alien—so what happened? Did you think of her suddenly for some reason when you posted this? Did you two ever “date” by an degree of the word?
I’m gonna second Adam’s notion.. lust at first sight for sure happens.. it happened to me 2 days ago. I was introduced to someone for work purposes, in close quarters in an office, & *oh shit, well hey there:)* kind of came over me. Different circumstances, & having been single… that woulda been “on” in no time! :) That definitely happens..
Then stepping up to our definition of ‘love’—I don’t believe in soulmates, etc, but…I don’t think that ‘relationship love’ can be found through only sight.. I think like Adam said, a combination of all the senses could heighten the experience though. I do think 2 people could make a serious connection in their first encounter…kind of on a 6th sense level…like they are on the same “wavelength” so to speak. Then… if they both find each other attractive on top of that….”love” “infatuation” whatever you wanna call it is bound to occur.

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Profile photo of Troll Troll (@alien51) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

When you lust at first sight you are filled with anticipation, not satisfaction. Filled with curiosity, not joy.

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Profile photo of Hadley Hadley (@eehyo) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I can love someones eyes at first glance… their smile, disposition, the way they carry themselves, their voice and use of inflections… but can I love them in their entirety? Of course not! First impressions can be inaccurate, misleading, and blind or quite the opposite (but either way… it isn’t love).

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Profile photo of Troll Troll (@alien51) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

Love is not liking. Love doesn’t require that you know a person.

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Profile photo of Em Em (@emily) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

Love has endless definitions & interpretations.

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Profile photo of Troll Troll (@alien51) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

Each person has to personally decided what they think Love is. Since our current society has confused its meaning. But of course there are older definitions.

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Profile photo of Adam Mac Adam Mac (@emceedan) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I totally disagree with that last statement Alien (about not needing to like). My personal interpretation of love requires that I know and like the person. But everyone is different and that’s where Em’s statement comes into play.

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Profile photo of Troll Troll (@alien51) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I find that since Love is such a convoluted word it helps to answer a few questions.

What do you love? [Object]
How much do you love it? [Magnitude]
Why do you love it? [Reason]

In this case I have an old text file from 2009 which answers these questions.

“I love her soul.
I love her more than anything except God.
I love her because it is my purpose.”

Boy that opens a can of worms…

What is a soul? What did I mean when I said it?
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I think I meant her existence. Which would mean I simply meant, “I love her.” but was trying to find a greater meaning. As saying “I love her.” could simply mean her body, or her voice; or any singular aspect of a person. Which would mean that I wanted to say I loved her regardless of what or who she was. But what is that? That is nearly akin to saying I love nothing. I’m thinking what I loved was the role which I thought she fulfilled in my life. What role was that?
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I can’t find an answer. Any ideas? (What role did she play?)
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Why would I believe my love for another to be a God given purpose?
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At the time I was so confounded by what I was feeling that that was the only reason I could find. Still is. The thought of love at first sight was as alien to me as to you. We all have heard the phrase but have rarely thought about it much. How could someone want to marry someone after only seeing them one time? The idea is silly. Without any apparent reason for my love I started looking for inapparent reasons. That fit.

EDIT: MY REPLIES KEEP DOUBLE SPACING. Why is that?

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Profile photo of Hadley Hadley (@eehyo) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

Alexa –
Amazing link! Thanks for sharing.

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Profile photo of Hadley Hadley (@eehyo) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

Alexa –
Amazing link! Thanks for sharing.

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Profile photo of Troll Troll (@alien51) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I didn’t like link.

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Profile photo of Troll Troll (@alien51) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I didn’t like link.

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Profile photo of Hadley Hadley (@eehyo) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

Why not?
I think understanding how the brain functions is essential to understanding human nature. I also work with post-brain surgery patients so I may be biased to anything brain related haha…..

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Profile photo of Hadley Hadley (@eehyo) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

Why not?
I think understanding how the brain functions is essential to understanding human nature. I also work with post-brain surgery patients so I may be biased to anything brain related haha…..

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Profile photo of Joe Joe (@joecorso37) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I believe it in the sense that two people can have a great connection from the start. Personally, I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year and a half and we hit it off right when we met, we were good friends for a year, and now we’ve been dating for a year and a half. Maybe not love at first sight, but the deep connection and rapport initially established upon first meeting definitely set a good relationship into motion.

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Profile photo of Joe Joe (@joecorso37) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I believe it in the sense that two people can have a great connection from the start. Personally, I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year and a half and we hit it off right when we met, we were good friends for a year, and now we’ve been dating for a year and a half. Maybe not love at first sight, but the deep connection and rapport initially established upon first meeting definitely set a good relationship into motion.

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Perhaps lust at first sight.

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Perhaps lust at first sight.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I believe that “love at first sight” is an expression for relationship in which there are no ups and downs before two people actually start to love each other.
It’s hard to love some one who you just meet. Love is much deeper connection between people.

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Profile photo of  Anonymous (@) 3 years, 5 months ago ago

I believe that “love at first sight” is an expression for relationship in which there are no ups and downs before two people actually start to love each other.
It’s hard to love some one who you just meet. Love is much deeper connection between people.

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