Hethans, do you wear makeup? If yes, why? How much? If no, why not?
This is probably a more shallow and simple post than what we’re all used to, but I’m curious.
If you’re unhappy with the way you look, should you get used to it and learn to live with it? Should you do something about it? What ideas come with wearing makeup (or not wearing makeup)–socially and personally? What do you think about a person who does or doesn’t wear make up? What’s the purpose of makeup?
Personally, I wear eyeliner and mascara at most, but I really dislike the feel of cover up on my face. I wear it because over the years I’ve come to like it. I don’t think it makes me shallow or insecure, I just like the attention that the eyeliner brings to, well, my eyes.
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Huh, I love seeing this post here. Well, I don’t think being a HEthen means you shouldn’t be interested in anything related to what the rest of the world finds normal (a very bad way to put this but you get the idea hopefully). We are still human and enjoy materialistic benefits and some of the things the ”blind” people would consider a standard.
Ok, so yes, I wear make up. I can also show up to places without it, It’s no problem, as I am satisfied with how I look naturally, but I do know that I can look better so many of the times when going out in social situations I use make-up. And there are many reasons:
1. As I mentioned – it can make me look better and I don’t see anything bad in trying to be the best you that you possibly can. Now you can discuss weather wearing make-up is a part of being ”you” knowing that it is an external element, but I think the choices you make when applying it and of how to apply it, how much and so, those come from you, so partly it is being the best ”you”. The same goes for working out. Now I’m not sporty person and basically don’t work out besides long bike rides and walks and crazy weekend dancing, but once I saw a quote that stuck to my mind and is kinda making me want to start working out. It went something like this :”When I’m old I want to look back at my life and see that I tried to be the best ”me” possible”. Now this is a broad concept that can be applied to anything, but I saw it together with a ”look at my six pack” photo and it just made sense and definitely inspired me.
2. It is fun. It really is. I love playing with make-up and hair styles and create a certain look. Kind of like getting in a character and going on the stage. And there’s not much more to explain here, because FUN really explains it.
3. I think even for the most confident person or the one who just doesn’t care about looks there are days where you just want to be, look or sound differently. When you become too self-conscious, when even the smallest pimple on your forehead seems like a tragedy and something you have to get rid of. Those days when you fall back into the standard mind shaped by the societies principles.
@kidd, I understand sometimes why women want to wear makeup, but for me I dont notice much difference at least not with my girl friend. She likes it for whatever reasons, to feel better, hide blemishes, make her eyes “pop”, the typical I guess. But thank god she isnt someone that loads up on it because that is not attractive. Natural beauty is where its at. The problem is that women think using makeup will make them look like the girls on TV which is not true. Photoshop creates women that arent real, taking the best parts from different women and piecing them together. So for all the women out there use your makeup sparingly, if at all. You are beautiful just the way you are.
I wear eyeliner and mascara at most too.
I dislike make up and I hate covering my face with foundation and creams and all that stuff.
Some girls do have prettier faces than others but I think that being natural is the best. Loving how you look should not be related to some unnatural stuff that you apply
I don’t know I mean it’s okay to put some make up on when you have an event like a wedding or something but not every time I go out.
My best friend, on the other hand, says if it makes you look and feel prettier, why not?
There’s soo much estrogen in this thread. But seriously, I will never understand why some girls wear makeup; they’re so beautiful when they don’t but they still put on that mask for no real reason.
The real question is do girls enjoy having to put on and wear makeup? If yes than by all means go ahead and continue. But if not…. than why?
I hope that the girls of the world understand that if you all stopped wearing makeup one day you would effectively redefine the societal norms. We can’t force you to wear makeup, we’re not going to pass laws for it. So if you all stopped, we would just have to get used to it. And it’s not like we’re gonna stop talking to you (guys need the action; what the hell is a world without women?).
@egarim, “The real question is do girls enjoy having to put on and wear makeup? If yes than by all means go ahead and continue. But if not…. than why?”
It’s something I barely think about, its become routine. Social programming really really works doesn’t it? All you have to do is show some ladies pictures of gorgeous women with makeup on and they will spend their $$$ on it.
And most of them will even want designer makeup! Chanel, MAC, Clinique $$$
However, I must say that it IS enjoyable to put on… as an artist I like choosing different colors and seeing what matches and what looks nice. Its just another way of expressing yourself (like choosing an outfit, a car, a hairstyle, which color to paint your room, what music to put on a blank CD…)
I don’t feel I look much different when its on vs. off
@beardlike, Would you encourage girls who wear makeup to try going without? It’s a totally personal choice, I agree, but do you think a girl should feel comfortable the way she is? Should she try to be happy with the way she looks?
Very interesting thought, I have thought and over the years I have decided that there really is no point in wearing make up besides trying to attract others into thinking you have perfect skin. I do not have perfect skin, yet I have a boyfriend and he even prefers me not to wear make up. You must be comfortable in your own skin. Be true to who you are, I wear mascara but thats about it, and i have people tell me all the time that i am very pretty. Ever scine i stopped wearing make up I have felt just better about myself. :) It’s all just personal opinion!
I mentioned it briefly but I should’ve clarified, @kidd, my apologies-
I think it depends on the type of woman/girl a female is, but I think a person is best off being comfortable in their own skin to begin with and then should choose freely from there whether they want to wear it or not.
I personally think a girl should start without make up most of the day, keep it light and natural for work (or all day if they feel like it), and then go more intense for a night look.
I think THE most important thing, ever, is that a girl should feel comfortable in her own skin.
So to answer your question, yes. This is what I’ve done over the years after much downgrading and maturing with age. Some days I even go without make up entirely myself.
@kidd, I wear a light, natural foundation (my whole life I’ve always gotten red-faced, and it’s really annoying, it’s not just the cheeks but all of my face, and no other part of my body gets red, so I look like a walking tomato), occasionally some powder, light eyebrowliner (my brows are almost invisible, I’m that blonde), some brown eyeliner on my top lids and a brown/black mascara. Sometimes I drop the eyeliner and mascara. I usually wear makeup every day, sometimes in the weekend I drop foundation and powder. Without makeup I look tired, and my face looks red super easily. I didn’t start wearing makeup until I was 14. I was a happy tomboy growing up, and then puberty happened and I became insecure so I started using a LOT of makeup. I think I wanted to hide. But now it just makes me feel and look more awake. I make it look natural. And I use it because I like it. I think most people look better with very little makeup, or none.
@kidd, Most days I wear just foundation and mascara. I have to wear some type of foundation because of how oily my skin gets. I hate the feeling of having oil on my skin, I use the little oil absorbing sheets too. I’m totally comfortable going out without any make up on, but a lot of days I love to do big cat eyed eyeliner. It’s just. I think the big eyeliner actually makes my eyes look smaller and is less “attractive,” but i think it’s fucking fun to do, like putting on a fun outfit. The days I wear a lot of make up it’s definitely for myself, not to impress anyone else. And I think it’s actually becoming more culturally acceptable for guys to wear makeup (at least over in places like Japan, which we get a lotttt of our trends from), and I think that’s cool.
I think it’s good to use make up as a form of sellf-expression, but it shouldn’t be something that you depend on to feel more attractive.
@beardlike, I completely agree with your notion of being more “put together” in a professional setting. It’s the same thing as males getting manicures and waxing their brows. General care and attention to your body makes you look more professional.
@kidd, I’ve thought about this “make-up dilemma” for quite a while. Here are my thoughts.
For one, make-up is one of those bonding things…you learn how to apply make-up from your mother (usually) and you spend all sorts of time and fascination when you are younger putting make-up on yourself and friends. As you get older, you might have “girl’s nights” and/or “slumber parties” and have a sort of make-up party where everyone shares tips and tools.
As a social aspect I think it can be completely awesome (as mentioned above), as long as you don’t delve into the realm of …”Oh your eyes are too small, so you need to put white eye shadow on the inside corners of them so they appear bigger,” etc. The negative side of make-up is it has built into an industry that tells you that you are ugly and need to buy certain products so that you appear “normal,” an “easy breezy beautiful cover girl.” Now there are also all sorts of unhealthy chemicals in make-up as well. So it’s no longer about being social or being your best…it’s about unhealthy and damaging “standards.”
“Painting” ourselves is an ageless tradition. Think body paint on indigenous tribes, and charcoal lining on the eyes of ancient Egyptians. I believe it is an empowering experience, to change our skin into whatever we want. I think it’s important to maintain that we do it for ourselves, and not for others or ideologies set up by others.
As a woman today, I find make-up to be somewhat empowering. In today’s age it happens to be a very “feminine” tradition, something a person can use to emphasize their feminine traits, the subtleties and details that can be more apparent in a woman’s face. I think men can absolutely use make-up for this same idea, to highlight subtleties and details in their face. It’s not a bad thing to have both masculine and feminine sides, for either gender. In fact, I think it’s healthy.
Personally? I stick with eyeliner, mascara, concealer (for shine control and hiding some rogue pimples), and lip balm. If I go for a night out, I do the same thing except add a vibrant shade of red lipstick (my own ultimate token of femininity). :)
Yes, i use makeup and i love that! But only a few makeup, some eyeliner under the eyelids, a liptint and a little of eyeshadow, very discret makeup so.
Whatever people wear makeup or not, i respect their choices.
But it feels a little wweird when people put A LOT of makeup and when they remove it, we can’t recognize them xD. I think this type of makeup is “dangerous”, because woman can’t leave their home without their “mask” and also we don’t even know how this person looks without makeup…
I read some articles where Asian womens wear makeup and the “before-after” pictures are really shocking! >> http://www.omgsoysauce.com/14135/22-before-and-after-makeup-asian-girls/
They use a lot of thing like a lot of eyeliner around eyes, circle lenses to make their eyes bigger, a special method to make their nose looking taller, etc…
@vernalsoul, i totally agree about the winged eye liner hahah it is fun to do!
I rarely wear makeup now. I had a phase when i would do it every day but now im over it and the time it takes… I think i’m a lot more secure in myself and my appearance too now which is probably a factor. I do wear make up if i want to dress up or something for a special occasion or if i feel like it on the day but usually i’m out the door with my normal face haha. I’m really lucky to have relatively clear skin so i don’t need foundation or anything, although it does get oily which i have to keep in check during the day.
I think skin doesn’t need make up if you’re looking after it properly. Eat healthily, work out, and have a basic cleansing regime of some sort and all shall be fine and dandy.
Personally, I just wash my face with a cleanser in the shower each morning and moisturize with a mattifying SPF moisturizer once i get out; then i just wash with cold water at night. I used to use toner at night but i freaked out when i was reading the ingredients lists on things and i’m trying to cut back on all of those shop bought skin care stuff & shampoos. My friends and i have planned a day where we’re gonna make all these natural stuff hahaha shampoo, conditioner, face wash and deodorant. I’m looking forward to it!
On shaving, i usually forget to do it in the shower lol. If i shave it means that i’ve planned ahead to what i’m gonna wear that day, otherwise shaving doesn’t happen. I’ve heard that shaving your armpits + using deodorants containing parabens and aluminiums is strongly linked to the rise in breast cancer rates so yeah… I dont feel bad when i forget. I want to try sugaring this summer! I’m really bad at doing things that require forethought hahaha.
Sorry for the huge essay, I just kept thinking of more things to say on the subject!
Good post. Being female I have often wondered, Why do I feel the need to change my natural appearance in order to feel/be more attractive? What’s wrong with the way women naturally look? Why is it normal for women in my culture to wake up and paint their face every morning before leaving the house, while men just show their natural face? I have noticed big differences in the way people treat me when I am made up vs not.
I could get into shaving too, like why it is considered more attractive for females to shave their body hair? When really we are all just animals. Why try and hide it and remove stuff and cover stuff up?
@kidd, I do not wear makeup. Never have. I’m not to girly though but if I was, I still wouldn’t. Yeah, I still break out sometimes. My eyebrows could stand to be darker. I don’t see the point in wearing makeup though. To me, it’s like a bad habit. Like smoking. You have to pay for cigarettes and the time you spend smoking, you could be doing something else. Plus, I’m sure there is some research some where that can prove that makeup is bad for you. But I don’t mind my girly friends who do wear makeup. It makes them feel pretty..even though they would still look amazing without it. I also see it as a kind of mask. At the end of the day, you are still the same person under all the makeup.
I personally never wear make up (except for special occasions), but I’ve always liked playing around with different products and watching my mom curl her lashes. I think make up gives a sense that you care about your appearance, but too much make up can be a real shocker.
I’ve always wondered: Is make up unfair?
I think makeup can be really pretty on a girl. Ofcourse when there´s not alot of it and not when the carrier has bad taste.. But it has a wonderful way of enhancing caracter and beauty when used right. Personally, I think egyptians has done something good here.
@ARCANUS, My friend is the same way, haha. She gets really red in the face, so she likes to cover up.
@aleen, That’s a mind blowing link! I think Asian women are so beautiful… It’ just so weird to see them with and without make up like that.
@wombat86, Those are some damn good questions. Women have, more often than not throughout history, been valued for their looks. So when the styles change, I guess we feel a need to fit in in a physical way.
@teathyme, What do you mean by “unfair”? Is it not fair that we can just hide the way we really look?
@vernalsoul, “I think it’s good to use make up as a form of sellf-expression, but it shouldn’t be something that you depend on to feel more attractive.”
I’ve never really thought of it like this before, but you’re completely right. :) That’s a really good point, especially when it can be used in so many different ways.